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Well then I suggest that you stay in your dead marriage, hate your life and die early and miserable while teaching your kids a very important lesson about...um...something anyway. Make sure to post here every few months to complain.
Thank you for your compassion and understanding.
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That sure beats the alternative of negotiating an amicable separation with your wife, because that might require both effort and humility.
It might also require a spouse who isn't petty, vindictive, and out to "win." You're going on the supposition that "amicable separation" is possible.
Lucario, as I understand, your wife wants a divorce but you won't grant it, right? Why not go into mediation and use 50% joint physical custody as a bargaining chip to agree to separate?
When she says she wants a divorce, she says that in the hope that I'll just go away and be nothing to the kids except for an ATM and occasional disciplinarian. She doesn't really want to be in a situation where parenting responsibility and say so are 50/50. Since she had an absentee father and abusive stepfather and was basically the adult in her household (she was raised by an elderly grandmother because her mom was out chasing her hustler/junkie husband in the street), she doesn't think fathers are necessary.
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A mediator can draw up a settlement and custody agreement that you can both live with, and the court will accept--if you both agree and do not fall under the control of greedy divorce attorneys.
My divorce cost me exactly $1,900 in mediation and attorney fees. Assets were split 50/50 and everyone was satisfied.
One of my good friends parents is like this. They clearly do not love each other. His dad works overseas by preference but comes home every other month. When he does come home he sleeps in a separate room and does his own thing. I've never seen his parents be affectionate with each other, I only see them in a room together when it is a social function with the kids.
I also had neighbors growing up that were the same way. I NEVER saw the father even ride in the same car with the mother or even together as a family. It was either the mother was with the kids or the father was with them.
It might also require a spouse who isn't petty, vindictive, and out to "win." You're going on the supposition that "amicable separation" is possible.
I stand by my comment. You seem to have a gift for predicting the future and reading minds, so there is no need to even try to do the work to make yourself happy.
I stand by my comment. You seem to have a gift for predicting the future and reading minds, so there is no need to even try to do the work to make yourself happy.
As I said, it depends on what you mean by "share custody." Seeing the kids once a week or twice a month on weekends isn't really shared custody.
No. They all drive their kids insane by constantly switching houses. I would think the shortest period of time for doing that should be at least a week, but no... It's a few days here, a few days there.
My husband gets upset when he wants to have sex and i am not in the mood, he will insult me and ask me to live the
house with my son, this has been going on for the past 15 years, i try to have sex every other day or at least 3 or 4 days a week, he wants it every day or anytime he wants to, he smokes and come into bed this is a big problem i can't stand the scent the kids and me have athsma, ibegged him to bath before coming to bed but no he will not, this making me sick so because of this i have moved to another room, he does not want to talk to me, or wish me happy valentine, does my husband love me or he only wants me for sex?
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