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Old 01-23-2010, 09:55 PM
 
Location: Arkansas
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Default Should i stay or should i go?

Iv been with my boyfriend for a little over three years. Today he tells me hes not in love with me, he still loves me but, not in love with me. That just crushed me. I dont really know what to do now, he didnt brake up with me or anything. We live together and i don't really have family or friends so i have no place to go and no money. I feel like he feels sorry for me and thats why he stays with me. That dissent make me feel good at all. I really dont know what to do. I wish i could just run away and start over.
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Old 01-23-2010, 10:06 PM
 
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I'm sorry, sweetie. Are you safe where you are? As long as he isn't abusive, I think I would just start living together as roommates. Save your money until you can afford another living arrangement. The good news is that you can start all over again.

((hugs)) I'm really sorry you are having a bad night.
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Old 01-23-2010, 10:07 PM
 
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I suspect this may be moved to another forum but if not, may I ask, how old are you? What kind of education have you finished and do you have any work experience? I'll say some prayers for you.
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Old 01-24-2010, 03:56 PM
 
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Keep strong and be safe! I will say a little prayer for you,,,,i'm sure you'll be able to move out,,save money and move out.
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Old 01-24-2010, 04:22 PM
 
Location: Expatriate Philadelphian in Northern Virginia
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While I sympathize, this thread is indeed not related to Northern Virginia in any way. I'm moving it to the Relationships forum.
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Old 01-24-2010, 04:28 PM
 
Location: Tennessee
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I'm sorry, sweetie. Are you safe where you are? As long as he isn't abusive, I think I would just start living together as roommates. Save your money until you can afford another living arrangement. The good news is that you can start all over again.

((hugs)) I'm really sorry you are having a bad night.
Do you think that this would work?

I`m sorry...gosh.
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Old 01-24-2010, 04:31 PM
 
Location: southern california
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his needs are met he does not need to "go forward with the relationship". you on the other hand need to go forward with your life.
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Old 01-24-2010, 04:40 PM
 
Location: Maryland
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My heart goes out to you. My male friend lives with a woman he doesn't love anymore. She knows it, but she won't leave. He comes and goes as he please. I don't want that life for you. Like something else said, get your ducks in a row. Move on...his lose!! Good Luck!!
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Old 01-24-2010, 04:51 PM
 
Location: Hills & Hollers of the Aux Arcs
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It's only been a little over three years. Get out while you can before you waste any more years. You can't get them back.
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Old 01-24-2010, 04:54 PM
 
Location: New Hampshire
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I am sorry.

I am in your shoes right now. Except that he's my husband...not my boyfriend. I dunno what to tell you. If I did, I wouldn't be on City Data asking for help. My husband has agreed to go to counseling but I am afraid he's only doing it to shut me up. I don't know.

I moved to CO to be with him. I have no family and I know nobody in this state. So I can relate to you on that level as well.

I am sorry hun...It's never easy...
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