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Unread 01-06-2010, 06:24 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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Originally Posted by RyokoMariaUrameshi View Post
I am tired of being single and alone. What's wrong with that? Why is that so bad? So women are just better off in relationships and I'm one of them. Why am I wrong from wanting a man to love me? I can support myself financially, spend time by myself, create and fix things, but I still want that intimacy.
We human beings were designed and created to want connections with other people - so what you want is not "wrong".

What we are trying to tell you is that to get what you want, you have to grow up and focus on other things right now. When you get busy living your life and working on all you need to do to become a woman the guys will find you. It's like that old expression, a watched pot never boils. Quit waiting around watching the pot.
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Unread 01-06-2010, 06:25 PM
 
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What's the point of polygamy? It's not marriage if you are giving it out to more than one person and everyone.
The definition of marriage seems to very from couple to couple regardless of the number of partners. My point, polygamy is weird, but so are most everyone else.
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Unread 01-06-2010, 06:28 PM
 
Location: Up above the world so high!
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The definition of marriage seems to very from couple to couple regardless of the number of partners. My point, polygamy is weird, but so are most everyone else.
Jays, you're a nice young guy - tell our OP how attractive it is to you and your peers when a 19 year old girl only thinks about getting married and "having a man to take care of her". Go on, she needs to hear some truth.
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Unread 01-06-2010, 06:29 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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Jays, you're a nice young guy - tell our OP how attractive it is to you and your peers when a 19 year old girl only thinks about getting married and "having a man to take care of her". Go on, she needs to hear some truth.
Pretty good point there.
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Unread 01-06-2010, 06:31 PM
 
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The definition of marriage seems to very from couple to couple regardless of the number of partners. My point, polygamy is weird, but so are most everyone else.
But marriage is marriage, what are the other definitions? You marry somebody, you marry them. What other definitions are there? I know that might sound "uncultured" or something, but I'm not getting it on this one.
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Unread 01-06-2010, 06:34 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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-As long as consenting adults are okay with it, I think the government shouldn't dictate who should marry who.
I agree completely. The government should stay out of relationships.
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Unread 01-06-2010, 06:34 PM
 
Location: somewhere close to Tampa, but closer to the beach
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Im 34..and a little weird-ed out by this myself...19 is not when anyone should be thinking like this..Lots to learn before turning the Whirly bird loose...forget about all that serious stuff/destination 'n all...enjoy the scenery
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Unread 01-06-2010, 06:46 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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Wow, so many close minded people in this forum. I guess she hasn't read any threads before posting here.

The sad truth is, the reason many men cheat is because they don't want to be tied to one woman. There are people who are poly-relationships anyway and just don't know it.

There are a good number of men who ar married and keep a mistress. If men were allowed to, many would keep both the wife and the mistress. Some couples actually have this arrangement.

To each his/her own. If people want to share a man or woman, go for it!

I do agree with the OP on another point, being single blows.
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Unread 01-06-2010, 06:48 PM
 
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Jays, you're a nice young guy - tell our OP how attractive it is to you and your peers when a 19 year old girl only thinks about getting married and "having a man to take care of her". Go on, she needs to hear some truth.
I'm not saying anything.
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Unread 01-06-2010, 06:52 PM
 
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But marriage is marriage, what are the other definitions? You marry somebody, you marry them. What other definitions are there? I know that might sound "uncultured" or something, but I'm not getting it on this one.
No, it's not uncultured, that's not even what I'm talking about. I'm more talking about all these marriages where each spouse despises the other, the domestic violence, the ****ing other people behind their spouses back, the inequity of effort within the marriage, the one partner turning to a slob while the other values hygeine...and on and on and on.

I'm not sure we, as a society, are in any position to tell other's what marriage should and should not consist of.

Of course that is just my opinion which is often out of the norm.
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