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Isn't falling in love a choice? AND even supposing it isn't acknowledging you may have and then shifting your focus back to your overall plan and taking whatever steps necessary should fix it well enough.
No. Maybe I'm half gay but sometimes I have no control over who I'm falling in love with.
Lmao it just has to be something that makes you want to get on the first plane to anywhere-but-here when you think of entering a serious, long term relationship with this person.
Particularly if they have different mommies! The joy of it!
However, she'll have to do triple birth control with a sponge on the side (hopefully he'll be sponge-worthy!)l!
Try to imagine someone that you loved and they loved you, but you knew and they knew it could never work. Why walk away from it when you could enjoy it for as long as it lasts? That's really the answer that I'm posing. It happens all the time.
This comment makes me think that you can make it work. However, in my experience, if a woman loves me and in her mind our relationship won't work....she will want nothing to do with me. And not b/c I'm a bad guy but b/c she has a hard time being friends with me when still loves me and wants to be with me.
Trust me, when you find yourself truly in love, have admiration, respect and are in awe of YOUR guy, aka the ONE, you'll walk away from him if for some crazy reason you decide that it can't work. B/c it would kill you to talk to him and be friends with him when you can't be with this man that you love more than you can express with words.
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Having a friend with benefits is just about the sex. You don't travel with a friend with benefits, you don't take them to dinner. With a lover you do. That's the difference.
You can have FWB relationships that are about more than sex. FWBs travel together, have dinner together, go to concerts together, go to sporting events together and all b/c they enjoy each others company.
DG - I agree. Getting physical with someone usually raises the stakes. And what is said in theory, is much different in reality where human emotions are involved. Which is why I asked the question.
Younger men in general, don't seem to be very romantic. But I've dated men in their 40s who are just as clueless. I think it just depends on the person. But chances are if he was the total package - educated, mature, fun to be with - I would want more than just a fling.
Try to imagine someone that you loved and they loved you, but you knew and they knew it could never work. Why walk away from it you could enjoy it for as long as it lasts? That's really the answer that I'm posing. It happens all the time.
Having a friend with benefits is just about the sex. You don't travel with a friend with benefits, you don't take them to dinner. With a lover you do. That's the difference.
What I have bolded here is the reason why this sort of situation will not work for you right now.
You don't go into this sort of commitment-free situation thinking you can size the guy up and re-categorize him into Relationship material. You don't get to re-categorize anything; trying is a waste of time and will only leave you feeling bitter when the guy blows you off. As well he should, no one like a bait and switch technique. Besides, everyone knows that men don't re-categorize women from Sexual Fling to Girlfriend.
No. Maybe I'm half gay but sometimes I have no control over who I'm falling in love with.
Whatever emotions come your way you do have control over them; they just seem overwhelming because you never think to PRACTICE on controlling your emotions.
You should work on controlling your emotions otherwise somebody can just come along and control you.
Whatever emotions come your way you do have control over them; they just seem overwhelming because you never think to PRACTICE on controlling your emotions.
You should work on controlling your emotions otherwise somebody can just come along and control you.
Wait this thread isn't about me. I'm JSizz, and I'm AWEEEEeeeeeSSSSSSSSOooooooooomeeeeeeeeeee.
Nothing wrong with it, just don't try to fool yourself into thinking it's something special because you consider it "taking a lover" as opposed to just screwing someone who's nice to you.
Trust me, when you find yourself truly in love, have admiration, respect and are in awe of YOUR guy, aka the ONE, you'll walk away from him if for some crazy reason you decide that it can't work. B/c it would kill you to talk to him and be friends with him when you can't be with this man that you love more than you can express with words.
True. I cannot be just with friends with someone when I have been in love with them, I've been there. But if the relationship started on those grounds I think I would be ok with it.
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You don't go into this sort of commitment-free situation thinking you can size the guy up and re-categorize him into Relationship material. You don't get to re-categorize anything; trying is a waste of time and will only leave you feeling bitter when the guy blows you off. As well he should, no one like a bait and switch technique. Besides, everyone knows that men don't re-categorize women from Sexual Fling to Girlfriend.
Onglet - I never said anything about re-categorizing. I simply said if I met a man who was the total package, I would probably want something more serious. And who said a person can't change their mind? And yes, I have known men who have re-categorized, whatever that means. Emotions do change.
Nothing wrong with it, just don't try to fool yourself into thinking it's something special because you consider it "taking a lover" as opposed to just screwing someone who's nice to you.
Lover is a fluffy word.
I like fluffy words mmwwwwaaaa!
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