Is it okay for a woman to ask a man to marry them? (personal, people)
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I proposed to my husband 11+ years ago. We were happy before and have been happy ever since. We are equal partners. I can't imagine why it would matter who asks the question.
Im glad that it worked well for you. But for my own reasons, which i stated above, I would just feel more 'comfortable' with the guy asking.
However, more power to the women who do ask. If it works for you to be the one asking, that's kool!
If a couple has been together a while, it's more likely that some nosey relative will eventually say something like "when are you two getting married?". LOL
Philosophically I don't think there is any problem with the woman asking, BUT what if the guy had some grandiose notion of getting on one knee and proposing the old fashioned way and the woman beat him to the punch? That might make him feel bad.
However, it may set a tone for the marriage that you don't like. If a guy wants to marry you, he'll ask.
I agree with Mango. While the subject may come up as a mutual decision in a more casual way (did that with college BF, but it didn't go through), if we're talking about actual proposing, I've never done that and have no plans to.
Im glad that it worked well for you. But for my own reasons, which i stated above, I would just feel more 'comfortable' with the guy asking.
However, more power to the women who do ask. If it works for you to be the one asking, that's kool!
My comment wasn't aimed at anyone, sorry if it sounded that way.
We had been dating for a month, had already talked about the type of relationship we DIDN'T want (endless living together. BTDT already), so one night I just asked him. He said yes. A week later he showed up with a ring.
I wouldn't have wanted him down on one knee. To me, that is subservient and it has always bothered me. Plus, he has absolutely no cartilege left in his right knee so even if he managed to get down, he wouldn't be able to get back up
Couples should only do what works for them. I have always been very strong willed and believe in going after what I want. If I was a guy, I'd be pure alpha male.
I was just wondering what people think about this?
Is it okay for the female to ask her significant other to marry her? I personally,don't see a problem with this but I was just curious what others think.
Sure why not. I don't see anything wrong with it...
she can also help me rob a bank so i can have the cash for a ring, downpayment on a new car, house!
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