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My parents. They are still married (46 years) and hate each other. However my mother is so sick with cancer, my dad really couldn't leave her now.
I would NEVER stay together "just for the kids". Trust me, all 3 of us knew they were miserable and in turn it made us miserable. It still does to this day..
The divorce rate world be 70% if the people who were only together for "the kids" and the people who just stay because their scared to start over called it quits
My husband gets upset when he wants to have sex and i am not in the mood, he will insult me and ask me to live the
house with my son, this has been going on for the past 15 years, i try to have sex every other day or at least 3 or 4 days a week, he wants it every day or anytime he wants to, he smokes and come into bed this is a big problem i can't stand the scent the kids and me have athsma, ibegged him to bath before coming to bed but no he will not, this making me sick so because of this i have moved to another room, he does not want to talk to me, or wish me happy valentine, does my husband love me or he only wants me for sex?
This is pretty much emotional abuse you're talking about, you need to address this! I am a husband of a wife who doesn't seem to want to have sex often. And by that, I mean we have sex maybe once every month or two.....not "only" 3-4 times per WEEK! That's actually ABOVE average, and not a problem whatsoever. However, if you aren't comfortable with this then it's too much no matter how many times you have sex, and that needs to be addressed first so you two can see "eye to eye". Your husband is from another planet if he expects sex daily, I'm sorry! We all want sex all the time (or seemingly so) but most of us (men) know that is not realistic and your loving wife is not a piece of meat!!
People who stay together "for the sake of the kids" are lying.
They stay together for the sake of themselves.
They do not want to go through the unpleasantness of dividing their goodies...they might lose something.
They do not want to go through the questions of friends and relatives and work mates, or suffer with an angry ex.
They do not want to have to get a smaller place to live, and have to cook dinner every night or get the kids to school themselves, or pay for the school fees.
Who can be bothered with any of that?
Much better to live a lie - much better for yourself, that is.
The children get to grow up in WWIII or worse, another Cold War. The children get to learn how to live a lie too, bite their tongue, ignore the obvious, compromise themselves, and that money and hypocrisy and convenience are more important than happiness and independance and bravery.
Sad all round. I grew up in just such a house which is probably why I have chosen to remain single.
People who stay together "for the sake of the kids" are lying.
They stay together for the sake of themselves.
They do not want to go through the unpleasantness of dividing their goodies...they might lose something.
They do not want to go through the questions of friends and relatives and work mates, or suffer with an angry ex.
They do not want to have to get a smaller place to live, and have to cook dinner every night or get the kids to school themselves, or pay for the school fees.
Who can be bothered with any of that?
Much better to live a lie - much better for yourself, that is.
The children get to grow up in WWIII or worse, another Cold War. The children get to learn how to live a lie too, bite their tongue, ignore the obvious, compromise themselves, and that money and hypocrisy and convenience are more important than happiness and independance and bravery.
I would rather live in a Westinghouse carton under the interstate than be in that situation. And staying together At All Costs just teaches your kids all the wrong things about relationships.
I thank everyone for their opinions and good advice i will arrange for counseling for the sake of the kids, if it does not work i will divorce my husband, it will be very difficult but it is the best thing for me and my beautiful and inocent children.
thank you all.
There are many couples that stay together, live and eat together, but never talk, never talk about the things they are interested in, they prefer to talk about this with their friends, lovers, colleagues, they become so far from each other, that at the end they have different lives, sleep in different rooms, but do not confront the situation, leaving it go on and on... Sometimes they say that they make this for children, but I think in this way they do more harm to children, as they see cold, indifferent, untrue relations of their parents as an example for them, a pattern to follow... All Inside: How many really happy couples do you know?
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