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Originally Posted by yankeegirl313
To me,it has to do with a little thing called "respect."
He knows that she doesn`t like it,so why continue to do it?
Yes,masturbation is normal,but clicking on porn sites,etc...is not.
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I'm afraid I disagree, looking at porn is acceptable.
I don't really like porn, but it's normal.
I think this is more where the OP's problem lies.
He likes looking at pictures, she
doesn't like him looking at pictures.
As I said in the previous posts, she may have to accept this fact.
Perhaps she can deal with it better if it's out in the open, rather than the "sneaking around"
That's why I think they need to talk.
He is doing something natural, and she has a problem with it.
Compromise must be reached, or the end is nigh.
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Originally Posted by JamesGirl
He rarely initiates and give lame excuses like he's too tired. And then I find that he's using young girl porn.
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Sometimes men can be too tired for sex, but not too tired to masturbate.
Sometimes you don't want sex, you just want an orgasm.
I don't know why, it just happens that way.
many people I know describe the same thing. Male
and female.
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Originally Posted by JamesGirl
I have to disagree. Porn is "Sexually explicit pictures, writing, or other material whose primary purpose is to cause sexual arousal."
A girl dancing in a thong, doing a strip tease, or shaking her ass for the camera is porn. I would post links to the videos he was watching but I don't think that would be allowed. Seriously, the video he watched over and over was of a girl on her hands and knees with her ass to the camera shaking it so it would be the same view as if he where doing her doggy style. Thats porn to me.
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It is porn, but it's soft porn.
Soft porn, you can buy in newsagents. Men's mags, women's mags. many advertisements are technically soft porn.
Soft porn has implied sex, rather than overt.
It's also porn to
you. Not to many others.
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Originally Posted by sunshineleith
Okay, to me, this DOES put a different perspective on your relationship. It sounds like he has hangups. Most guys would be thrilled if their SO would watch porn with them, dress up/wigs, toys, etc - yet he is not interested?
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Possibly, but with many men, porn is "their thing".
It's a kind of escape, to get away from it all, to be free, if you like. It's "me" time.
again, they need to talk this through like responsible adults. Not be all Rita Hayworth about it.
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Originally Posted by kaykay
the reason to view it is for sexual stimulation. So close enough.
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As a young man, (and sometimes as an older man!!) you can get sexual stimulation from riding on a bus. Will you stop your s/o from going on buses?
Yes, it probably is for sexual stimulation, but, he is in a relationship with her, he is not dead.
Sexual stimulation can come in all forms.
Sex and love are seperate things.
sex and masturbation are seperate things.
If they are having sexual, or relationship problems, they will need to be sorted out. Then this will seem like a storm in a teacup.