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Old 11-10-2011, 08:45 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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They have to find areas to work on in terms of the relationship....the husband and wife has to find something to work on.... If not, thats why U.S has the highest divorce rate in the country. I mean you married that person for a reason.... so I suggest working through problems.
say what?
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Old 11-11-2011, 10:11 AM
 
Location: Falls Church, VA
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Would it have been good for you had one of your parents been pushed out of your life due to the divorce?
Yes it would have, because in the end, my mother abandoned us anyways. With a divorce years before, perhaps she would have found someone who truly made her happy, and the visitation, cutody and all that would have being worked out for the better of all parties involved; instead she grew bitter and resentful and took it out on her kids.
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Old 11-11-2011, 10:59 AM
 
Location: Houston, Tx
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Yes it would have, because in the end, my mother abandoned us anyways. With a divorce years before, perhaps she would have found someone who truly made her happy, and the visitation, cutody and all that would have being worked out for the better of all parties involved; instead she grew bitter and resentful and took it out on her kids.
I don't care how unhappy somebody is, there is no excuse to abondoned your family.

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I'm glad that my ex & I didn't have kids. I remember my parent's fighting like it was yesterday. I can remember my dad punching a hole in the wall right outside my bedroom door. Even when my mom married my stepdad I can recall his gun going off in the living room & me being too scared to go see what happaned. NO child should have to deal with that! I think it's unheathly to stay together just for the kids.

Just my two cents worth.
Yikes, did your mom stay with your stepdad? She should have left him asap. If I was married and had kids, even if I no longer loved my wife, I would try to make it work just untill the kids left the house. But you're right no child should have to deal with what you went through.
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Old 11-11-2011, 10:59 AM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Yes it would have, because in the end, my mother abandoned us anyways.
You have my sympathies.

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With a divorce years before, perhaps she would have found someone who truly made her happy, and the visitation, cutody and all that would have being worked out for the better of all parties involved; instead she grew bitter and resentful and took it out on her kids.

Again, that's bad, and I feel for you, but I will never do that to my kids.
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Old 11-11-2011, 02:28 PM
 
Location: Asheville, Nc
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Yikes, did your mom stay with your stepdad? She should have left him asap. If I was married and had kids, even if I no longer loved my wife, I would try to make it work just untill the kids left the house. But you're right no child should have to deal with what you went through.

Children shouldn't have to put up with thier parents fighting all the time. It's the child that suffers for it & staying together for the childrens sake is a copout. It's not doing the child one bit of good.

Yes, they did stay together. They were drinking A lot when I was young not that it's an excuse.
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Old 11-16-2011, 08:40 AM
 
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A friend of mine told me that he and his wife just plain hate each other, and just do not talk. They only say things to each other if it relates to the household or children. They make every effort to avoid each other as much as possible. It has got so bad that they just hate being in the same room as each other. But they have 4 kids and also financially a Divorce would be a disaster.

The other reason they do not get a divorce or separate is just the emotional, physical and logistical hassle of the whole thing. Selling the house in today's real-estate market, finding an apartment, telling friends and relatives, and making all the difficult visitation rules. It is terrible being together but even worse making the moves to separate. Can you relate?
The 4 kids are unfortunately going to pay the price in the long run, when they have trouble being in a loving relationship, and can't figure out why?....The best thing a man can do for his kids is to love and respect their mother...... as for your last question...can I relate?? NO!..My kids happiness and well-being would prove to be too strong for me to ignore, and would absolutely win out over the "emotional, physical and logistical hassle of moving out and finding a place where there is only peace and love in my house.
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Old 11-16-2011, 10:58 AM
 
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The 4 kids are unfortunately going to pay the price in the long run, when they have trouble being in a loving relationship, and can't figure out why?....The best thing a man can do for his kids is to love and respect their mother...... as for your last question...can I relate?? NO!..My kids happiness and well-being would prove to be too strong for me to ignore, and would absolutely win out over the "emotional, physical and logistical hassle of moving out and finding a place where there is only peace and love in my house.
What does this mean? Does this mean you would leave?
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Old 11-28-2011, 08:52 PM
 
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absolutely...why stay and put the kids through hell.
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Old 11-28-2011, 09:00 PM
 
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absolutely...why stay and put the kids through hell.
So you would leave your children? That too would be putting them through hell, no?
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Old 11-28-2011, 09:09 PM
 
Location: A good place
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In Love. There is a fine line between, I love you, and I just want to shoot my SO in the face with a bazooka.
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