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Old 02-06-2010, 01:29 PM
 
Location: The cupboard under the sink
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I think your post earlier in the thread said it well, unless you are actually in that situation, you will never know what it's like.

Sure, we can all talk a good game, but it's always different when we play it.

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It was such an ignorant post that I didn't even bother replying to her. It wasn't worth it.

 
Old 02-06-2010, 01:31 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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I'm going to venture a guess that most men who rape other men are not murdered by their victim. I guess they never ran into any of the men on this forum.
 
Old 02-06-2010, 05:09 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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And leave your family without a father/son/husband? Interesting.

If something like that happened to me, I wouldn't be too effective in any of those roles. I'd rather be a dead man than someone who was raped by a male. That's just how it is in my culture.
 
Old 02-06-2010, 10:09 PM
 
Location: On the Rails in Northern NJ
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what about the men who are raped by women ? Now as a gay male if i were raped by another man i would report , although i doubt anything would happen. Even i were straight , becuz the other could easily claim it was consensual experimenting, and unlike a female there isn't really any evidence.

~Corey
 
Old 02-07-2010, 09:49 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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No. I'd kill him.

Not trying to act like some psuedo-alpha, and I'm not necessarily proud of that fact. But my ego and sort of generalized way I view the world just couldn't lead me to do what is probably the right thing in this situation.

It would be Hunting Season.
So you'd kill a man who raped you, but you'd have sex with one for a million dollars. Would you kill a woman who managed to rape you too?
 
Old 02-07-2010, 09:54 AM
 
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I wouldn't try to kill anyone if I didn't absolutely have to. I would not hesitate if I had to! That is what makes me the responsible man I am. If I could punch the guy first, I would? Most would probably get the message?
 
Old 02-07-2010, 01:42 PM
 
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I have a friend who was raped by a male friend while they were both drinking. They solved it the civil way- by getting all the guy friends together for a good circle kick. Beat the everloving snot out of the guy. Litigation wouldn't have worked because the guy who did it was very wealthy and had the best lawyers in the area. There's no point in reporting it...there is a lot of stigma, and it's a slim chance it would make it to court anyways.
 
Old 02-07-2010, 02:02 PM
 
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I have a friend who was raped by a male friend while they were both drinking. They solved it the civil way- by getting all the guy friends together for a good circle kick. Beat the everloving snot out of the guy. Litigation wouldn't have worked because the guy who did it was very wealthy and had the best lawyers in the area. There's no point in reporting it...there is a lot of stigma, and it's a slim chance it would make it to court anyways.
Yes, but the victim is probably dealing with lifelong psychological damage that goes well beyond anything the rapist sustained in his beatdown. A circle kick for a rape isn't really justice. AND he could have reported the beating and gotten those guys arrested.
 
Old 02-07-2010, 02:16 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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So you'd kill a man who raped you, but you'd have sex with one for a million dollars. Would you kill a woman who managed to rape you too?

Inquiring minds want to know if this is REALLY possible? Without alcohol, drugs, etc. Can a woman just straight up "take it" from a man?
 
Old 02-07-2010, 02:23 PM
 
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If you are a man and you were raped by another man, would you report it to the authorities or remain silent?

I am shocked at how many men that I know that said that they wouldn't because of the massive stigma they would have to bear, and the social after effects they would have to live with...


Edit: Lets say that he either drugged you, or there's more than one of them so you can't fight, or kill them before it happens...

And lets say no revenge either, would you report it or not?

yes, and I did.
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