Lusting over a Co Worker... (married, woman, lover, single)

[Island Lover]

Ive been lusting over this guy at work since he started here last year, I work with all guys mostly and Im a divorced female (33) and there are a few guys here that are married but they talk to me all the time and I can see that they want more than talk...but wont say it. I mean come on people you can tell when someone wants you but cant say anything because of their current status and due to the fact that they dont want to risk a government job....what is one to do. (in my case) If they only give me more hint , I will go for it and wont say a word to anyone.

[dave nz]

Have fun jumping his bones

[dgfurman]

I know it seems fun and exciting now, but I'm telling you - DON'T DO IT! You have SO much to lose, and very little to gain. Yes, there is an off chance that a relationship will work out, but probably not. And in the meantime you've risked your job, your reputation, your dignity and self worth (ESP. if your coworker is married). And btw, if your coworker is married.......MAJOR don't do it. That is a whole other can of worms that will tear you apart (outside of what it does to his family).

[Currency Pair Crocodile]

Originally Posted by Island Lover

Ive been lusting over this guy at work since he started here last year, I work with all guys mostly and Im a divorced female (33) and there are a few guys here that are married but they talk to me all the time and I can see that they want more than talk...but wont say it. I mean come on people you can tell when someone wants you but cant say anything because of their current status and due to the fact that they dont want to risk a government job....what is one to do. (in my case) If they only give me more hint , I will go for it and wont say a word to anyone.

Conversely, if you work on your promotion, you'll get a raise. Something productive

[TakeAhike]

Originally Posted by Island Lover

Ive been lusting over this guy at work since he started here last year, I work with all guys mostly and Im a divorced female (33) and there are a few guys here that are married but they talk to me all the time and I can see that they want more than talk...but wont say it. I mean come on people you can tell when someone wants you but cant say anything because of their current status and due to the fact that they dont want to risk a government job....what is one to do. (in my case) If they only give me more hint , I will go for it and wont say a word to anyone.

Is the object of your affections also married?

This sort of thing can backfire on you. Even if you won't say a word--someone will find out and there will be gossip.

People are like that.

[JustJulia]

Leave the married ones alone.

[dave nz]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

Leave the married ones alone.

Agree, I missed that part.

[cpg35223]

Just don't do it. Or else you'll be known as the woman who boffed Biff in the supply closet. Your other female co-workers will keep you at arms' length. The other men will think you're open to their advances, too. Every single promotion or benefit you get will be scrutinized by the rest of the office because you slept with the boss--even if you actually haven't.

If you're really that hot and bothered, just wander down to the grocery store and look for some good looking guy pushing a cart, stroll up to him and say, "Hey, Wanna?"

[funymann]

Originally Posted by Island Lover

Ive been lusting over this guy at work since he started here last year, I work with all guys mostly and Im a divorced female (33) and there are a few guys here that are married but they talk to me all the time and I can see that they want more than talk...but wont say it. I mean come on people you can tell when someone wants you but cant say anything because of their current status and due to the fact that they dont want to risk a government job....what is one to do. (in my case) If they only give me more hint , I will go for it and wont say a word to anyone.

Grrrrrr..

You are a naughty girl.

[Curmudgeon]

Don't swim in the company pond!