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The opposite of an alpha personality is being a submissive personality. And that doesn't have anything to do with the definition of "clingy". If the O..P. were an alpha female, she might prefer a submissive personality male so that her authority is never questioned. But by wanting a clingy male, I'd say that she has issues of being afraid of her man abandoning her. Maybe in her past relationships, she has always been dumped by her boyfriends. So by choosing a clingy male, she thinks that he will never want to leave her. As another poster suggested, she could look to date men that are less attractive or poorer than she is. She needs to date beneath her.
That makes sense as to why the OP would want a clingy man so that if there's a break-up, she gets to be the dumper. At the same time, she doesn't want a man arguing when there are differences nor opposing her demands.
Well if choosing between being dumped or being the dumper, I'm sure we all want to be the dumper. This is similar to the situation where an aggressive alpha male would choose a quiet submissive woman (typically a woman with low self-esteem). Otherwise would a nasty tramp who slept around, gold-digger or one that cheats on every boyfriend go with him?? I doubt it so sometimes opposites do attract.
WOW. You want a needy guy? You will regret that. No one wants to be with someone clingy. You cant be that desperate.
Couldn't have said it better but maybe the OP doesn't want someone that can put her in her place when the demands get too high or too many rules are place. Another guess is that maybe there were dominant females in her household when the OP was a kid and she's copying everything she saw.
Agree with miu. LOL Why on earth would anyone male or female want to be with a clingy / overly dependent partner?
I learned this summer that there are women out there who DO want a clingy man to spend every waking moment with. My roommate found one and he's clingy and she loves it. I personally can't spend that much time with someone without getting sick of them. I need my space for sure, but everyone is different.
I learned this summer that there are women out there who DO want a clingy man to spend every waking moment with. My roommate found one and he's clingy and she loves it. I personally can't spend that much time with someone without getting sick of them. I need my space for sure, but everyone is different.
The eight plus hours I spend at work five days a week is plenty of time to be separated from my partner. Plus the two hours transit time, that only gives us 14 hours a day, and I have to sleep at least 4 of those.
Sigh. You've all missed the point. She said, "at least clingy men show emotions." She's just venting as she'd recently had a fight with a SO or whatever.
Find a guy "below your station". If you are an 8, find a 3 or 4. Make sure he has less education, less money and looks up to you. If he had a controlling mother, all the better.
LOL.
Well in theory that may work, it is true that a guy can become whooped by T&A. But, in my case for instance.....
I don't know what I would be "rated" as far as a number goes I guess , I know I am not a 10, I am not financially rich and I am not a universal appealing hunk. However if I were to hook up with a "dream woman" while I might be forgiving to a extent because, the idea that a guy who is a 4 or 5 with a female who is a 8 will kiss her arse because is wrong.
While a guy might not want to loose that choice piece, I wouldn't put up with nagging, controling or expecting me to kiss arse or having her constantly mess with other guys. F that.......
In my past there have been a couple times I went out or dated females who were honestly, more than what I thought I would attract. When we out to clubs and stuff I constantly would have to deal with guys hitting on them, all I had to do was walk to the bar, talk to someone else for a few or hit the rest room and usually when I came back another guy was trying to move in. I was cool with it mostly but it does get on your nerves after a bit. I did started getting a bit jealous at times, when it happens that often it wears you down specially when you see a good looking guy trying sly behind your back and nab your girl.
But if a woman starts taking advantage and coming down on a guy knowing she has goods that are a hot commodity and she knows he really wants to keep her thus will do her bidding it doesn't matter, better to tell her off than put up with that power trip.
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