Were you ever the type of person you would never date now? (dating, marry)

[PassTheChocolate]

What behavior(s)/personality flaw(s), that you have overcome and learned from, would be deal breakers in your relationships now?

[moonlitwishes]

I would not date now a person like I was back when...I was a hateful little hussy!

[thetruthcomesout]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

What behavior(s)/personality flaw(s), that you have overcome and learned from, would be deal breakers in your relationships now?

Nothing.

If a woman can't accept me for who I am then the hell with her. If women are willing to marry convicted serial killers, then a woman should be able to deal with my personality flaws.

[KickAssArmyChick]

I was extremely spoiled and took things for granted a lot. After going through a ****ty time in my life when I was 20, I learned to appreciate things and people.

Unfortunately I managed to marry someone who did the exact thing to me: took me for granted every day we were together. Soon to be ex-husband. Can't wait...

[Jays1983]

I wouldn't date a girl like me. I think I could possibly have some commitment and monogomy issues. =-)

[si33]

Pheww!, finally some sanity here today..thanks PTC anyhow,

I have no problem admitting that back in my earlier high school days, i was much shyer and awkward with the opposite sex..and while these might not be a deal breaker now,each could be something to consider..since confidence was something i did not possess in great quantities back then..and because confidence is a must when i look at a potential dating interest..

Beyond that time frame, i taught myself to be more confident..and shed the overly shy nature id possessed..

Around that time, i also dabbled in drugs..mainly pot..but also tried other stuff as well.. anyway, i quickly learned why this sort of behavior is a big turn off...Id grown up witnessing the effects of prolonged drug use..and had sworn not to proceed down that road..I was glad to have had an experience which totally knocked my up side the head and snapped me back into reality..instead of heading down the path id started on..which would have only led to complete self destruction..

ultimately, what was strange, at least in my case, was that there was a period where i had gained enough confidence in myself that i could see exactly what i wanted..not just for myself..but in someone as well..still, due to the over abundant insecurities that i was still working to get past, id quickly get discouraged..even though i was more mindful of say my appearance..or keeping myself in shape..things which are important to me now..

It wasn't until after high school..and moving elsewhere that i started to re-acquaint myself with the confidence id seen way back when..and stopped allowing what lingering insecurities which remain, to stop me from what i desire out of a relationship..let alone what i expect of myself..and what i aspire to do..

Life has a funny way of nudging someone in a positive direction if they listen, and have already caught a glimpse of what that kind of life would be like..

In a nutshell, i can say that yes, when i was much less confident then i am now, i can understand not being attractive to more women then i was.. As much as i wanted it, im sure it wouldn't have been as much fun for her lol..

[si33]

Originally Posted by thetruthcomesout

Nothing.

If a woman can't accept me for who I am then the hell with her. If women are willing to marry convicted serial killers, then a woman should be able to deal with my personality flaws.

So negative..i really think your current personality state would make an interesting case study for a Criminal Psychologist..sorry, but following many of your posts this afternoon, several things stand out which appear to need to be worked through..

[si33]

Originally Posted by Jays1983

I wouldn't date a girl like me. I think I could possibly have some commitment and monogomy issues. =-)

Awww!!..how cute lol Manlet is offering a hug if you want one ..give yourself a couple more years..i am sure you will be fine..

[Ep-]

back when i was a teenager i was a nice dood that got no where. i also went through a period where i partied constantly, drank and did drugs.

now im a nice dood with an edge and lots of confidence. i would also never now date someone that was like what i was in my teenage years. gotta be more then just nice (or drunk!) all the time !

[Chowhound]

I've always been a stand up guy when it comes to the opposite sex.

Not braggin, just trying to give myself a little positive reinforcement.