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I pose this question - and an article (I found many)
talk amongst yourselves
Who is happier - singles or married couples? Psychologies magazine investigates (http://www.handbag.com/relationships/couples/singlevmarried/ - broken link)
I asked because I'm waiting for the "Wow, marriage is so worth it feeling!!" to happen
I love my husband
But being single was easier and much more satisfying
After 8 years of marriage and 2 children. If you asked me 3 years ago if I thought marriage was a good idea, I would say NO. It's hard, you give up your life, you don't have as many choices, ect...
At year 5-6 my husband and I were on the verge of divorce. Once we hit rock bottom we were ready to split, we both decided to make a last stich effort. We just had our second child and had alot of stress! For the last two years I decided to take care of me, meditate on the word love and work hard on my communication skills and change my behavior. My husband saw that I was changing and it became contagious. We not only love each other, we value and respect each other. My husband and I now laugh that we had to go through hell to get to "heaven". We really have a beautiful relationship now, that has it's up's and down's (reality check), but it's just a wonderful place when you are totally satisfied with your partner and can get the "new love" feelings from an old love....very satisfying indeed.
It really doesn't have to be as hard as people make it.
I think you need to divide the "married" group into two categories: Happily married and unhappily married. Then I would say that happiness might be in the following order: happily married, single and unhappily married. I have several acquaintances who are in the last group and they seem to be worse off than when they were single.
Have been just as happy both. But have to say this, and that Marrieds must be happier:
Married people have always been happier, and muuuuch more pleasant to get along with in my work place experiences over 25 years - most of which, I've been single myself.
My single contemporaries have generally been more irritated, and more critical, compared to the married/long attatched ones. I have been guessing that perhaps it's because they don't have to "compete" anymore and are just more secure altogether??? But some have been in tough marriages, too, and didn't take it out on others.
Has been consistent with all ages, too (20s to 60s). And, as a woman, other single women have been the toughest challenges with their bad moods and nastiness, no matter their age...
Ronz, if you get married or even think about getting married, I am gonna personally come to wherever you are and beat some sense into you!!!
Well by that time I HOPE to be in CA!
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