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I have been involved with my girl friend going on 3 hard yrs. She has 3 boys ages 12, 13 & 14, with all understanding she is a great mom to her children. She's an average financially struggling mom working Monday thru Friday, but when her kids ask for something she try hard to provide and rarely tells them no and means it. It hurts my feelings as a man watching all three of them disrespect her no matter where we are.. Example = she ask them to please be quite, there reply is no you be quite, they get mad and call her stupid and other names, she sits there quietly like she didn't hear it, I can feel her embarrassment . When I try talking to them, they talk back in a rudely manner as though it doesn't matter because mom's going to protect them, which she does. Which leads to us getting into a disagreement. We went to the store the 12 yr old ask me for something that i said no too, he got angry called me stupid and stormed out the store throwing a fit , i looked at his mom who said nothing to him or me and asked are you going too not say anything, ... her reply was that's between you and him. Well i want mention how i wanted to handle it. But he's not my child and that i try never forgetting. She's always speaking of us getting married, but i keep making up reason why i'am not ready too marry her, because i don't how to tell her that i can't imagine myself coming home everyday to kids that are allowed to act in such manner . (with no respect toward me are herself). ???? Any Advise ...Please I Will Be Grateful.
As a special ed teacher with extensive experience with extreme behavioral disorders, the presence of an "unruly" child wouldn't intimidate me. That said, I wouldn't get involved with a person with kids unless our discipline and childrearing philosophies were compatible.
I have been involved with my girl friend going on 3 hard yrs. She has 3 boys ages 12, 13 & 14, with all understanding she is a great mom to her children. She's an average financially struggling mom working Monday thru Friday, but when her kids ask for something she try hard to provide and rarely tells them no and means it. It hurts my feelings as a man watching all three of them disrespect her no matter where we are.. Example = she ask them to please be quite, there reply is no you be quite, they get mad and call her stupid and other names, she sits there quietly like she didn't hear it, I can feel her embarrassment . When I try talking to them, they talk back in a rudely manner as though it doesn't matter because mom's going to protect them, which she does. Which leads to us getting into a disagreement. We went to the store the 12 yr old ask me for something that i said no too, he got angry called me stupid and stormed out the store throwing a fit , i looked at his mom who said nothing to him or me and asked are you going too not say anything, ... her reply was that's between you and him. Well i want mention how i wanted to handle it. But he's not my child and that i try never forgetting. She's always speaking of us getting married, but i keep making up reason why i'am not ready too marry her, because i don't how to tell her that i can't imagine myself coming home everyday to kids that are allowed to act in such manner . (with no respect toward me are herself). ???? Any Advise ...Please I Will Be Grateful.
Stop making up reasons, IMO...it's not helping anything.
Stop making up reasons, IMO...it's not helping anything.
You can tell he's never raised sons. If my GF's sons did that I would have no problem standing in their face and letting them know how the world really works.
Bluewater you are not ready to marry this lady and be the father to 3 boys. They will eat you alive.
You do need to grow a pair, be a man and a good example. If they Dis your GF you need to lay the law down on how you want them to treat their mother and your GF.
At least around you they should show respect and behave properly.
I won't date someone with a bratty child - it means they haven't really cared that much about their kid to parent them. I can pretty much get through to any kid, but I would view the parent as the real problem.
I won't date someone with a bratty child - it means they haven't really cared that much about their kid to parent them. I can pretty much get through to any kid, but I would view the parent as the real problem.
Dating someone with children is difficult: Are you allowed to discipline them? Are you co-parents?
There's inherently a power-imbalance in a relationship like that and a lack of communication exacerbates that.
I would recommend to anyone who enters in to that to lay out boundaries very carefully early on - With both kids and with the new person. Children will necessarily act out - Jealousy and confusion will necessarily be an issue. The new person cannot be the 'bad guy' in this situation as it will simply cause resentment in the children, who will blame the new person no matter what choices they made.
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