Welcome to City-Data.com Forum!
U.S. CitiesCity-Data Forum Index
Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
 [Register]
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
View detailed profile (Advanced) or search
site with Google Custom Search

Search Forums  (Advanced)
 
Old 01-24-2010, 01:40 PM
 
Location: somewhere south of Canada
2,163 posts, read 4,334,947 times
Reputation: 2581

Advertisements

Wow. Hopefully this won't turn into another single Mom bashing thread.

If a father walks out on the mother and gives up all custody/rights to his child. Should he be forgiven and allowed to be a part of his child's life for a short time, if that parent is diagnosed with a fatal illness?

An Ex-Husband's Dying Last Wish - ParentDish

The video contains more info than the article.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message

 
Old 01-24-2010, 01:51 PM
 
Location: SW MO
23,593 posts, read 37,394,969 times
Reputation: 29336
Regardless of the health issues! You can forgive someone without them ever knowing it. It's something you do for yourself, not for them. Until you've forgiven someone who's hurt you, you are forever tied to them emotionally and they can affect your moods. Do they deserve that power over your emotions?

Beyond that, all children deserve to know their parents on their own terms, not someone else's. Unless there is danger to them they should be encouraged to maintain a relationship. Soon enough they'll decide what's right for them. They're very observant and intuitive.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-24-2010, 01:52 PM
 
Location: Somewhere on Earth
1,052 posts, read 1,644,886 times
Reputation: 712
You don't have to forgive the man...but you owe it to your child to have him/her have experiences with his/her other parent because it's the right thing to do, especially if the parent really wants to be part of his/her child's life, even if it's a selfish request.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-24-2010, 02:06 PM
 
3,261 posts, read 5,296,996 times
Reputation: 3986
Quote:
Originally Posted by Tropical Trouble View Post
Wow. Hopefully this won't turn into another single Mom bashing thread.

If a father walks out on the mother and gives up all custody/rights to his child. Should he be forgiven and allowed to be a part of his child's life for a short time, if that parent is diagnosed with a fatal illness?

An Ex-Husband's Dying Last Wish - ParentDish

The video contains more info than the article.
It's not nice to talk badly about the dead, but he divorced her when she was seven months pregnant and gave up all his parental rights - what a jerk.

I think this is one amazing woman who is teaching her child by example that it's better to do what's morally right, rather than sticking to principle or pride.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-24-2010, 05:55 PM
 
Location: Kentucky
6,749 posts, read 22,040,829 times
Reputation: 2178
Yeah, I think I would.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-24-2010, 05:59 PM
 
3,284 posts, read 3,517,308 times
Reputation: 1832
Forgiveness or not, it's probably the right thing to do.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-24-2010, 06:41 PM
 
Location: Tulsa
2,529 posts, read 4,343,674 times
Reputation: 553
Quote:
Originally Posted by robee70 View Post
It's not nice to talk badly about the dead, but he divorced her when she was seven months pregnant and gave up all his parental rights - what a jerk.

I think this is one amazing woman who is teaching her child by example that it's better to do what's morally right, rather than sticking to principle or pride.
I second this. I'm sure she did it for her son, not for the man. What a great example she was to him!
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
 
Old 01-24-2010, 11:22 PM
 
Location: In my skin
9,230 posts, read 16,517,749 times
Reputation: 9174
That would be a tough one for me. God rest his soul, but to abandon the child and come back to subject him child to his death is beyond selfish to me. Kudos to mom for being such a generous and giving person.
Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.

Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.


Reply
Please update this thread with any new information or opinions. This open thread is still read by thousands of people, so we encourage all additional points of view.

Quick Reply
Message:

Over $104,000 in prizes was already given out to active posters on our forum and additional giveaways are planned!

Go Back   City-Data Forum > General Forums > Relationships
Similar Threads

All times are GMT -6. The time now is 07:16 PM.

© 2005-2024, Advameg, Inc. · Please obey Forum Rules · Terms of Use and Privacy Policy · Bug Bounty

City-Data.com - Contact Us - Archive 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37 - Top