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Old 01-21-2010, 02:57 PM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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Yeah, If you're ten, I must be a teenager, and I'm breaking into a brothel again

What happens when you break into a brothel. Do you get free nookie or just a peep show.

 
Old 01-21-2010, 03:00 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I protest

When did 40 and 50 become young??? What the
Awwwww, poor 30-something men.

The young chippies want 40-something sugar daddies to buy them things and dote on them and the older women want toy boys to make them feel young, hahahahahaha.

My rule of thumb when dating is that I do NOT want to be helping raise some bloke's under 18 kids; nor do I want to be stuck with grandkid duty all of the time, helping to babysit his grandkids.

I did my mummy time, my kid is independent, and I want to enjoy my FREEDOM!!!! And, yes, it makes me feel YOUNG at 45!!!
 
Old 01-21-2010, 03:09 PM
 
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Maybe I'm one of the weird ones, but the majority of men I've dated have been a cross between Ernest Borgnine and John Candy lol. I dated a few model types (buff, gorgeous), but they wound up being arrogant arses.

I have always been attracted to a personality first and foremost...if he's cute but a jerk, I pass immediately. I easily adapt to less-than-stellar looks if the person inside is a gem, period.
 
Old 01-21-2010, 03:11 PM
 
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To the OP- Most men prefer younger better looking women too. Its not like its a double standard. If you were that upset over your muscular brother getting women why didn't you get off your butt and lift weights?

Could it be though that your brother has a much more enjoyable personality to be around than you? Whiney people are not attractive.
 
Old 01-21-2010, 04:13 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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What happens when you break into a brothel. Do you get free nookie or just a peep show.
Get caught by the big house guy and get thrown out, black and blue
 
Old 01-21-2010, 04:22 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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Awwwww, poor 30-something men.

The young chippies want 40-something sugar daddies to buy them things and dote on them and the older women want toy boys to make them feel young, hahahahahaha.

My rule of thumb when dating is that I do NOT want to be helping raise some bloke's under 18 kids; nor do I want to be stuck with grandkid duty all of the time, helping to babysit his grandkids.

I did my mummy time, my kid is independent, and I want to enjoy my FREEDOM!!!! And, yes, it makes me feel YOUNG at 45!!!
But I'm not 30
 
Old 01-21-2010, 05:01 PM
 
Location: Corydon, IN
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Did this thread seriously begin?

How come we don't have one of those emoticons with the smiley rolling on the floor and laughing while kicking his tiny feet?

You know, years ago I was pretty lousy with women and despite some decent looks and a good body I couldn't get a date to save my life.

Then a friend got me to go to the gym and I took to it like a duck to water. The timing was right, I just exploded with muscle like a second puberty, having begun at the time when my body was trying to switch from the lean, boyish muscle to that thicker, man-type muscle (shut it, you jokesters, there'll be no man-muscle cracks here).

For three months my routine was work, home, chow hall, gym, home, work, et cetera.

One evening we decided to take a break and hit the club and when I walked in I got immediate attention, some of it from women who'd openly rejected me just three months before. I have a bit of a Clark Kent effect, when my body shape changes my face changes noticeably. Also, I hadn't been around in quite a while, so I was "fresh" again, with my new muscles and confidence.

And it angered me, this attention. I told myself how shallow women REALLY are, felt this proved it.

Later, at other times in my life, I've seen drunk guys dealing with rejection and talking into their beer, saying things like "You know what? To HE** with women! I'm just gonna pay attention to ME for a change!

"You know what I'm a-gonna do? I'm gonna get back in school, get the rest of my *hic* education! An' I'm gonna go to the gym, work out an' get in shape! An' I'm jus' gonna focus on my job, jus' JOB an' GYM an' MYSELF, yep...

"THEN them witches'll see what they been missin'!"

But they don't do this. Instead they go home and sleep it off. The next few days they drink, and watch **** and eat Cheetos so that their male parts turn orange. And then they're back to whining.

I've been there, done it when I was a stupid kid; and never again. You know why?

BECAUSE DURING THAT MOMENT WHEN THEY WERE SO DRUNK THEY WERE ALSO THIS *finger and thumb an eighth of an inch apart* CLOSE TO THE ANSWER!

Women and men, for all we'd like to fool ourselves, ARE geared for certain things. Some of us rise above those things OR learn other things which circumvent those things -- SOME of us (not saying I've done so on all counts). ALL of us like to tell ourselves we've done so.

If any man wants to know how to get any woman he wants (within reason, pal, get real), then the answer is:

- focus on yourself and be a success in whatever you pursue

- Stay in shape (and yes, I'm aware "round" is a shape); you don't have to be Arnold, you just have to be healthy

- have hobbies and interests which belong to YOU and make YOU happy

- be nice to people but don't be a pushover; learn to be firm yet gracious

- Learn new things every day and have a zest for life so that you don't NEED a woman -- ANY woman


And that is IT. That's ALL of it, every last bit. Because when you know yourself and you know who you are, what you want, when you go for those things and, most of all, WHEN YOU'RE HAPPY, women will fall out of the sky like rain and you WILL have the option of choosing with whom you want to share a relationship.

Don't blame the women for being who they are; some of them are wonderful and others are purest, darkest evil of the kind perpetrated only by dime-novel characters named Blackie or Pete.

Women are as individual and varied as men, with the cream rising to the top -- so swim for the top if you want the cream, don't blame the cream for not sinking to your level.

MEN will admire you for this approach, WOMEN will WANT you for this approach and you WILL be an all-around BETTER PERSON for this approach.

Sure, there are lots of mean-spirited gals along the way who will disappoint you. Scrape them off your shoe and move on rather than hanging around them and bemoaning your lot.

Evil witches? DON'T STICK AROUND. NOTHING says you have to put up with that garbage.

Using ho's? Once you find out, WALK.

Liars? Anyone can be fooled; only a fool sticks around longer than he has to. Let her go lie to someone else, what do you care?

Hurt by her heartlessness? Go find one with a heart instead of a thumping gizzard!

Even you can't promise yourself untouchable, unassailable happiness; but you CAN promise yourself to tolerate what you MUST rather than what's thrown down before you like scraps.

Get out there and live!

My only regret is that I had to learn all this the hard way. YOU don't, I'm giving it to you now. GO!
 
Old 01-21-2010, 05:30 PM
 
Location: The Jar
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To the OP- Most men prefer younger better looking women too. Its not like its a double standard. If you were that upset over your muscular brother getting women why didn't you get off your butt and lift weights?

Could it be though that your brother has a much more enjoyable personality to be around than you? Whiney people are not attractive.

mtneer is right/spot on!
 
Old 01-21-2010, 05:39 PM
 
Location: Austin, Texas
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Of course women are just as obesseed with looks as men are; maybe even moreso. It's only the ugly women who complain about men being overly concerned with a women's looks. Just like it's usually the tubby women who bee-yatch and moan about how men are obsessed with skinny women, or that the fashion industry has set impossible standards for regualr women. Women complain about what they don't have by turning the tables and making that "something" seem wrong. This is what psychologists call "deflection" and women learn this behavior as young girls. While little Johnny is confrontive and meets his problems head-on, little Janie, not being strong enough or tough enough or brave enough to directly deal with the issue, instead "deflects" by running to Mommie or Daddy and telling. Or by trying to get her friends to conspire with her in order to socially ostracize her tormentor.
So next time you here some woman complaining about something like this, just realize it's their coping skills kicking in, and take it all with a grain of salt.
 
Old 01-21-2010, 06:28 PM
 
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OP here. Love the responses!

Oh by the way, I'm not whining about women not liking me. I've never had a problem getting relationships or girlfriends. I thank everyone for the tips about getting buff but I'm perfectly happy in my own skin. My brother is built like a bodybuilder but I have the long lean muscles of a swimmer and I'm happy with that.

My point I was making is that most men, myself included, do appreciate pretty faces and figures and we men admit that. I was criticizing many women for not being honest enough to admit looks are of primary importance also. I then proceeded to provide my own personal observations to support that claim.

BTW, what does it mean to "rep" someone?
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