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Old 01-05-2010, 06:39 PM
 
Location: Norfolk
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I just came from a forum where I posted an (apparently) unpopular opinion and got slammed into the dirt by other women. I don't get this. Is it not possible to disagree with others without turning it into a personal attack?

Is there not room in the world for different opinions? And why oh why, are women so downright mean to each other?

Why do women say things to virtual strangers over the internet that they would never in a million years say in person? Are we all *that* angry that we use the 'net as our outlet to attack and malign one another?

My thought is, you have NO idea what the poor soul on the other side of that computer screen in going through. You have no idea how hard their life may be. You don't know how many burdens they have in their real life.

What happened to grace and forbearance and kindness? Aren't women supposed to be the gentler sex? Aren't we supposed to have a nurturing gene?

Why are women so mean to other women???
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Old 01-05-2010, 07:16 PM
 
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I just came from a forum where I posted an (apparently) unpopular opinion and got slammed into the dirt by other women. I don't get this. Is it not possible to disagree with others without turning it into a personal attack?

Is there not room in the world for different opinions? And why oh why, are women so downright mean to each other?

Why do women say things to virtual strangers over the internet that they would never in a million years say in person? Are we all *that* angry that we use the 'net as our outlet to attack and malign one another?

My thought is, you have NO idea what the poor soul on the other side of that computer screen in going through. You have no idea how hard their life may be. You don't know how many burdens they have in their real life.

What happened to grace and forbearance and kindness? Aren't women supposed to be the gentler sex? Aren't we supposed to have a nurturing gene?

Why are women so mean to other women???
It's not gender specific really. Some people just can't stand to think they might be wrong. They don't know when to quit and will drag you in to the dirt with them if you let it happen.
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Old 01-05-2010, 07:17 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, TN
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Political forum?
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Old 01-05-2010, 07:26 PM
 
Location: Transition Island
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I just came from a forum where I posted an (apparently) unpopular opinion and got slammed into the dirt by other women. I don't get this. Is it not possible to disagree with others without turning it into a personal attack?

Is there not room in the world for different opinions? And why oh why, are women so downright mean to each other?

Why do women say things to virtual strangers over the internet that they would never in a million years say in person? Are we all *that* angry that we use the 'net as our outlet to attack and malign one another?

My thought is, you have NO idea what the poor soul on the other side of that computer screen in going through. You have no idea how hard their life may be. You don't know how many burdens they have in their real life.

What happened to grace and forbearance and kindness? Aren't women supposed to be the gentler sex? Aren't we supposed to have a nurturing gene?

Why are women so mean to other women???
Jealously, competition, insecurity, low self-esteem, desiring power, mental illnesses, PMS, menopause, personality disorders, and a host of other reasons. Remain kind, but do not allow her to disrespect you. Women need to learn how to behave like woman and not some evil tyrant or bully!! There are more girl bullies in school than there are males, so that alone speaks volumes. Watch out for those bullying behaviors in the workforce too. Something about the feminist movement put us on a different course and the nurturing aspect of our gender has been dissipating since then.
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Old 01-05-2010, 10:26 PM
 
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I just came from a forum where I posted an (apparently) unpopular opinion and got slammed into the dirt by other women. I don't get this. Is it not possible to disagree with others without turning it into a personal attack?

Is there not room in the world for different opinions? And why oh why, are women so downright mean to each other?

Why do women say things to virtual strangers over the internet that they would never in a million years say in person? Are we all *that* angry that we use the 'net as our outlet to attack and malign one another?

My thought is, you have NO idea what the poor soul on the other side of that computer screen in going through. You have no idea how hard their life may be. You don't know how many burdens they have in their real life.

What happened to grace and forbearance and kindness? Aren't women supposed to be the gentler sex? Aren't we supposed to have a nurturing gene?

Why are women so mean to other women???
Tune it out, it works for me. I can deal with my boss who should be on meds for his hostility and anger, so I let anyone else roll off. Just like downtown!
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Old 01-06-2010, 06:40 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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Jealously, competition, insecurity, low self-esteem, desiring power, mental illnesses, PMS, menopause, personality disorders, and a host of other reasons. Remain kind, but do not allow her to disrespect you. Women need to learn how to behave like woman and not some evil tyrant or bully!! There are more girl bullies in school than there are males, so that alone speaks volumes. Watch out for those bullying behaviors in the workforce too. Something about the feminist movement put us on a different course and the nurturing aspect of our gender has been dissipating since then.
Exactly right!
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Old 01-06-2010, 06:48 AM
 
Location: DC
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What happened to grace and forbearance and kindness? Aren't women supposed to be the gentler sex? Aren't we supposed to have a nurturing gene?

Why are women so mean to other women???
Didn't you go to middle school? Unfortunately, that stuff never ends for a lot of women. A lot of it is like someone else said: "jealously, competition, insecurity, low self-esteem, desiring power, mental illnesses, PMS, menopause, personality disorders, and a host of other reasons". No wonder a lot of guys think we're all psycho catty b*****s.
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Old 01-06-2010, 07:02 AM
 
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Well, it's not a gender thing.
You can see it on any forum/board. If you post something unpopular, you get personal attacks and nasty replies.

We can't always agree (nor should we) but there are ways of expressing your opinions without resorting to name calling or nasty comments 'to score a point.'

I was on another forum (not here) and 90% of the posters were women as this was a 'parent centered/mother centered board. A lot of these women were so BITTER and ANGRY against men!! Heck, I love men, it's 'idiots' I hate. All they did was spit hatred about 'this ex' or 'father of my baby' or 'sperm donor' (what a horrible, horrible 'name' for the father of your children!).

I could not post anything 'uplifting' because it would turn into "your husband will become a 'scumbag like my ex" rants...

If you want to see women rant, tell them you do not believe in breast feeding (for yourself) (another hot topic). You will be called all sorts of nasty names and told you made your child ill by not 'nursing.'

I like City Data out of any forum I have been on. Yeah, you cross paths with 'nasty people' once in awhile but 'who cares' as you don't know them in person and the majority of people here are nice, sane, and balanced.
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Old 01-06-2010, 08:46 AM
 
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It's not a gender thing, it's a human thing.

The fact somebody is an adult does not preclude them being rude, uncouth or disrespectful, life experience/wisdom notwithstanding.
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Old 01-06-2010, 09:31 AM
 
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Jealously, competition, insecurity, low self-esteem, desiring power, mental illnesses, PMS, menopause, personality disorders, and a host of other reasons. Remain kind, but do not allow her to disrespect you. Women need to learn how to behave like woman and not some evil tyrant or bully!! There are more girl bullies in school than there are males, so that alone speaks volumes. Watch out for those bullying behaviors in the workforce too. Something about the feminist movement put us on a different course and the nurturing aspect of our gender has been dissipating since then.

Your list in this post describes my former co-worker to a T. She was a tyrant. I think her being overweight and unattractive had a lot to do with it, hence she knew everything and could do everything better, and demeaned everyone else (chiefly me). She was always "throwing her weight around." Pun intended.
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