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Old 02-09-2010, 12:17 AM
 
Location: lala land
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(This is a hypothetical question, so please don't take it personally.)

If a woman is dating someone, but she is also dating other men at the same time but she is not committed to any of them, is this a turn off to men or a turn on. Meaning, the woman is just dating, not sleeping around, not cheating. Would a guy be more interested in a girl if he saw he had competition or would he be turned off?

I can see it both ways. I can see how if a guy liked the challenge he would want to try for the girl. But then there are also guys who would be turned off because they would think the girl was just playing games with them. So what is your take on it?

What would you think? And if you're a woman, how would you feel if it was a guy?
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Old 02-09-2010, 12:23 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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A long, long time ago in a galaxy far, far away I would have thought such a situation bad but I then I realized that a woman who is not committed yet can do whatever she wants, But she better not get upset at me because so can I.
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Old 02-09-2010, 12:29 AM
 
Location: The High Seas
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In theory it's good. The reality though is that you'd always be wondering if the other person is in fact screwing around.
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Old 02-09-2010, 12:36 AM
 
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I'm a woman, and would not like for a man to be dating many others at the same time as me. In fact, when I see a man is constantly dating women without a commitment of any kind, I see him as shallow and move on as fast as I can on to someone who knows what he wants.
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Old 02-09-2010, 12:40 AM
 
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(This is a hypothetical question, so please don't take it personally.)

If a woman is dating someone, but she is also dating other men at the same time but she is not committed to any of them, is this a turn off to men or a turn on. Meaning, the woman is just dating, not sleeping around, not cheating. Would a guy be more interested in a girl if he saw he had competition or would he be turned off?

I can see it both ways. I can see how if a guy liked the challenge he would want to try for the girl. But then there are also guys who would be turned off because they would think the girl was just playing games with them. So what is your take on it?

What would you think? And if you're a woman, how would you feel if it was a guy?
Sounds like someone is preparing to manipulate some unsuspecting victim.
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Old 02-09-2010, 12:48 AM
 
Location: lala land
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Sounds like someone is preparing to manipulate some unsuspecting victim.
Thanks for not making it personal
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Old 02-09-2010, 12:51 AM
 
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Thanks for not making it personal
You set 'em up, I knock 'em down, Babycakes.
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Old 02-09-2010, 01:12 AM
 
Location: Somewhere on Earth
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Depends on the situation...2 or less dates, the woman is free to date whomever at the same time. After the 3rd, choose one as it's starting to get serious.
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Old 02-09-2010, 07:38 AM
 
Location: North America
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If a woman is dating someone, but she is also dating other men at the same time but she is not committed to any of them, is this a turn off to men or a turn on. Meaning, the woman is just dating, not sleeping around, not cheating. Would a guy be more interested in a girl if he saw he had competition or would he be turned off?
Even if it was as innocent as your scenario. It would be a huge turn off for me. I don't play the field and would not be interested in a woman who does. And it wouldn't matter how many dates we'd been on, in fact I wouldn't go on a FIRST date with a woman who's already dating other guys.

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I can see it both ways. I can see how if a guy liked the challenge he would want to try for the girl. But then there are also guys who would be turned off because they would think the girl was just playing games with them. So what is your take on it?
It's simple...I want a woman who wants me. Not one I have to constantly try to convince and prove myself too as compared to other guys.
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Old 02-09-2010, 07:57 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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Initially it wouldn't be a big deal, but after a few dates it would be a turn off for me. While I do like a challenge, I'm not into the competition games.
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