Your time frame in proceeding towards sex (date, long-term, woman)

[betamanlet]

Originally Posted by Jays1983

Dude, get a ****ing hooker then. Jeeez, no girl in the right mind is going to sleep with a guy who non-stop ******* and moans how girls aren't dropping their panties because "betamanlets" are low on the totem pole.

Find a sleezy transexual prostitute in some run down slums and give her hell.

Yes, because I am beneath serial killers, pedophiles, and rapists. Yup, I am the only problem...

[AZDesertBrat]

Originally Posted by Sunflower_lol

I noticed there has been an increasing number of people who started having sex on either the first few dates of meeting that person or in only 1 month.

Even 1-2 months would be too fast for me. I'm rather slower and therefore will have the same time frame as it was with my ex b/f. For me, it would be 5 months later or more (depending on the trust level, not just physical attraction).

Currently I'm seeking friends but when the time comes for another relationship, it must be well-though out not ''Well, he's cute and we like each other, that's all it took for me to jump in''.

Is 5 months or more asking too much patience anyways? I noticed the number of patient men have reduced to the point, the movies and media messed up some people's minds. It's one thing if that's your personality but it's a difference if you changed suddenly because of a film or assumptions that if you don't move fast then there's no connection.

Lastly, how long till I find another patience man? I'm not into the ''waiting till marriage'' but I'm a ''Give it several months before jumping in''.

I'm thinking the debate about "when to have sex" kinda started when somebody, somewhere, came up with that stupid three date rule. It made people start to think that if they didn't have sex by the third date there was 1) something wrong with them and 2) the guy/girl wasn't really interested in them. Why anyone would want that kind of pressure is beyond me.

Keeping in mind that I grew up in the Stone Age, hardly anyone ever had sex until they were at least engaged. Maybe that's why so many people got 'engaged' in high school but to their credit nearly every single one of them married right out of high school and the majority are still married....50 years later!

My ex and I waited three months before we got intimate. That was mostly because we started out as just good friends/co-workers but we spent a LOT of time together AS friends and talked about everything under the sun for those three months. By then we knew we wanted to have a VERY long term relationship, wanted the same things in life and in our futures, but it still took me two years to decide if it really WAS "a safe bet" to marry again. Multiple divorces made me "spooked" and I was single 7 years before I met him. During those years I dated mostly "just for fun" and there was rarely sex involved. I also dated multiple men during those years and it would've been really "icky" to have sex with all, or even most, of them. If any of them were so impatient that they only wanted to build a relationship on how soon they could have sex they weren't that interesting to me.

[Jays1983]

Originally Posted by betamanlet

Yes, because I am beneath serial killers, pedophiles, and rapists. Yup, I am the only problem...

Never said anything about them. If you want to get laid, you know where to go.

You have one of two options:

1. Stop being a whiney little baby, grow a sack and talk to girls like they are normal people, establish a friendship, do something. Then, perhaps, you may be on your way to something more meaningful, even the possibility of something leading to sex.

2. Grab a few bucks and pay for it.

[Cletus Awreetus-Awrightus]

Originally Posted by Sunflower_lol

I noticed there has been an increasing number of people who started having sex on either the first few dates of meeting that person or in only 1 month.

This is because I've been dating more actively, lately.

[Mr.Cat]

Originally Posted by betamanlet

I hope to have sex again before I die.

I've heard Craig has a list. You should check it out.

[Sunflower_lol]

Originally Posted by betamanlet

Yes, because I am beneath serial killers, pedophiles, and rapists. Yup, I am the only problem...

Like another poster stated, the more you whine about how you're unlucky with women, how they only want rapists or murderers, then you stay single.

Snap out of it and stop thinking of us as aliens from another planet. We're humans from Earth just like you..............

Has nothing to do with you being self-proclaimed ''nice'' but your negative attitude you been displaying both here and on loveshack.org......

In addition, no I don't like people with criminal records, drug addicts nor rapists. I must be the minority then because I like those with no records...

[JSizzle225]

I just go with my feelings. It's not like you plan everything on hooking up. I do lack impulse control though. I always think I can play the make outs game or just the tip and be fine. But something bad always happens.

[ShanesG]

I could wait a few weeks. I see no point in waiting really if i feel i will be with the person, since it's most likely gonna happen anyways. In the end it doesn't really matter so why waste out on sessions when you don't have to haha

[MontanaGuy]

I honestly don't see why this process should have to drag on for months but I understand that everyone has their own point of view. It's my feeling that two people can generally figure out if they're compatible and attracted to each other fairly quickly. I also tend to think that sex itself is going to reveal quite alot to both partners in terms of how they really feel about each other and whether or not it's going to work out between them. I guess I don't see sex as such a major event that it has to be evaluated as though it was as critical as having brain surgery. I'm not saying that you have to hop into the sack on the first date (although I've never put up a fight when that's happened), I'm just suggesting that it might appear to many men that you are being extremely over cautious.

[dgfurman]

Originally Posted by Jays1983

Dude, get a ****ing hooker then. Jeeez, no girl in the right mind is going to sleep with a guy who non-stop ******* and moans how girls aren't dropping their panties because "betamanlets" are low on the totem pole.

Find a sleezy transexual prostitute in some run down slums and give her hell.

Jays, you're cracking me up! I tried to rep you but I gotta spread more love around first.