Do most men expect us to be good cooks? (spouses, couples, clothes)

[NotARedneck]

Expectations is such a woman's thing. At best, men have hope and most of them have lost that.

If you don't poison his parents, its probably okay.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by Sunflower_lol

This is what I seen on many forums or heard on TV shows as one of their top lists of traits in woman for either a potential g/f or wife. Many were stating how good it makes them feel when their girl cooks even it's not excellent, but they enjoy being served everyday.

I never really liked the kitchen nor care about taking baking classes or learning new recipes. The only times I ever made something it was when my mother wasn't available and I had to boil some spaghetti before heading to work or frying something fast for my younger brother (when being home alone mainly). I only do the basic stuff such as boiling water for either soup, spaghetti, macaroons, etc, rice, or frying as survival (if I didn't have enough money to buy cakes or Chinese nor call for delivery) but in terms of making someone food everyday or more complicated dishes, no I leave that to my mother... I also have no patience for cooking for many people esp. in family reunions.

Yes.

We also expect you not to dump us on Christmas.

[Sunflower_lol]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Yes.

We also expect you not to dump us on Christmas.

Right but he still calls and talks to me. Wow, he's not one bit mad at me about it. In fact we talked yesterday and today for more than 30 minutes (he doesn't mind buying calling cards).

[beachmel]

Originally Posted by fleetiebelle

Do people still have to take Home Ec in high school, or has that been cut? Out of everything, I think Home Ec and Shop were almost the most useful classes I took.

Unfortunately, many school do not have Home Ec classes anymore...no funding. At our school, they actually had something called "Foods" class for a couple of years ago, but even the funding for that class was cut. My children took an interest in cooking when they were quite small. I encouraged that interest and to this day, they are perfectly capable of pulling out one of my recipes and cooking or baking goodies. The secret, IMHO, is to grab the opportunity when the kids do show interest. Sure they make a horrid mess at first, but eventually, they get the hang of it. It gives them a sense of accomplishment....and a feeling of security...knowing that even when it looks like there's "nothing to eat"...there's something to eat. They just have to do a little work to get it.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by Sunflower_lol

Right but he still calls and talks to me. Wow, he's not one bit mad at me about it. In fact we talked yesterday and today for more than 30 minutes (he doesn't mind buying calling cards).

I once had a girl dump me and I was relieved.


Infer what you will.

[beachmel]

Originally Posted by Rance

This is right up my alley. I love to cook. My wife cooks, and is pretty darn good at what she does...but I think she'd rather do the dishes after I cooked than visa versa. I don't mind at all. And only a dork of a man would expect his wife to have dinner sitting on the table when he walks in the door. The same slob probably wouldn't even give her a hug, look her in the eye, and thank her for doing so. No woman deserves that. And very few men deserve to be treated in such a manner.

That may be true for some men, especially if they hadn't worked all day and the wife had. If a man is working all day and his wife is at home, I think she should have his dinner ready for him. It's a simple matter of consideration. If he is at home and she is working, the man should be the one making sure dinner is ready when she gets home. These rules should especially apply when there are children in the home. A working spouse shouldn't get home and have to listen to kids whining and screaming that they're hungry when the working parent gets home. I mean, if the S.O. is working a swing shift or graveyard shift, obviously dinner should be covered and in the fridge or something....but I think it's inconsiderate to not have a meal ready if you're the one home. Course...that's just me.

[elnina]

Originally Posted by NotARedneck

Expectations is such a woman's thing. At best, men have hope and most of them have lost that.

If you don't poison his parents, its probably okay.

Lol.... You have it right to the point!!

[Kenneth70]

I have never expected a woman to be a good cook; all my life I have seen them to be bad cooks. When I stayed the night at many a babysitter's, I was often the last person sitting at the dinner table. My mom either burned everything, or served portions that would only make an infant full. I only trust my own cooking.

[Chowhound]

Yeah, we do, and did I mention we don't like to be dumped on Christmas.

[Sunflower_lol]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Yeah, we do, and did I mention we don't like to be dumped on Christmas.

Yes you already did to which I replied: He still calls me and has no problems being my friend.