Lusting over a Co Worker... (boyfriend, interested, never, interest)

[smel]

Originally Posted by samston

Morality is relative, so why is cheating an issue?

The issue for the OP should be her professional reputation, being able to work comfortably in the workplace.

No, morality is not relative. Cheating is cheating period. If you know someone is married, why would you let them use you like that? We are not animals. We are supposed to think before we have sex. If we don't care enough about ourselves to expect people to treat us with respect, then they won't. If a married person has sex outside of their marriage, they are not being honest with themselves, their spouse, or the person they cheat with. Are you only concerned with yourself and your work environment? Are there children involved? Is the spouse at home ignorant of the true character of their spouse? Do you really care so little about yourself that you are just willing to be the other woman?

[samston]

Originally Posted by smel

No, morality is not relative. Cheating is cheating period. If you know someone is married, why would you let them use you like that? We are not animals. We are supposed to think before we have sex. If we don't care enough about ourselves to expect people to treat us with respect, then they won't. If a married person has sex outside of their marriage, they are not being honest with themselves, their spouse, or the person they cheat with. Are you only concerned with yourself and your work environment? Are there children involved? Is the spouse at home ignorant of the true character of their spouse? Do you really care so little about yourself that you are just willing to be the other woman?

Morality is always relative. Most in Western society believe this.

[smel]

Originally Posted by samston

Morality is always relative. Most in Western society believe this.

So, you believe cheating is ok as long as it doesn't bother the workplace? Is it ok if your SO cheats on you, as long as she keeps her job safe?

[bbrian12]

DON'T DO IT
don't date a co-worker and especially dont mess with a married guy
no good will come from either one

[samston]

Originally Posted by smel

So, you believe cheating is ok as long as it doesn't bother the workplace? Is it ok if your SO cheats on you, as long as she keeps her job safe?

perhaps.

[temptation001]

Originally Posted by Island Lover

Ive been lusting over this guy at work since he started here last year, I work with all guys mostly and Im a divorced female (33) and there are a few guys here that are married but they talk to me all the time and I can see that they want more than talk...but wont say it. I mean come on people you can tell when someone wants you but cant say anything because of their current status and due to the fact that they dont want to risk a government job....what is one to do. (in my case) If they only give me more hint , I will go for it and wont say a word to anyone.

You might not say anything, but all it takes is him telling one friend that works there, and everybody will know about it eventually.

Besides, it seems to me that you want him more than he wants you. If he was a cheater, he would of given you a hint. When you make a move, you might not like the response. Since he already knows how you feel, and hasn't done anything about it. I don't think he is so desirous of sex, that he will risk losing his job. Once you tell him, and he rebuffs you, there will be a bigger distance between you and him, because he won't allow you to get him fired. You need to talk to a friend at the office, before you complicate matters for him and probably for yourself.

[CeciliaBdoomed]

So you decided that as of the new year ...your going to just be an awful haggard woman who'll *uck anything? Ok yeah good luck with that.

[miyu]

Originally Posted by Antlered Chamataka

Conversely, if you work on your promotion, you'll get a raise. Something productive

Conversely, she can get another kind of raise in his pants. And if she gets knocked up, it can also be a form of production.

[Lost&Found]

Don't mistake these men's sexual interest in you as a personal compliment. Sometimes it says more about their dubious ability to have meaningless sex with an available person who they don't care about, as opposed to your level of attractiveness.

[carlitasway]

Don't have sex with men you work with....this is coming from a person who had to learn that lesson a couple of times. And especially stay away if he's married...didn't have to learn that one but it's just common sense.