Dating on match.com (man, attracted, sexy, couple)

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by bedrock

I thought the idea of online dating was a better use of your time because you were contacting other people who were also looking for relationships.

False. The point of online dating is to expand the pool of people you can meet. In the offline world, there are limits to how many compatible matches you'll meet. Going online simply introduces you to people you might not normally meet.

Originally Posted by bedrock

The sad fact too is that there are very few truly attractive women using online dating sites, simply because such women get hit on all the time in the real world and so don't consinder online dating. (The 7,8,9 and 10s of the world). Of the few 7's that are online, the majority are divorced/single moms.

I'm open to dating women from a 6 and up with personality and common interests playing a major role in addition to appearance. But I'm not ready to spend a lot of time writing personal emails to women that I may not have even bothered approaching in the real world due to all the other options available at a bar or gallery opening or other social gathering.....

Sounds like you're hung up on looks. Some of us do look for more than that. I can find plenty of attractive people in my everyday life. But rarely do I find that I have a lot in common with them or that they have a winning personality. Maybe if you're someone who's really attractive, you might be convinced that you don't need to go online to meet someone. But one complaint I hear from a lot of attractive women is that while they get hit on a lot, most of the guys who hit on them aren't the kinds of guys they'd want to go out with. A big advantage of online dating is finding people with whom you have something in common.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by bedrock

I didn't post my comment to hurt anyone, although several of the above posters seemed to take it personally for some reason.......?.

If you mean me, then you missed the little grinning avatar beside my post. Anyone that has been on here for a while, knows that I swear by online dating. I've used it successfully for years. I don't take anything here personally.

Originally Posted by bedrock

The last time I tried this I was in my mid-late twenties.

If I were in my 20's, I rather doubt I'd be using it as I was quite the partier then. I had no problem meeting lots of guys, but I was in a very long (and stupid) relationship that lasted almost 10 years, on and off.

Originally Posted by bedrock

I may give it another shot. I guess we'll see if I have to keep sending out 25 emails for a single reply. That's the part that's frustrated me in the past. I think it's just rude by the women.

If you are sending out 25 emails that are thoughtfully and creatively written, and getting back nothing, then you need to change something.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by bedrock

I guess we'll see if I have to keep sending out 25 emails for a single reply. That's the part that's frustrated me in the past. I think it's just rude by the women.

Try to look at it from their perspective. You post a profile and get 20 replies a night. Are you really going to take the time to respond to every one of them? You may think it's rude that they don't reply. But I'm sure they think it's equally rude that a guy emails them when he's clearly not a good match for what she's looking for or didn't take the time to compose a thoughtful message.

[cdubs3201]

I experience the same thing and I've been with match 6 months, I'm 26 years old in downtown Chicago. I almost always say something about their profile, and I just ask quesitons and try to spark friendly conversation. I would say I get maybe 5 responses for every 50 emails I send out. I do have the "pay to see if the email made it" feature and I'd say 90% of the emails I send are read, but I also notice a lot of them don't even view my profile.

EP helped me change my profile a little bit last month, but even he will agree it didn't need THAT much tweaking and my pictures were fine. (EP please comment).

I guess I get the feeling I'm not that attractive (I know I'm not ugly) but women in Chicago are looking for a brad pitt, and I'm not him. I've met my share of women, I'd say only 2 were real dating material, the others seemed a little weird on the date or they were much heavier in person than in their picture (this happens a lot btw).

Here's my beef with people who say it's so easy to just write an email and mention something in their profile. I'd say 35% of the women's profiles I read have nothing interesting to say. It's all cliche, and I find myself not finding anything to ask them about in their profile, because they're so bland/boring that there's nothing to start a conversation about.

[cdubs3201]

My display of the typical female profile:

Hi, I've only been in Chicago x amount of years and I love it, woohoo! I went to (big ten school nearby) and ended up in the Chi, GO (whatever big team team I mentioned) I take advantage of what life has to offer. I love to laugh. Friends and family are important to me. I like to go out on the town but I also like to snuggle on the couch once in a while. I love to travel, I've been to x place, and want to travel to x place. I'm looking for someone that is intelligent, funny, and down to earth. Oh and being able to hold good conversation is key!



---that's literally every female's profile in a nutshell. Unless I went to her college, or traveled to where she did (which I have never left the US), I have nothing to talk about with her.

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by cdubs3201

My display of the typical female profile:

Hi, I've only been in Chicago x amount of years and I love it, woohoo! I went to (big ten school nearby) and ended up in the Chi, GO (whatever big team team I mentioned) I take advantage of what life has to offer. I love to laugh. Friends and family are important to me. I like to go out on the town but I also like to snuggle on the couch once in a while. I love to travel, I've been to x place, and want to travel to x place. I'm looking for someone that is intelligent, funny, and down to earth. Oh and being able to hold good conversation is key!



---that's literally every female's profile in a nutshell. Unless I went to her college, or traveled to where she did (which I have never left the US), I have nothing to talk about with her.

LOL Yeah that is very similar to most of the men as well. Really, people are just not creative, generally, are they?

So, why do you feel that you need to have traveled to the same place? Why can't you ask about where she has been? Ask about her college experience? Where she wants to go but hasn't been yet? What is her schedule like? What is her favorite movie? Egads man. No wonder you don't get a response. There are endless things to talk about. You need to practice!!!

[DavieJ89]

Originally Posted by GT500

Hello everyone,

I've tried match for about a year now. Last few months, I have no luck whatsoever on it. I sent about 50 messages and I get no responses back. Has anyone else experienced that problem?

This is why I dont throw away $29.99 a month for online dating services

Women are cold hearted betches who tell you to message them in their profiles but don't respond when you send them one. They just laugh and delete it

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by DavieJ89

This is why I dont throw away $29.99 a month for online dating services

Women are cold hearted betches who tell you to message them in their profiles but don't respond when you send them one. They just laugh and delete it

You'd probably be better off if you lightened up a bit on calling women cold hearted betches.

I'd just makes you look like you're screaming. SOMEONE BROKE MY HEART.

This is coming from a much older guy than you.

[Ep-]

Originally Posted by cdubs3201

My display of the typical female profile:

Hi, I've only been in Chicago x amount of years and I love it, woohoo! I went to (big ten school nearby) and ended up in the Chi, GO (whatever big team team I mentioned) I take advantage of what life has to offer. I love to laugh. Friends and family are important to me. I like to go out on the town but I also like to snuggle on the couch once in a while. I love to travel, I've been to x place, and want to travel to x place. I'm looking for someone that is intelligent, funny, and down to earth. Oh and being able to hold good conversation is key!



---that's literally every female's profile in a nutshell. Unless I went to her college, or traveled to where she did (which I have never left the US), I have nothing to talk about with her.

heh that's kind of why im getting bored of online dating myself. most women have profiles that read the same - "IM LAID BACK. I LIKE GOING OUT AND STAYING IN. <INSERT 2 MORE SENTENCES ABOUT HOW I LIKE LAUGHING AND HAVING A GOOD TIME HERE>" (if you're not outside or inside where you at? who hates fun??? durrrrrr). girls get away with it because they have boobs and there are 10 times more guys on these sites then women

i normally pick something out of their profile, even something generic, then make a sarcastic/playful joke about it. seems to work. the only problem is the utterly generic and boring profile girls usually end up being just htat in real life

and yeah, if you lightened up the tone of your profile a bit like i reommended it wasnt bad. i dont know much about doods but you didnt strike me as a bad looking dood. im just an average looking guy myself.

[Mathguy]

Originally Posted by DavieJ89

This is why I dont throw away $29.99 a month for online dating services

Women are cold hearted betches who tell you to message them in their profiles but don't respond when you send them one. They just laugh and delete it

1. Plenty of Fish is free.
2. Many women when they DO write back then get a couple jerks that give them a lot of grief. So many do NOT message back. (Also, some of these gals are getting 50+ messages a week and just dont have the time to write everyone back.)