I'm Married Not Dead (wife, marriage, women, single)

[MsRiss7383]

Hi, Do any of you younger women or men feel like your friends assume that you won't go out with them or do fun things since you are married? I recently confronted some of my friends because they never ask me to go out anymore. They said they didn't think I'd want to because I'm married. The one time I did go out with them (they are all single) a few guys came over and joined our table. When I dared open my mouth to join the conversation with the guys, my friend said, "just so you know, she is married" Instantly I felt like I wasn't entitled to even speak. Does any one else get this assumption that since you are married, you don't want to have fun anymore? I feel so old compared to my friends when they act this way!

[Curmudgeon]

You mean you didn't get the memo? Marriage causes you to put on 10 years and 20 pounds. I thought everyone knew that.! It's part of the package!

[MsRiss7383]

Originally Posted by Curmudgeon

You mean you didn't get the memo? Marriage causes you to put on 10 years and 20 pounds. I thought everyone knew that.! It's part of the package!

You know it's crazy, but its like people think that. I got married 7 months ago and it changed overnight. I lived with my husband for several years before that and wasn't treated that way, but sign a piece of paper and suddenly you are an old, washed up hag in the eyes of others.

[Dbl-r]

well your off the market now and no longer part of the gang!
Thats not going to change and thats OK, you'll be just fine!

[MsRiss7383]

Why can't I be a part of the gang? Because I signed a piece of paper? I was part of the gang when I was in a relationship.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by Curmudgeon

You mean you didn't get the memo? Marriage causes you to put on 10 years and 20 pounds. I thought everyone knew that.! It's part of the package!

You remind me of the wife of a coworker I used to work closely with and she was very jealous because at the time I was divorced (well, she's 10 years older than he is, too). When I got married again, she congratulated me with the following words - Now you're old and married like the rest of us! Hello, I was married before... I guess I was old and married, then became young and threatening, then old and married again! I haven't heard how she feels about it now that I'm young and threatening again, but her husband and I no longer work in the same department, so hopefully she found some peace!

[KickAssArmyChick]

Originally Posted by Curmudgeon

You mean you didn't get the memo? Marriage causes you to put on 10 years and 20 pounds. I thought everyone knew that.! It's part of the package!

No kidding. I looked so much better before I got married. My skin has never been this bad, I've put on weight and stress is my middle name...

[MsRiss7383]

Originally Posted by KickAssArmyChick

No kidding. I looked so much better before I got married. My skin has never been this bad, I've put on weight and stress is my middle name...

I'm sorry, why is that?

[Dbl-r]

Originally Posted by MsRiss7383

Why can't I be a part of the gang? Because I signed a piece of paper? I was part of the gang when I was in a relationship.

ah but you stepped out and made a commitment that places an invisible wall up that you can't see and everyone around you feels.

[MsRiss7383]

Originally Posted by Dbl-r

ah but you stepped out and made a commitment that places an invisible wall up that you can't see and everyone around you feels.

So you basically are saying I will never be able to do things with friends again?