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Depends on the situation. I met my last boyfriend because his boss (who I was friends with) asked if I would be willing to talk to him about my job field and how to get into it. So our first few meetings were purely professional and his looks/character were not a factor. After a while, though, I realized I really liked his company and he became more and more attractive. Hell, we'd still be together if I didn't have to move back to the US.
Yeah, I can see it happening under such circumstances.
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Excellent! A little bit of fog cover, but it will warm up nicely by the afternoon.
(btw, it's a nature preserve behind my house that is part of an estuary, and it's full of pygmy oak trees and manzanita, so that's why it's called the Elfin Forest )
I would just like to say that personality does indeed impact how pretty I think I girl is. And I don't mean just attractiveness (where you're attracted to the other person's personality even if you don't find them physically attractive). Strange perhaps but definitely a fact...as I get to know this girl she is looking better to me
Since people can't change their looks I don't think they literally get 'prettier' in time BUT their personality can come out and make them 'shine'. Attitudes and ideas can be changed because of what's 'inside' as opposed to the 'outside'. I think it's unfortunate that so many won't even give others the chance to 'shine' just because they don't like how they look at first sight.
Since people can't change their looks I don't think they literally get 'prettier' in time BUT their personality can come out and make them 'shine'. Attitudes and ideas can be changed because of what's 'inside' as opposed to the 'outside'. I think it's unfortunate that so many won't even give others the chance to 'shine' just because they don't like how they look at first sight.
Agreed. And there's another aspect that I've noticed, when I first met this girl my brain automatically picked out features of her face that I didn't find attractive (say, the shape of her jaw for example). But as I get to know and like her now I find myself being drawn to other features that I do find a attractive (like her eyes).
That may well be. Ref my response above to toes: I am NOT happy with the person I've become in response to her actions and attitude during the course of this marriage. I find myself saying and doing things I once vowed I'd NEVER be the kind of person to say or do.
It's very easy to believe one thing from an outside perspective, quite another to live it.
I find it odd, however, that the pleasant, happy stories of how a woman became "beautiful" are acceptable, while stories of how a person, any person, became ugly, are not when the two are merely opposite sides of the same coin.
An old poem to consider:
"Mistress Polly Wittenhouse Lived on Whetstone Alley, And she was like an angel To little orphan Sally, And she was like a harlot To the lass across the way, A 'good-un' to the slavey Who made her bed each day. And she was like a siren With the devil in her eye To any roving sailor man As he was passing by.
"So Mistress Polly Wittenhouse Was either good or bad, According to the need or greed Each of her judges had, According as her living Threw a shadow on their own. The sailors flung her kisses And the lass she cast a stone. And Sally and the slavey They prayed for her each night, And all of them that judged her Knew that they judged her right."
Excellent! A little bit of fog cover, but it will warm up nicely by the afternoon.
(btw, it's a nature preserve behind my house that is part of an estuary, and it's full of pygmy oak trees and manzanita, so that's why it's called the Elfin Forest )
Agreed. And there's another aspect that I've noticed, when I first met this girl my brain automatically picked out features of her face that I didn't find attractive (say, the shape of her jaw for example). But as I get to know and like her now I find myself being drawn to other features that I do find a attractive (like her eyes).
I think it's kinda like reading a book multiple times. Every time I reread one I find things I missed before. Maybe it's the same type of thing? You DO pay more attention to other things than a face/body as time passes, although that's still important too.
I think it's kinda like reading a book multiple times. Every time I reread one I find things I missed before. Maybe it's the same type of thing? You DO pay more attention to other things than a face/body as time passes, although that's still important too.
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Sooo, um, no elves?
