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Do you have to have the legal component? Can't you make that commitment without it? Unless you are religious and then I accept how religious people are.
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Originally Posted by WFW&P
Again, the reason why you married, unless it is an arranged or shotgun marriage.
I'm religious. That's what I meant by "faith." Faith in my partner is a given else I'd not have married in the first place. Unfortunately, the first wife wasn't faithful but that didn't deter me from entering into my current marriage. It just proved I was wrong about the first one but fallibility is part of the human condition.
I agree with all the posts. Another consideration is that maybe your friends hate the attention prospective lovers are giving you, and resent the fact that not only are you already married, but are stealing their thunder as well.
I invite my married friends out for meals, shopping, movies, hanging out, etc. BUT I will NOT invite them out for a night on the town to a club because I don't want their husbands' all over my azz for taking them out to a place that mainly caters to a singles crowd. Because then I become the "bad" friend. When they actually mean "that single friend."
Wow, I thought I was crazy in feeling this way. Every since my husband and I got married, things suddenly changed overnight (though we've been together for over a decade). My friends more or less stopped talking to me and I never get invited out. When I invite them out, it seems they always have some excuse. I guess they weren't my friends to begin with.
Wow, I thought I was crazy in feeling this way. Every since my husband and I got married, things suddenly changed overnight (though we've been together for over a decade). My friends more or less stopped talking to me and I never get invited out. When I invite them out, it seems they always have some excuse. I guess they weren't my friends to begin with.
I don 't think that's necessarily the case. You had a major, life-changing event they don't have or haven't had. You've simply moved outside of their comfort zone. It's more human nature than rejection. They also probably assume you want to spend your time with your husband and aren't comfortable with the idea of a married woman in a singles environment.
Well I dont think that just cuz your married your life stops. However if I wanna party all the time ill just stay single. Becuase thats a single lifestyle.
And I wouldnt want to marry a girl that wanted to go to a club on a regular basis. I want her to have her friends and her life. But shakin her a$$ at the club isnt something I want her doing often. Just my thing though.
But see, my friends and I never hung out in clubs or bars to begin with (not in the past 9 years or so), and I've been with my husband for 10 years so marriage hasn't really changed anything. It's as if the 'title' of being married has built some sort of invisible wall.
Well I dont think that just cuz your married your life stops. However if I wanna party all the time ill just stay single. Becuase thats a single lifestyle.
And I wouldnt want to marry a girl that wanted to go to a club on a regular basis. I want her to have her friends and her life. But shakin her a$$ at the club isnt something I want her doing often. Just my thing though.
Quoted for truth.
The simple fact of the matter is that you are now a waste when it comes to a single girls' night out. You're that girl that might scare away the game because no guy in a group (unless he's the type that will try to sleep with a married woman) wants to entertain the married gal in the group. It's one thing to the be the guy who entertains the ugly chick who is likely to c-ck block unless she gets some and entirely different to be the guy who has to chit chat with the married chick. Besides, the married chick will probably c-ck block regardless because she already has a man at home so she feels she has nothing to lose by doing so and that's why most friends, female or otherwise, stop hanging out with you once you get married.
Interests and habits DO change once you are married. For example, I still have a few single friends out there (hell, one of them was in my wedding party) but we never get together any more. I'm more interested in actually spending time with my friends while they are more focused on hunting for vagina. I have married friends as well (mostly from work) and we have way more in common and much more to talk about like paying a mortgage and the sacrifices we make in order to do so every month or complaining about our wives. Meanwhile, all my single friends ever want to do is blow their paycheck on a weekend trip or at some meet market bar or club. See? My single friends and I are no longer compatible. To married men a guys' night out is bowling or getting together to watch or play a sport but to single men, a guys' night out is getting together for the hunt.
Going out dancing is great too but I don't think that you should ever do it without your spouse once you are married because it sends out the wrong message. Hell, I even thought that going to a club without my (then) girlfriend was pushing it when I hadn't married her yet because, again, the reason for guys going out to clubs is getting some.
And for the poster who said that she is hotter since she got married because more guys are hitting on her; I highly doubt it. Chances are that you're just noticing it more now than before because now you can't do anything about it.
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Meanwhile, all my single friends ever want to do is blow their paycheck on a weekend trip or at some meet market bar or club. See? My single friends and I are no longer compatible. To married men a guys' night out is bowling or getting together to watch or play a sport but to single men, a guys' night out is getting together for the hunt. 
