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Old 02-08-2010, 09:08 PM
 
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MMichelle Simple question - Answer is NO. I could not "settle" for someone I didn't find attractive. Frankly, I wouldn't even date someone I wasn't attracted to.


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No, I'd rather be happily single than with someone who I have no attraction to. There's a difference between being alone and being lonely.
Ditto. Not to mention that I don't think it's very fair to the other person that they were just "settled for". I wouldn't want someone to just settle for me.

sierraAZ At this point in my life there isn't really any good reason to settle for somebody I'm not attracted to.

I see many in here who think the same.
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Old 02-08-2010, 09:10 PM
 
Location: South Florida
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With all this talk of settling and leagues and what not im just curious

I know i cant be with somebody i have not even a slight attracion to physically..

If my "league" is women i have no atraction to then ill be single the rest of my life because i cant do it...

So would you settle with somebody you have no phyiscal attraction to just becsaue its all you can get or would you wait evne if it meant a good chance of never getting a person you are attracted to?
Um, check out my appropriate lover thread.
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Old 02-08-2010, 09:41 PM
 
Location: California
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Fortunately it's not an all or nothing question. You can be alone in a romantic sense, but have close friends who keep you company so you are not "alone" . It just comes down to sex then right? As in "would you rather have sex with someone you wern't attracted to or not have sex at all unless you pay someone attractive".
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Old 02-08-2010, 09:49 PM
 
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This might be the saddest post I've read on this forum.
This is the saddest thread I've seen on this forum. However, there is little here that I didn't already know.
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Old 02-08-2010, 09:52 PM
 
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Fortunately it's not an all or nothing question. You can be alone in a romantic sense, but have close friends who keep you company so you are not "alone" . It just comes down to sex then right? As in "would you rather have sex with someone you wern't attracted to or not have sex at all unless you pay someone attractive".
I dont mean alone in isolation from the world im just talking no relationship and no sort of effection and companionship from the oppsoite sex..
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Old 02-08-2010, 09:52 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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This is the saddest thread I've seen on this forum.
And what exactly is so sad about it?
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Old 02-08-2010, 10:15 PM
 
Location: Where the sun always shines
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Women shouldn't even respond to this post b/c women get with men they are not attracted to all the time. But for a me as a man, impossible. A man cannot be with a women he is not attracted to because he cannot get aroused. Thats why its a little harder for me to marry for money. Personally, i'd rather be by my dammed self, unless I just want a friend b/c I'm really old
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Old 02-09-2010, 12:58 AM
 
Location: Sunset Mountain
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I'd rather be alone.....if I am not attracted to the man, we're better off friends. Being alone would mean less laundry, less cooking, and less scrubbing of the toilet!
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Old 02-09-2010, 01:05 AM
 
Location: Verde Valley AZ
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EXACTLY!!!

And on that note I can think of tonnes of what I would consider very unattractive people who have hooked up with someone who also isn't bowled over by their physical features so much, but whenever they hear them speak they go weak at the knees.

Attraction is a very interesting thing actually.

Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder AND we are all attracted to different things at different times in our lives.
Something I've thought about now and then, especially when things like this come up... What if all people were born blind. How would they choose a mate they were attracted to? Would they still depend so much on the physical attraction? Would they then choose according to the other senses? Would they insist that they wanted a beautiful partner? Wouldn't physical attraction be something of a moot point?

Just another of my random thoughts....
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Old 02-09-2010, 01:12 AM
 
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Okay, you got me. There's no way I'm dieing alone.

That's why, when I reach around , eh,70(?), if I don't have a hot person by my side by then, I'm going out to find me a mesmerizing fella who doesn't have to be too hot, but it would help if he was, and get us married, or to live together.
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