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I never knew one cupcake could raise so much debate and insight
A debate over baked goods and their implication in the bigger scheme of things...
If any "man" was offended or stand-offish because I brought him a cupcake that I happened to make and thought he might enjoy, after that incident I wouldn't put one more minute of effort into talking to him, saying hello, thinking about him. Big Red Flag.
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Last edited by cricket_factor; 01-19-2010 at 10:21 AM..
Is bringing a guy on the 2nd date a homemade cupcake too soon?
OMG Naomi it is waaaaay too soon to do that. Guys all know that if a girl gives us cupcakes on the second date that soon thereafter she'll be talking baby and marriage. In that order. Dont do it, that is just waaaaaaay overboard and will likely scare the guy off.
Im just kidding. Nothing wrong with cupcakes, just dont write anything cheesy on them. Actually, just be sure NOT TO WRITE ANYTHING on it. Just give him a cupcake, no messages spelled out in icing, not even a "thank you" on it. Just give him the cupcake.
If you didn't make them FOR him, I don't think it's a big deal. I would just make it clear to him, but in a casual way, that you did not make them especially for him - I'd say something like "Oh I made some cupcakes for myself, would you like one?"
I agree with this approach...though I'd probably say something more along the lines of "I made this huge batch of cupcakes and I can't eat them all...have a couple so I don't end up tossing them in the trash."
I agree with this approach...though I'd probably say something more along the lines of "I made this huge batch of cupcakes and I can't eat them all...have a couple so I don't end up tossing them in the trash."
That's my rational, that's why I suggested more than 1. It shows thoughtfulness, but yet not too much thought. If you bring just one, it's kind of like "I made this cupcake just for you."
That's my rational, that's why I suggested more than 1. It shows thoughtfulness, but yet not too much thought. If you bring just one, it's kind of like "I made this cupcake just for you."
And what's wrong with that? I'm not a mushy person that needs notes in my lunch to feel special, but if somebody made me a cupcake I'd think highly of it.
Hedging your bet against rejection kind of makes it feel lame. "Oh jeez thanks for the cupcake you were just gonna chuck anyways. If you have some old newspapers laying around at home, can I read those, as well?"
I say put yourself out there. If a guy is going to think you are a stalker for making a cup cake, find a new guy.
And what's wrong with that? I'm not a mushy person that needs notes in my lunch to feel special, but if somebody made me a cupcake I'd think highly of it.
Hedging your bet against rejection kind of makes it feel lame. "Oh jeez thanks for the cupcake you were just gonna chuck anyways. If you have some old newspapers laying around at home, can I read those, as well?"
I say put yourself out there. If a guy is going to think you are a stalker for making a cup cake, find a new guy.
That's why I didn't bold the part about the cupcakes going into the trash because than that takes away from the thoughtfulness. My approach would be "I made some cupcakes last night and thought you might like some" and I would leave it at that. And I would most definitely bring 4-6, not just one.
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