I don't really get it... (dating, guys, attractiveness, kids)

[Jdawg8181]

Originally Posted by rubber_factory

What are your standards?

Those are conspicuously absent.

I would like to date someone comparable to me, doesn't necessarily need to own a home, but should be self-sufficient.

[Capt. Dan]

Pity party anyone?

[tamajane]

A lot of men, although they won't admit it, do not want an equal.

[seeniorita]

Originally Posted by Jdawg8181

That isn't true! There are soooo many people just like me who remain single for years. I have a friend who is 43 and similar to me. He couldn't find anyone either. Just b/c someone is single doesn't mean they are losers or that something is wrong with them.

The majority of men I meet are people who don't have what I want. The ones that i actually do like want something else that i don't have that i can;t control- excample, my age. A lot of men I meet want to date younger girls. I can't exactly get younger...

Good grief....you're only 28! Where are you looking for dates, high school? There are ALOT of men to choose from in your age range and above. I don't quite believe you are all the things you are throwing out here but I'm just suspicious like that. Perhaps you are coming off "conceited" or too much "I don't need a man to pay my bills" vibe. That can happen without you knowing. Perfect example:

"I am college-educated, owned my own home for 2 years, hard worker, smart...etc." You are trying to get a date, not a job or bank loan.

I don't know but if everything is looking good physically, then something is coming out of your mouth that is turning guys off. I doubt it has anything to do with your age.

[scarmig]

Originally Posted by Jdawg8181

Alright...like what?

Beats me. You know you better than I know you.

Maybe you *do* need to get out there and be a little bad. A little not-as-good on the surface. Have a little too much wine. Wear a dress a little more risque than the occasion calls for.

Maybe you should invest in a party of leather pants. Or some cowboy boots and tight jeans. Depends on your interests. Got cleavage? Ever show it off? A little black dress and some bright red lipstick... to lunch.

You don't really mention if your problem is getting noticed or keeping interest, so I'm assuming it's getting noticed in the first place.

Where are the guys you want to meet? Are you going there? Are you advertising to your intended audience?

[Jdawg8181]

Originally Posted by seeniorita

Good grief....you're only 28! Where are you looking for dates, high school? There are ALOT of men to choose from in your age range and above. I don't quite believe you are all the things you are throwing out here but I'm just suspicious like that. Perhaps you are coming off "conceited" or too much "I don't need a man to pay my bills" vibe. That can happen without you knowing. Perfect example:

"I am college-educated, owned my own home for 2 years, hard worker, smart...etc." You are trying to get a date, not a job or bank loan.

I don't know but if everything is looking good physically, then something is coming out of your mouth that is turning guys off. I doubt it has anything to do with your age.

True...but they have to be the whole package. My age means nothing if they are some lazy bum on the couch with no job living with mom & dad.

[Dorrans]

Originally Posted by seeniorita

Good grief....you're only 28! Where are you looking for dates, high school? There are ALOT of men to choose from in your age range and above. I don't quite believe you are all the things you are throwing out here but I'm just suspicious like that. Perhaps you are coming off "conceited" or too much "I don't need a man to pay my bills" vibe. That can happen without you knowing. Perfect example:

"I am college-educated, owned my own home for 2 years, hard worker, smart...etc." You are trying to get a date, not a job or bank loan.

I don't know but if everything is looking good physically, then something is coming out of your mouth that is turning guys off. I doubt it has anything to do with your age.

I agree. I fail to see how a woman of her status and character fail to find a decent suitable man. I'm sure there's something wrong with her that she isn't aware of, that makes guys run the other way.

I find it unbelievably mind-boggling that a young 28 year old with all that is being rejected by men, simple cos of her age. It's hard to believe. I'm 25, and I'd snap her up immediately [if she wants me, that is, lol].

[Jdawg8181]

Originally Posted by scarmig

Beats me. You know you better than I know you.

Maybe you *do* need to get out there and be a little bad. I little not-as-good on the surface.

Maybe you should invest in a party of leather pants. Or some cowboy boots and tight jeans. Depends on your interests. Got cleavage? Ever show it off? A little black dress and some bright red lipstick... to lunch.

You don't really mention if your problem is getting noticed or keeping interest, so I'm assuming it's getting noticed in the first place.

Where are the guys you want to meet? Are you going there? Are you advertising to your intended audience?

The problem is commitment.

[Jdawg8181]

Originally Posted by Dorrans

I agree. I fail to see how a woman of her status and character fail to find a decent suitable man. I'm sure there's something wrong with her that she isn't aware of, that makes guys run the other way.

I find it unbelievably mind-boggling that a young 28 year old with all that is being rejected by men, simple cos of her age. It's hard to believe. I'm 25, and I'd snap her up immediately [if she wants me, that is, lol].

The problem isn't getting noticed or getting dates. The problem is someone wanting a relationship with me.

[gwynedd1]

OK girls this may come as a surprise, but think of what you can do that I could not do with my grandpa. You may be good at talking politics, just like my grandpa. You may have a house, just like grandpa. I can have a good conversation like an intellectual sl*t with a 1000 people. However I only get one woman. If she does not give me a back rub, will grandpa?