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I actually did.... well... we were dating seriously, I moved in with him and 4 days later he was fired from his job. He had been working in the U.S. for 6 years at that point. We PROBABLY would have got married anyway... MAYBE but, since he was let go... his green card (that was in process) went away with the job. We had a few days to figure everything out.
Anyway, we married 4 days later. I was so stressed out I had to take Xanax for a month because I just wasn't ready to marry but I wasn't ready to have him move back to France.
He recently got his citizenship although he wasn't sure for awhile if he would go all the way (beyond permanent greencard) but we decided it was best since it just makes life easier. We have been married for 5 years this coming April. At that point, I will be eligible for European Union citizenship. Which I will gladly take. I have wanted to be a citizen of Europe since my 20's (LONG before I met him)
LOL any relationship based on LOVE is doomed to a 50% failure rate!
I found this post downright funny. There's almost a truth to it, but the actual validating qualifier is left out of it, the result being that it falls flat.
Any relationship based on all the BS people tend to MISTAKE for love.... yeah, that one is pretty much doomed, has a 50/50 shot at best.
It's when we start getting into examining love itself that the calculations get tricky. You see, love in and of itself entails not only passion, friendship and devotion -- it also indicates along with those three key components a certain level of responsibility.
Given that factor, it also indicates a responsible mindset... which in turn indicates a greater sense of responsibility with regard to all the daily things in life which make UP day-to-day life...
Which mean that even if one is not a six-figure earner, one is doing what is best for the family, for the spouse as a spouse, best for the couple to which one belongs, etc.
Love doesn't mean never having to say you're sorry; it means having the cojones to fess up when you're wrong, talk it out and take steps to never make that particular mistake again, and to mutually look forward rather than dwelling on the past.
And admittedly -- that can take some practice.
Love is mutuality.... and teams, fostering teamwork, sharing mutually... those tend to do significantly better than short-lived couplings based on devotion to an idea but no passion... passionate pairings which are loads of fun until it's time to pay the bill... friendships which are deep and abiding but lack passion... et cetera, ad nauseum in variation.
Then again, I'm the kind of guy who reads all that into a smart-aleck, pessimistic sentence while shaking my head and thinking you think you do, but you don't get it.
No, my friends son, fell madly in love with a young beautiful Russian girl, married her, had a child, shortly there after she dumped him. As she was leaving she laughted in his face , said he was a fool, she had married him so she could stay in the US and the child cemented the entire deal.
He now pays child support and she lives with a guy from the Ukraine....her "old" boyfriend"! Gotcha!
Far too many stories of better off friends marrying their beautiful overstayed their visas "oh-no, I can't find jobs that qualify for working visas once I graduated college" girlfriends to save them from deportation and six months later? Bye-bye. Half of your assets please.
I'm very sympathetic to a lot of people who want to stay here. And for most part, I wouldn't mind helping them out. But division of assets upon divorce is probably the single one thing that would make me say "no".
I am actualy doing the opposite. I am getting married this summer to get my Colombian residency. The opposite story. Colombian woman comes to the US, finds a man, and takes him back to Colombia with her.
I prefer to keep the "Intercultural Studies" diversity requirement as a part of my college experience, and not in the sack.
Lol very good
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I've made several posts about this conundrum.
