I want to post something (guys, sexy, problems, neighbor)
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in her case by "polite" what i mean is that i don't confront her on her past rudeness to me--I just avoid her although i still say hello to her believe it or not. really tho i shouldn't be.
But this type of character takes a "hello" to mean "I do".
SInce i made the fatal mistake of having lunch with her 6 years ago when she first came on the job, she still interprets that as marriage vows
her response to that would be something like "I'm only trying to be friendly why are you rude to me"? in a loud voice. like a real psychopath who turns things around
Sure they do, she over stepped your boundaries. The boss figures you can handle the unwanted overtures. Don't be so nice to this woman, don't say hello, nada. Give the non-verbal clues, that the two of you are not friends and open to conversation.
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Originally Posted by rlrl
in her case by "polite" what i mean is that i don't confront her on her past rudeness to me--I just avoid her although i still say hello to her believe it or not. really tho i shouldn't be.
But this type of character takes a "hello" to mean "I do".
SInce i made the fatal mistake of having lunch with her 6 years ago when she first came on the job, she still interprets that as marriage vows
her response to that would be something like "I'm only trying to be friendly why are you rude to me"? in a loud voice. like a real psychopath who turns things around
Tell her you didn't hear her, when she starts with her the crap, tell her you have things you need to do.
Your going to have to be curt but not rude or she'll continue to plaque you.
doesn't know what's in the opponent's mind. the opponent in this case has shut down from toxic work/social interactions and parties and is ready to slide the knife in the back (with lots of anesthetic of course) of others who remind him of his old tormentors. kind of like how Paul Kersey shoots the bad guys in Death Wish, then runs away so no one can catch him!!
the opponent can be planning to make her lose the game each and every time but evidently she sees me as some kind of fool who will never try to "get his" or use a higher level of adult sophistication to see thru her game
it's like she thinks i'm as pure as the driven snow
rlrl? Does anyone else in the office have a problem with her, or is it just you? Maybe you are overly sensitive? Seems like getting your goat is her entertainment.
The best way you could get back at her is to smother her with attention. She'd probably go running for the hills.
have a problem with her. several of the guys have had incidents with her. the maintenance worker can't stand her and pops off at her. she complains that a room is dirty when he cleans the offices after staff goes home. he tries to tell her but she repeats the same complaint over and over
she hates the young girls. last year she tried to get me to confront one of the young girls for "harassing" her when there was no harrasment involved. luckliy we all ganged up on her and put her in her place
i'm probably no more sensitive than the others but what is different about me is that i stay angry about it longer and have difficulty forgetting about it, especially when it is announced that she is coming back
It's impossible to avoid all the toxic ppl out there, all you can do is change how much you'll let them effect you. You need to read Eckhart Tolle's books.
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Originally Posted by rlrl
doesn't know what's in the opponent's mind. the opponent in this case has shut down from toxic work/social interactions and parties and is ready to slide the knife in the back (with lots of anesthetic of course) of others who remind him of his old tormentors. kind of like how Paul Kersey shoots the bad guys in Death Wish, then runs away so no one can catch him!!
the opponent can be planning to make her lose the game each and every time but evidently she sees me as some kind of fool who will never try to "get his" or use a higher level of adult sophistication to see thru her game
it's like she thinks i'm as pure as the driven snow
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