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^^Being someone to depend upon isn't a bad thing. Being able to depend on someone else, while naive, isn't necessarily bad either. You should be able to depend on your partner.
What's wrong with that? Should we only get into relationships with people we cannot depend upon?
^^Being someone to depend upon isn't a bad thing. Being able to depend on someone else, while naive, isn't necessarily bad either. You should be able to depend on your partner.
What's wrong with that? Should we only get into relationships with people we cannot depend upon?
Relying on our partners is not the issue - do some reading about co-dependency, I fear you don't understand the subject.
Every time I bring the subject of being able to have someone DO things that you're not good at doing yourself, the subject of codependency seems to come along for the ride. So, no, I don't understand it.
Every time I bring the subject of being able to have someone DO things that you're not good at doing yourself, the subject of codependency seems to come along for the ride. So, no, I don't understand it.
Why not try reading the book Tropical Trouble is reading to help you learn more about it? It's called "Untangling Relationships"
Because I prefer to deal with relationships by having them, because it's the experience I have that's going to matter. You may have heard the expression "your mileage may vary"? Reading about other people's relationships is not going to impact what happens in MINE. My relationships are going to be dependent on the two parties involved, and the chances of two people having the same exact sorts of past experiences is going to be infinitestimally small.
codependency is abnormal and sick behavior. it appears kind and christian but is neither.
it is-- in a word-- doing way too much for others and not taking care of yourself. it is a form of self hatred and contempt.
the coda treats himself in cruel ways he would never dream of doing to others. it masquerades often as self discipline.
employers and family love codas, they serve them very well and put them 1st always and then die quietly.
codas are angry martyrs.
see link for patterns and characteristics of codependency.
Did you post in the wrong thread, if not, what codependency is about, went over your head.
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Originally Posted by TKramar
Because I prefer to deal with relationships by having them, because it's the experience I have that's going to matter. You may have heard the expression "your mileage may vary"? Reading about other people's relationships is not going to impact what happens in MINE. My relationships are going to be dependent on the two parties involved, and the chances of two people having the same exact sorts of past experiences is going to be infinitestimally small.
I know you are joking, but that is absolutely untrue. Infact co-dependents are MORE APT to suffer multiple diagnosis clinically. I.E. a co-dependant narcissist LOOKS for a narcissist themselves.
your post is very true, there is 2 groups of people always looking for each other, narcisst and echo. echos are often coda.
the term narcissist is very popular. it is rarely understood bek most do not know it is used properly in tandem with echo, both are part of greek mythology and are used to explain human behavior.
a coda can be a narcisst but most codas are echo (the one doing the orbiting around the narcisst)
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