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I think she probably needed someone who would take his time with her, and I can see why. But she also needs a lot of prodding, a lot of attention to make her feel wanted. Too much work.
seriously, i think you dodged a bullet. she doesnt want to be used for sex, but is now sexually frustrated cause you are not coming on to her.
then she gets drunk and sleeps with some random guy and now she "has" to be in a relationship with him?
she just has not figured herself or her life out yet.
seriously, there are plenty of women with their s**t together---do you really need this?
seriously, i think you dodged a bullet. she doesnt want to be used for sex, but is now sexually frustrated cause you are not coming on to her.
Right. She didn't want to be used for sex, but she doesn't know how to react when she's not being used for sex. Chalk this one up to "life experience".
I dont think you got used in the sense that you did these things because you wanted to and eventhough you wanted a "happy ending" it wasnt promised. But they way she ended the relationship, I think I would feel somewhat used due to the lack respect and consideration.
I cant imagine how she feels about the situation. You appear to be fun, kind and generous. I can only assume she is one of the crazies your mother should have warned you about.
I know how I feel about the situation, and I tried my best not to color how I felt into the story. I'm more interested in knowing if you were me, would you feel I got used, or it sounds like a had a good time. Or if you were her how would you feel about the situation?
I really hope this doesn't turn into a gender bashing episode, but it might be inevitable. It's kind of a "half full or half empty" type question.
Yes, you got used, BUT, not with intent. She sounds like a very insecure, confused person, and if I were you, I would be grateful to have escaped unscathed. I have compassion for her, for anyone who sees her/himself as a victim; never proactive, always REactive, but in my experience there is never any winning with these people. A severely insecure person will sell you out for a pat on the back. You should wish her the best, even by proxy, but should not allow yourself to be exposed to collateral damage; it's like escorting a kleptomaniac to Macy's.
I dont think you got used in the sense that you did these things because you wanted to and eventhough you wanted a "happy ending" it wasnt promised. But they way she ended the relationship, I think I would feel somewhat used due to the lack respect and consideration.
I cant imagine how she feels about the situation. You appear to be fun, kind and generous. I can only assume she is one of the crazies your mother should have warned you about.
My step sister brought her up when I helped her move 2 weeks ago. Said, "remember so and so, she is back to her same old woe is me attitude. She deserves what she gets." So I don't think she's really grown much in the last 2 years. Although my step sister thinks she's a b now.
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