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So I'm curious, if you approach guys routinely (as in more than ONCE! ) what kind of reaction do you usually get?
Each to their own..
The reaction i get from guys is mostly positive if i make the first move on them. They are always are polite and talk back even if not interested, and i have got a few guys numbers from approaching first on few different occasions in the past. But then the next morning when wake up from my hang over i get text messages from people i can't remember meeting i think to myself F^#%!
If it even progresses, from experience, the get to know each other period (dating if your American) didn't seem to last long and the main focus from the man was always only sex related. From this personal observation i have made a personal choice to not make the move on a guy or approach a guy first anymore. I have found that although men do respond well to confidence, they may lack trust in you cause they think if you were to eager to meet him you may behave the same way to other men, perhaps when he is not around. So ultimitly, you may loose the trust from the man very early on.
Now ill only show my confidence once i get the invitation to do so from a man who is interested in me.
First impressions last so in the first encounter, less is more.
I suppose what im trying to say is that the women approaching man thing works but generally this approach is successful in short term/casual relationships.
I don't have a problem approaching guys, I'll just smile, say hi, ask what their name is and put my hand up to shake their hand. Some guys will tell me their name or I've had guys just turn away or walk away (rude). And then I've had guys who I never approached follow me around like a puppy all night. I've run the gamut in both directions. The rude ones don't discourage me. I view them as a dodged bullet.
If it even progresses, from experience, the get to know each other period (dating if your American) didn't seem to last long and the main focus from the man was always only sex related.
Isn't that pretty much typical of guys whether you approach them or they approach you?
Yes, much respect to women who see what they want and go after it. It takes some of the work off us fellas from having to put ourselves out there all the time. If a woman was checkin' for me, I'd respect her for approaching me first because that tells me she's confident enough to snatch me up.
I approach guys, but then again, I also approach and start conversations with strangers in general, regardless of gender.
I've never been rebuffed, but I'm fairly friendly and don't look too creepy.
I'm not big on guys who insist on women always making the first move. It just strikes me as an easy way to avoid rejection. I'll have a great conversation with you, flirt with you, etc. but I am not going to ask you out to dinner. If you're interested and I have been clearly showing signs of interest in you, then ante up and ask me out. Most guys I know don't seem to have a problem doing so. And sure, you can say that a guy may just be painfully shy, but how am I supposed to read his brain and figure out that he really wants to ask me out, but is scared to do so?
The reaction i get from guys is mostly positive if i make the first move on them. They are always are polite and talk back even if not interested, and i have got a few guys numbers from approaching first on few different occasions in the past. But then the next morning when wake up from my hang over i get text messages from people i can't remember meeting i think to myself F^#%!
If it even progresses, from experience, the get to know each other period (dating if your American) didn't seem to last long and the main focus from the man was always only sex related. From this personal observation i have made a personal choice to not make the move on a guy or approach a guy first anymore. I have found that although men do respond well to confidence, they may lack trust in you cause they think if you were to eager to meet him you may behave the same way to other men, perhaps when he is not around. So ultimitly, you may loose the trust from the man very early on.
Now ill only show my confidence once i get the invitation to do so from a man who is interested in me.
First impressions last so in the first encounter, less is more.
I suppose what im trying to say is that the women approaching man thing works but generally this approach is successful in short term/casual relationships.
Doesn't work for me!
Hmm. I'd have made the assumption that you picked me out over other guys for some reason--and wouldn't "worry" about the fact that you approached me. Of course, I don't let it progress to sex very quickly, as I require some time to get to know and trust the person--a few weeks, at least.
I approach guys, but then again, I also approach and start conversations with strangers in general, regardless of gender.
I've never been rebuffed, but I'm fairly friendly and don't look too creepy.
I'm not big on guys who insist on women always making the first move. It just strikes me as an easy way to avoid rejection. I'll have a great conversation with you, flirt with you, etc. but I am not going to ask you out to dinner. If you're interested and I have been clearly showing signs of interest in you, then ante up and ask me out. Most guys I know don't seem to have a problem doing so. And sure, you can say that a guy may just be painfully shy, but how am I supposed to read his brain and figure out that he really wants to ask me out, but is scared to do so?
There's a show called "Demons" on BBC America. The "younger" female lead is very much into the male lead--but he's completely oblivious to her interest. It's made obvious to the audience, but he's looking at--well, pretty much everyone else.
I'll have a great conversation with you, flirt with you, etc. but I am not going to ask you out to dinner. If you're interested and I have been clearly showing signs of interest in you, then ante up and ask me out.
Would you like to go out with me, mango?
Seriously, that's all I ask. If a girl shows interest and maybe does a little flirting I will ask her out if I'm the slightest bit interested. In my case pursuit begets pursuit. If a girl makes it obvious she's interested in me and I feel the same way I'll reciprocate.
But if a girl plays hard to get or puts up a bunch of obstacles to make a guy prove how much he wants her or some crap like that, I'll just move on to someone else. I don't know who these guys are who like to chase after someone who forces him to do a song and dance, but I suspect those are the same guys who once catching their 'prize' wonder why she's a psychotic mess!
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) what kind of reaction do you usually get?
lol .. picture this u holding the guy by his underwear and he trying to escape your wrath !! lolz .. yelp yelp ! 
And then I've had guys who I never approached follow me around like a puppy all night. I've run the gamut in both directions. The rude ones don't discourage me. I view them as a dodged bullet. 
And sure, you can say that a guy may just be painfully shy, but how am I supposed to read his brain and figure out that he really wants to ask me out, but is scared to do so?
