I'm Married Not Dead (girlfriend, woman, love, friend)

[Dbl-r]

Originally Posted by MsRiss7383

So you basically are saying I will never be able to do things with friends again?

Basically yes, it will never be the same with the same friends I don't think.
You'll develop other relationships and friends that Will have a whole different set of values and beliefs, life will change and then you'll panic with that first Grey hair

[MsRiss7383]

Originally Posted by Dbl-r

Basically yes, it will never be the same with the same friends I don't think.
You'll develop other relationships and friends that Will have a whole different set of values and beliefs, life will change and then you'll panic with that first Grey hair

As long as I don't have to be friends with people as doom and gloom as you. My friends have the beliefs and values that I do, marriage doesn't change my beliefs and values.

[the minx]

I don't think I purposely avoid married friends, but they are not the first that come to mind when I want to get together.

I'm single and pretty free-spirited. Like it or not, there are certain things that I can do that a married person usually cannot - at least not without checking in first or whatever. And if a married person was as free-spirited as I am, I would question their marriage.

Unfortunately, a great number of marrieds do come as a package - and, well - that's just annoying.

[Dbl-r]

Originally Posted by MsRiss7383

As long as I don't have to be friends with people as doom and gloom as you. My friends have the beliefs and values that I do, marriage doesn't change my beliefs and values.

Wait I'm sorry your friends don't treat you the same any more now that you have married.
No doom and gloom here MsRiss just a reality check. I'll let you pick that one up, thank you.
Good luck!

[MsRiss7383]

Originally Posted by Dbl-r

Wait I'm sorry your friends don't treat you the same any more now that you have married.
No doom and gloom here MsRiss just a reality check. I'll let you pick that one up, thank you.
Good luck!

Sorry I should have bashed you like that, but I am just so annoyed because I'm the same person I've always been and I don't know how to help people see that. I signed a piece of paper...I didn't morph into another person. I'm frustrated with the situation and am just hoping you are wrong because if that is right..it's just stupid.

[Dbl-r]

Originally Posted by MsRiss7383

Sorry I should have bashed you like that, but I am just so annoyed because I'm the same person I've always been and I don't know how to help people see that. I signed a piece of paper...I didn't morph into another person. I'm frustrated with the situation and am just hoping you are wrong because if that is right..it's just stupid.

Your good! not a problem you'll suffer many more growing pains than this, it's just the beginning.

[Kishka]

Originally Posted by MsRiss7383

Sorry I should have bashed you like that, but I am just so annoyed because I'm the same person I've always been and I don't know how to help people see that. I signed a piece of paper...I didn't morph into another person. I'm frustrated with the situation and am just hoping you are wrong because if that is right..it's just stupid.

IMO, this has nothing to do with your friends and everything to do with how you are feeling about getting married. A little harmless buyer's remorse, if you will. Happily married people make the adjustment and seriously appreciate their status. Take a look inside your heart, ask yourself what's going on, figure it out and stop with the 'grass is greener' mentality. All the best!

[teatime]

Originally Posted by MsRiss7383

Sorry I should have bashed you like that, but I am just so annoyed because I'm the same person I've always been and I don't know how to help people see that. I signed a piece of paper...I didn't morph into another person. I'm frustrated with the situation and am just hoping you are wrong because if that is right..it's just stupid.

Well, yes, you did and, no, it's not. You're married now; officially taken; off the market. Your single friends are not. That's why they point it out when guys come over to the table. They're eligible to flirt with them, have fun, and hook up if they want. You cannot.

If your priorities aren't different than theirs, they should be. Things aren't the same anymore. And we singles usually don't like to go out with marrieds.

[the minx]

Originally Posted by teatime

Well, yes, you did and, no, it's not. You're married now; officially taken; off the market. Your single friends are not. That's why they point it out when guys come over to the table. They're eligible to flirt with them, have fun, and hook up if they want. You cannot.

If your priorities aren't different than theirs, they should be. Things aren't the same anymore. And we singles usually don't like to go out with marrieds.

Yeah, that's what I meant. lol

[MsRiss7383]

I didn't say my priorities weren't different than theirs. My beliefs and values haven't changed. I lived with my husband for 4 years before we got married and we dated for 6, so my priorities haven't changed with marriage.