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I love men...they are and can be more sensitive then women...and some of my best friends have been men (none of them being a physical intimacy)
but....I have sworn off dating and ever being married again...for many reasons, not just one.
I've never knows a confident man whom I've chosen for a spouse, not to mention, compatiblity...to me is very important. I no longer blame them, but myself, for choosing such inappropriate men for companions.
But men, to me, are very interesting creatures....some of them, with hearts of gold....sensitive, intellectual, kind, giving and thoughtful human beings....
creme
Last edited by cremebrulee; 06-18-2007 at 09:16 AM..
How do you become involved in a relationship without opening yourself up to the posibility of being hurt??
When I say relationship, I mean something more then just mindless sex...
You have that chance through the choices you make, it is the CHOICES YOU MAKE and no one else. Meaning that no one can hurt you unless you let yourself be hurt. Believe it or not men get hurt on relationships too, but that's life. You live, you learn, you get hurt, you get over it, you move on. Not every women is a be-ahch and not every man is an a $$. Being hurt is a choice you made, by the prior choices you made. No one escapes it, it's called life.
And I know what a "relationship" is, I've been married over 20 years. Heres an example ... when my wife digs into her little 'bag of pain' which you ladies know what that is ... that event that took place many years ago the the man has long forgotten, that some women like to dig up and stab you in the chest with it ... with "Well I remember when you .... blah blah blah, yadda yadda yadda whatever" you choose to be hurt or not with that little bit of history. I respond with "Hmm, I don't remember that, very odd you need to dig up the distant past make a case, could we get back to the present please."
Point is you can't be hurt unless you let it happen, barring being hit in the face with a skillet, that would hurt.
I love men...they are and can be more sensitive then women...and some of my best friends have been men (none of them being a physical intimacy)
but....I have sworn off dating and ever being married again...for many reasons, not just one.
I've never knows a confident man whom I've chosen for a spouse, not to mention, compatiblity...to me is very important. I no longer blame them, but myself, for choosing such inappropriate men for companions.
But men, to me, are very interesting creatures....some of them, with hearts of gold....sensitive, intellectual, kind, giving and thoughtful human beings....
creme
If they're more sensitive then women, good chance they love men too.
I am always talking to women who after a bad relationship or divorce have decided that Men are worthless and have sworn off men. They have many girl friends who provide emotional support anyway. I rarely talk to a man who swears off women after a divorce or bad relationship. Men quickly get back into dating and usually get married again quickly. Is this true in your experience and if so, why?
I wouldn't touch another woman if you paid me to. Since my divorce I haven't even touched a woman - seven years without a kiss, hug or sex. I'm glad I'm single. I would never get involved with a man, either, just because I hate women doesn't mean I'm gay. I'm just happy without a woman in my life and I want it to stay that way.
I am always talking to women who after a bad relationship or divorce have decided that Men are worthless and have sworn off men. They have many girl friends who provide emotional support anyway. I rarely talk to a man who swears off women after a divorce or bad relationship. Men quickly get back into dating and usually get married again quickly. Is this true in your experience and if so, why?
Some of those same women then either have lesbian experiences, finds out she is a closet lesbian or they have an intimate emotional connection with a female that eventually turns sexual.
Hmm, well it's been exactly 4 weeks since I found out my husband is gay, and I'm actually excited about maybe someday dating a man who actually likes women--what a novel thing that would be. My grandmother and mother swore off ever finding another man, but I'm just not made that way--I love men, and could never turn to another woman for intimacy. That said, I have no idea yet whether I'll ever be ready to get married again--I guess I'd better get comfortable being single first--I've been married almost half my life. I don't feel like I want a man to support me--I just think men are more fun to be with.
I think simply our brains work differently. Women tend to internalize a lot while men are quite opposite. We are more....... hormonal. Men are taken aback by the things most women take offense to. In a similar fashion women tend to inflate what may seem like insignificant things to their male counterparts. Thus, if hurt, women tend to swear off ALL men while men are left baffled ready to once more play the field.
I am always talking to women who after a bad relationship or divorce have decided that Men are worthless and have sworn off men. They have many girl friends who provide emotional support anyway. I rarely talk to a man who swears off women after a divorce or bad relationship. Men quickly get back into dating and usually get married again quickly. Is this true in your experience and if so, why?
Women are looking for love and a relationship, men are more interested in satisfying their sexual needs. So if a woman can't find love and gives up on the search, having just sex isn't that important to stay in the singles scene. The men are just following the little head in their pants. They can manage on having purely sexual encounters without an emotional commitment just fine.
i agree. women are more independent. this is good.but i have seen more than one on college campus with her skirt hiked up and top yanked down yelling i am so glad i am not dating.
it happens.
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