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Originally Posted by sierraAZ
I suppose I could've chosen a different word, but that wouldn't have made much of a difference because the bottom line is that you, as a guy of the same age, can't really relate to what a girl of that age is attracted to. As you can see, most of the disgusted responders are men. That should tell you something...
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You're very right, i'm not a woman and i'm not going to be able to relate about certain things. But what attracts someone is not gender based, and even if you're a man you can with a sharp eye and open mind find almost the same things in another man attractive, as your girlfriend could. Take homosexual men for an example, it's not unheard that they can sit down with girlfriends of theirs and talk about a man, and find the same things attractive. That you're attractive to males over females might be a gene thing (I'm not going into that discussion here though). But that you can find a man attractive, that is not.
And for the OP. It's not impossible, and there are certain things she might find genuinly attractive and worth going for. Alot of them have been mentioned in this post but i'm going to turn the coin around and not look at it with a chanse of gold digging.
Security - It's always a security to be with an older man, They have in most cases settled down, and have a stable work and know what they want in their life.
Less Drama - You will find less drama with an older man, he have been through those stages and have hopefully learnt from it.
Appriciation - You might feel more appriciated with an older man, their not going to run away to watch fotball and leave you alone. Or join their mates to the pub for a drink and leave you at home. They spend time with you, and can appriciate you for who you are. Take you out for dinner and be a gentleman.
Fidelity - The chanse is very slim that he will end up cheating on you, if you get into a seriouse relationship. By this point in life he's most probably learnt that lesson or been smart enough to never put himself into that situation.
Charismatic / Gentleman - At the age of 49 you're bound to have picked up a certain skill or two when it comes to talking, or being polite. They can be true gentlemen, and that can be very charming and make you feel very special.
Money - This isn't gold digging, but they do have enough money to take care of themself, and take you out for dinner. If it gets seriouse a vacation aswell, they can treat you great, and instead of wanting that brand new car they could spend some money on you.
Independent - From having lived those years, they are in a stable environment and most probably secure in themself and what they want. They are independent and can take care of themself, and don't have to be stuck to your hip. They have their own lives.
Experience - Anything from life experience, to when it comes to bed. Some of the best lovers tend to be the older ones, that have had time to pick up a trick or two.
Sex appeal - Older men can have a certain sex appeal that you can't find in younger. It's anything from the experience, to the looks, to the mature and appriciating person.
Conversation - You can talk about different things, you can have a conversation that is mature and talk about certain subjects you would have a harder time talking with younger men about. Like your feelings, your fears or personal things like that.
There are several more that could be mentioned, and this is just a general look at many attractive things. It's a personal thing, whatever we find attractive and what we don't. But some of theese might be the reason she wants to spend time with you, and there might be reasons i haven't mentioned.
In the end the choise is yours, if you want to take the risk or not. And as long as you have in mind that she might be a gold digger, why not give it a chanse? Hopefully she will prove you wrong.
Aaaand with that i'm going to take my leave. Have a lovely night sierra!