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Old 01-19-2010, 02:06 AM
 
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Someone else's thread inspired me to post this...I've asked others this question in the past but am curious what everyone's opinion here would be. It's a story that makes me chuckle

So here's the background - I had been dating this guy for like 6 or 8 months, I spent at least one night per week at his house. I happened to notice that the nightlight in his bathroom was burned out and mentioned it to him the next morning. He said he didn't have any more bulbs. So the next week when I stayed over I brought a bulb because I had lots of extras at home.

I swear on my grandmother's grave, this is what happened:
Him: Whoa, wait a minute...this is all moving REALLY fast.
Me: [with a dumbfounded look on my face] Huh? I brought you a bulb for your nightlight.
Him: I know, but that's just moving a little too fast for me.
Me: Seriously? A bulb? It's not like I brought a suitcase full of stuff to move in.
Him: But still...this is different.
Me: How? I was being nice by bringing you a bulb.
Him: I know, and I really appreciate it. But it's still moving too fast.
Me: Okay then.

More background - this happened less than two months after he sent me flowers at work for no reason (and was the third time since we had been dating that he had done so) and about one month after he surprised me by showing up at the airport after I was gone for two weeks...just so he could say hi and welcome me home. He paid for probably 75% of the stuff when we went out (I tried to do it more, but he was terribly old-fashioned). He really did many thoughtful things since we had started dating.

So my question is - was bringing him a bulb worth a few cents really that out of line after the nice things he had done for me? Am I crazy for thinking HE'S crazy for freaking out about a stinking light bulb?

Feel free to share your similar stories, too
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Old 01-19-2010, 03:03 AM
 
Location: Las Vegas
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A light bulb? Wow!

Now if you'd bought him a porn video or a French Tickler, I'd understand.

But a light bulb?

Thank GOD you didn't bring him a cupcake!

Last edited by yellowsnow; 01-19-2010 at 03:04 AM.. Reason: added cupcake
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Old 01-19-2010, 04:02 AM
 
Location: Nowhere
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LOL.. yeah, the cupcake would've sent him reeling!

Uhm.. no, the guy sounds a bit fruity.

Hmm.. you want a story about a thoughtful gesture? ..this one went a long way, lol.

Once upon a time, I had this guy friend who was smart and witty and very laid back. I wasn't attracted to him at all but I loved spending time with him. Anyways, one weekend I came over to his place and while it was still very early ..he had already left. We had been spending a lot of time together so I was a little put out. I shouldn't have been but I was.. anyways, I didn't want to go back to my place because my room mate was driving me crazy so after some time I crashed on his couch. He came in really late, grinning from ear to ear. He had just had the best time in a very, very long time. I'm jealous.. not only was I not included in this excellent experience but he hadn't even given me a second thought. But.. you know, I realize I'm being petty and I think he's great so it's all swept under the rug pretty quickly.
Next weekend comes.. same thing happens! I'm thinking.. what the hell?! Maybe I need to find something else to do with my spare time, lol. Anyways, the next time I talk to him I get the full scoop. What's happened is that he's just met this guy. This GREAT guy who is also from New York so they share a similar background. Blah. Blah. Blah. I'm jealous as hell at this point ..I've been left out but I'm thinking that if my friend is so won over then I'm going to like this guy, too. So, I arrange to be there the next time Mr. Fantabulous shows up. Well, that was the last time anyone saw me or Mr. Great for a couple weeks ..kid you not, lol. But let me back up.. the night after I'm included in this group, my friend and I go out for an early lunch. We grab some pizza and since I know we're stopping by Mr. Great's place.. I decide to pick up a couple slices for him and grab some of those spicy flakes, just in case. Well, Mr. Fantabulous is hungry and very much appreciated and even prefers spicy flakes on his pizza ..or so the story goes. The pizza and/or flakes lead to 2 weeks of one on one time. Those two weeks turned into six years, lol. So, yeah.. I'm a believer.
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Old 01-19-2010, 04:20 AM
 
Location: Melbourne, Victoria, Australia, The World!
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Thank goodness it doesn't look like you have let his nutty reaction negatively affect your self-esteem.

Do you communicate much? Do you talk about your relationship and where it may or may not be going?

I don't like the sound of this chap. Whilst certain control freak mannerisms can be hidden under quaint notions of being an old-fashioned gent, this guy has also demonstrated gross insensitivity regarding your feelings. He has irrationally attacked you for threatening his commitment phobic universe.

I hope you see the light and return this man to his rightful place, alone and in the dark. Good luck to you and good riddance to him!
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Old 01-19-2010, 05:33 AM
 
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Flowers are personal, but a lightbulb crosses the line into home improvement. Don't get too comfortable in his home. WHOA!!! LOL!!!
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Old 01-19-2010, 05:53 AM
 
Location: southwest TN
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Lost & Found says it all for me.
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Old 01-19-2010, 05:56 AM
 
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I hope you see the light and return this man to his rightful place, alone and in the dark. Good luck to you and good riddance to him!
And make sure you unscrew and take that lightbulb with you when you leave.
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Old 01-19-2010, 05:56 AM
 
Location: New England
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His reaction doesn't make any sense to me at all. It is only a lightbulb. It's not like your are bringing a suitcase full of clothes.
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Old 01-19-2010, 06:13 AM
 
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Flowers are personal, but a lightbulb crosses the line into home improvement. Don't get too comfortable in his home. WHOA!!! LOL!!!
I think this may have something to do with . . . "a man's home is his castle" and all that You changing the lightbulb has struck him as just a little too "involved" in his castle lair maintenance. In other words, you taking responsibility for something as mundane as changing a lightbulb is a little too comfortable for him, a little too "wifey". And for whatever reason, that bothers him.

Just for fun Wigirl, go buy a toll of paper towel and surreptitiously set it on the kitchen counter. And videotape his reaction when he finds it. I suspect he may go into a full-blown panic attack and sound the alert from the tower. LOL
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Old 01-19-2010, 06:51 AM
 
Location: St Thomas, US Virgin Islands
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You're not still dating him, are you?
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