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Old 01-29-2010, 07:26 AM
 
Location: Virginia
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Addiction is a mental illness, and our understanding of mental illness is not always clear. It is possible that therapy is as things stand now the best treatment for addiction, as with say depression or other mental illnesses.
Well in the simplist of terms.... In MY eyes:

mental illnesses of this sort = mental weakness/lack of will-power.

Hey, I'm not saying that some people don't have stronger wills than others, but I'm just not of the mindset of forgiving weak willed people by labelling it as a "disease". Too convenient of a cop out to shirk responsibility for one's poor decisions...

Life is full of temptations. There's a LOT of sh** I'd rather be doing right now, but I'm not because I understand where my responsibilities lie and what my boundaries are as far as what I can do within the framework of my responsibilities and what I can't....

I cannot fathom that someone would need to go to a class or shrink to be told that taking an extended lunch break to visit an escort in town (your example) is poor judgement..... "I couldn't help it" doesn't cut it IMO...
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Old 01-29-2010, 07:38 AM
 
Location: Pittsburgh
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mental illnesses of this sort = mental weakness/lack of will-power.
Science doesn't agree with you: Research on the genetic component of addiction - Oct. 16, 2009

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Why do some people get hooked on drugs and alcohol, while others can party hard and walk away? We tend to think it's a matter of willpower or moral fiber, but it has more to do with a roll of the genetic dice. Large-scale studies of twins provide strong evidence that addiction ranks "among the most heritable of mental illnesses," says Dr. David Goldman, who heads the Laboratory of Neurogenetics at the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism.
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Old 01-29-2010, 07:52 AM
 
Location: pittsburgh
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When did toilet paper become "bathroom tissue"
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Old 01-29-2010, 08:01 AM
 
Location: Harrisonburg, VA
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For hundred of years.........when a man cheated on his spouse, it was just called that: CHEATING. Now it is a DISEASE, called "Sexual Addiction," I wonder what it would be called if it was a woman going to bed with 14 man!!!!!!!!...............
It would probably be called a *porn shoot* ?
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Old 01-29-2010, 08:14 AM
 
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I think in some cases (Tiger's) a claim of addiction is simply a way to deflect responsibility. He's rich, he's on the road alone, is perhaps bored with his sex life at home, and anything imaginable is readily available to him. He took advantage of those opportunities, people found out about it, it blew up and in order to regain fans and endorsements there has to be some explanation other than he's a dog who cheated on his wife. The whole addiction label turns it from a "what a creep" attitude to "oh the poor thing, he should get help, we're here for you" type response.

I've read many times how some married baseball players have a woman in every city, how they get lonely on the road, they're wealthy, etc. I don't see Tiger being any different. I think Wade Boggs did the whole crying-on-tv thing when he was caught being unfaithful to his wife. I just don't buy it. I actually think it's amusing to see these big shot stars crying on TV (Kobe, Boggs) as if they are truly sorry for what they have done when they are probably only sorry that they were caught and their number one priority is repairing thier public image.
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Old 01-29-2010, 09:50 AM
 
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Well in the simplist of terms.... In MY eyes:

mental illnesses of this sort = mental weakness/lack of will-power.

Hey, I'm not saying that some people don't have stronger wills than others, but I'm just not of the mindset of forgiving weak willed people by labelling it as a "disease". Too convenient of a cop out to shirk responsibility for one's poor decisions...

Life is full of temptations. There's a LOT of sh** I'd rather be doing right now, but I'm not because I understand where my responsibilities lie and what my boundaries are as far as what I can do within the framework of my responsibilities and what I can't....

I cannot fathom that someone would need to go to a class or shrink to be told that taking an extended lunch break to visit an escort in town (your example) is poor judgement..... "I couldn't help it" doesn't cut it IMO...
But addiction is not just lacking willpower. It is liking to do something so much that it overtakes all other activities.

I suppose to be fair, the beginnings of addiction may seem like a lack of willpower. But it is more than just a normal character fault.
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