I don't really get it... (how to, guy, attractive, advice)

[le roi]

Originally Posted by Dorrans

I agree. I fail to see how a woman of her status and character fail to find a decent suitable man. I'm sure there's something wrong with her that she isn't aware of, that makes guys run the other way.

I find it unbelievably mind-boggling that a young 28 year old with all that is being rejected by men, simple cos of her age. It's hard to believe. I'm 25, and I'd snap her up immediately [if she wants me, that is lol].

Do you look for women "of high status" ? I sure don't. I might even go so far to say that I avoid women of high status, perhaps subconsciously.

Classy behavior and attitude is important, but I could not care less about status.

[yellfire]

Originally Posted by Jdawg8181

That isn't true! There are soooo many people just like me who remain single for years. I have a friend who is 43 and similar to me. He couldn't find anyone either. Just b/c someone is single doesn't mean they are losers or that something is wrong with them.


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What's wrong with that guy? Sounds like a match made in heaven to me. If there are soooo many people just like you... start a club. I'm not trying to be a smarta$$ just pointing out that the answer to your problem may be right under your nose

[Dorrans]

Originally Posted by rubber_factory

Do you look for women "of high status" ? I sure don't. I might even go so far to say that I avoid women of high status, perhaps subconsciously.

Classy behavior and attitude is important, but I could not care less about status.

I don't necessarily go out and "look" for women of high status, but if I happen to meet one and click with her then I'd love it. If I knew a woman like the OP describes her as, then I'd most likely ask her out.

But I agree, above all, classy behaviour and attitude is hugely important. Status is not important for me.

[Jdawg8181]

Originally Posted by Dorrans

I don't necessarily go out and "look" for women of high status, but if I happen to meet one and click with her then I'd love it. If I knew a woman like the OP describes her as, then I'd most likely ask her out.

But I agree, above all, classy behaviour and attitude is hugely important. Status is not important for me.

I wouldn't consider myself "high status"...but i do well for my age. I'm not some high powered corporate exec. I have a moderately ranked job that I've been loyal to for 5 years now. I own a co-op, not a house, and it's small. I'm not some millionaire living in a mansion or anything.

[thebobs]

Jdawg, where are you looking for guys who want a commitment? If you're trying to find them in a bar or club, you're looking in the wrong area. Try to look for them in areas you are interested in. What hobbies do you have? What do you like to do? You have not told us any details of where you've tried looking or anything like that.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by yellfire

What's wrong with that guy? Sounds like a match made in heaven to me. If there are soooo many people just like you... start a club. I'm not trying to be a smarta$$ just pointing out that the answer to your problem may be right under your nose

I believe Jdawg mentioned him in another thread (he's 43, assuming he's the same guy). He doesn't want kids, she thinks she will.

[gwynedd1]

Originally Posted by rubber_factory

Do you look for women "of high status" ? I sure don't. I might even go so far to say that I avoid women of high status, perhaps subconsciously.

Classy behavior and attitude is important, but I could not care less about status.

Hi rubber_factory,

Its the trap of hypergamy. Women think their love market status has something to do with their career anywhere near the scale that women value it in men. Thus they overestimate their attractiveness and dine alone.

[Jdawg8181]

Originally Posted by thebobs

Jdawg, where are you looking for guys who want a commitment? If you're trying to find them in a bar or club, you're looking in the wrong area. Try to look for them in areas you are interested in. What hobbies do you have? What do you like to do? You have not told us any details of where you've tried looking or anything like that.

I'm not totally sold on the idea that you can't meet someone at a bar. My sister met her boyf at a bar, so did one of my friends. My parents also met a bar. Granted that was over 30 years ago, but still, it is not impossible.

I do do the bar thing sometimes, but a lot of times I try to meet people through friends. I tried online dating but everyone was ugly, fat, uneducated or unemployed. I understand the economy is horrible now. I am ok with someone who is unemployed b/c they got laid-off...but I am not ok with someone who is unemployed BY CHOICE. There is a difference.

Hobbies? I like a lot of things. I sing and follow a few local bands. There are always some regulars at the shows. I do volunteeing through a jewish organization sometimes but I find a lot of those guys are waaaay too religious for me. I also like to travel, work out, and photography. I also try to look for guys at the gym but generally they are not really looking to chat. They are sort of just looking to get in & out. I'm also not looking for some juicehead...someone who just takes good care of himself.

[picklejuice]

Originally Posted by Capt. Dan

Maybe a lady that "perfect" intimidates men???

I think Capt.Dan may have hit the nail on its head!

Many men would/might consider you out of their league.

Do you come across as approachable, or haughty?

[le roi]

Originally Posted by gwynedd1

Hi rubber_factory,

Its the trap of hypergamy. Women think there love market status has something to do with their career anywhere near the scale that women value it in men. Thus they overestimate their attractiveness and dine alone.

I agree, I have friends like this.

They would probably be a catch, if they were males.