Please don't let me turn into... (girlfriend, men, sex, personality)

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Tropical Trouble

LOL. Well, my "new attitude" for 2010 is to not take dating too seriously. I'm about to go send my first e-mail response to a non-wow, but seemingly decent guy who e-mailed me yesterday (yes Sierra, he's in the Army) and see how it goes.

I'll bite my fingers for a change.

I did "wink" back at a couple guys who winked at me first about a week ago, but neither of them responded after that. I guess they probably winked at about 100 girls on the site and are slowly working their way through the pile of responses

The joy of winking... I was kinda thinking of exploring the sea of trouble last year, but then things happened and the idea was put on indefinite hold. It might've been God's way of saving me from myself.

Originally Posted by Antlered Chamataka

Will I even make that statement if I were single??

You're right. I thought that statement felt like a trap. So you're newly taken, huh? Congrats! I guess...

[Lost&Found]

Oh dating ..... It's such a hassle choosing an outfit, grooming yourself, staying on top of your nerves. By the time you meet the fellow you're exhausted. I suppose some people enjoy this kerfuffle. Not me.

I wouldn't bother going out unless I had hope. It's alright browsing the dating aisles without passing through the checkout with a man in your trolley. I like your attitude. It's better than one where you hear the person whining, "But if I don't go out with these men, then I'll probably end up alone for the rest of my life". Resist the desperation!

By the way, do you really feel tragic about staying home in the evenings or are you just being comically dramatic? If you enjoy your own company and being comfortable at home, then I say put on your slippers and relax. It's OK to stay indoors alone at night.

[si33]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Thank your lucky stars you barely made it out of Gemini, crabbie, as they have some well deserved rep among the ladies!

Yes..LOL..I am glad..Or at least that that side of the brain isn't in control..im just glad Aries found a home in my Mars..

[Tropical Trouble]

Originally Posted by Lost&Found

Oh dating ..... It's such a hassle choosing an outfit, grooming yourself, staying on top of your nerves. By the time you meet the fellow you're exhausted. I suppose some people enjoy this kerfuffle. Not me.

I wouldn't bother going out unless I had hope. It's alright browsing the dating aisles without passing through the checkout with a man in your trolley. I like your attitude. It's better than one where you hear the person whining, "But if I don't go out with these men, then I'll probably end up alone for the rest of my life". Resist the desperation!

By the way, do you really feel tragic about staying home in the evenings or are you just being comically dramatic? If you enjoy your own company and being comfortable at home, then I say put on your slippers and relax. It's OK to stay indoors alone at night.

LOL at the trolley comment. Guess I should be brushing up on my "Australian" before my trip later this year.

No, I enjoy my evenings at home - just a bit of humor that the regulars on the board will understand. Watching TV and Sports is a great way to spend an evening

[si33]

Originally Posted by Tropical Trouble

LOL at the trolley comment. Guess I should be brushing up on my "Australian" before my trip later this year.

No, I enjoy my evenings at home - just a bit of humor that the regulars on the board will understand. Watching TV and Sports is a great way to spend an evening

Yep, sure is...Popcorn?, Roxxxy LOL

[wanneroo]

Originally Posted by Lost&Found

Oh dating ..... It's such a hassle choosing an outfit, grooming yourself, staying on top of your nerves. By the time you meet the fellow you're exhausted. I suppose some people enjoy this kerfuffle. Not me.

I wouldn't bother going out unless I had hope. It's alright browsing the dating aisles without passing through the checkout with a man in your trolley. I like your attitude. It's better than one where you hear the person whining, "But if I don't go out with these men, then I'll probably end up alone for the rest of my life". Resist the desperation!

By the way, do you really feel tragic about staying home in the evenings or are you just being comically dramatic? If you enjoy your own company and being comfortable at home, then I say put on your slippers and relax. It's OK to stay indoors alone at night.

I can think of a 1000 better things to do then go on a bad date with some lame woman I have no interest in.

Like maybe going to Wal Mart and comparing toothpaste brands.

One thing I started to do is never cave to what other people think you should do or whatever. If it's something I don't want to do then I don't do it. If it doesn't feel comfortable to me then I don't do it.

[tijlover]

I'm not sure if your indecision is a result of the contents of the emails or the Profile photo's.

If it's concerning photo's, think hard! Before online dating, did you meet someone long ago that you didn't find attractive, but he wowed you in some other way? Perhaps you met at a bar, you had had a couple drinks, the lights were dimmed, but there was this unmistakable chemistry.

Now think: If this same man had posted his photo online today, how would you have responded?

If all 4 whom I had had relationships with, before on line dating, had posted their photo's today I would have rejected all 4 of them. Just based on looks.

I've gone periods of up to a year before I ventured to run another ad on Craiglist to find someone, after extremely disappointing meetings, and, I do not respond to those with photo's, only printed descriptions.

Well, a couple weeks ago, I got the bug again, put an ad in, and just two days ago, WOW! What a surprise! I even had an excuse at the ready to abort the meeting if I was too disappointed, but it wasn't necessary.

And a very attractive silver fox at that! Gee whiz! I'm heading for 60 in April, have always been attracted to silver foxes, and I know any number of people reach older age, and their attraction reverses.

This shall be interesting! At 70, 80, will I still be chasing down silver foxes?

[WyoNewk]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

Dang, now you're doing it to me! I was just getting on here to type this EXACT thing

Tropical, just look at these outings as opportunities to make a new friend or two - don't go into it like you are looking for romance and it will all be a much better experience

Exactly!

After the death of my late wife, I dated a few women who I wouldn't/couldn't have considered as viable romantic partners. I didn't always make that too clear to them, which was a minor mistake, but for the most part I just made some new friends.

I figured dinner with a new friend is better than dinner alone. I had different friends for different occasions. All were good for dining in or out, but one liked movies, another nature photography, another casinos. One was, like me, a former newspaper editor, so we had a lot in common to talk about. It beat being alone all the time, and I enjoyed female companionship even if kept strictly platonic.

(I wrote this last night and found it on my desktop this morning, unposted. Oops....)

[Mathguy]

Originally Posted by Tropical Trouble

I finally got back on a couple online dating sites after a break-up three months ago, and so far haven't been out on any dates.

However, this isn't because guys haven't contacted me. In fact, I probably get about two or three e-mails or "winks and/or icebreakers" every day. The problem is none of the guys who've contacted me really "wow" me.

I'm wondering though, what's worse? Going out on a date that most likely won't end up in romance, or staying home watching TV and posting on C-D?

So, I guess I'm looking for a bit of encouragement to just get out there and go on a few dates with guys, even if they're not "all that". I might end up at least making a new friend or two, yes?

I just hate the thought of leading anyone on, or wasting someone's time.

Dating sucks!

1) Some guys look better in person than in pictures. (I got told this by my last 2 gf's when they met me.)
2) Some people's qualities are just going to take a while to show through.
3) The vast majority of guys are going to be WRONG for you or vice-versa. It does require some effort and sifting.
4) Are you doing any contacting? I got about a 10-20% success rate when I was doing the contacting and of course then you are picking out the people that you do feel match you I think you get better results.

I feel that if you aren't doing some of your own contacting (and of course you will be rejected) then you aren't being serious enough.

[sophialee]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Thank your lucky stars you barely made it out of Gemini, crabbie, as they have some well deserved rep among the ladies!

My birthday is June 20th! LOL