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I don't see a problem with what your expectations are. The reason I say that is you are talking about important things. Things that really makes a person and defines them so absolutes matter. That's not being picky, its being a grown up.
Nothing in life is absolute. So what determines the "legitimate" reasons for choosing a date?
I have read a bunch of threads on these topics. Men say women have too many requirements, and I know a few cases of that, but I wonder if men have too few sometimes. For example, you decide not to go for a 2nd date with someone you met in real time (not online I have no experience with that). For me the following would be the main reasons why and the logic behind it:
Treating service staff like crap - Shows how you treat people you are not trying to impress
Hates cats and/or dogs - I have 2 dogs and 1 cat and yes I will chuck an 2nd date before the pets
Bigoted - Do I even have to give a why?
Fanatic about any religion/ideology - Fanatics scare me
Mentions salary - Yeah I am old school/British on this. Salary is not a topic for first or even 5th dates. Uncouth to say the best
Displays signs of uncontrollable temper - See bigoted commentary
Mentions prior criminal past and/or drug habit - See bigoted commentary
Shows signs of severe mental illness - Same as above
So I have a list of more than 3 items. I suspect most men have a long list for relationships, but a short one for "I'll date you until we have sex, so 2nd date is ok even if I do not like you much"
Hi typhoidmary,
If they were picking the right thing more often then it would not be an issue. What they don't quite get is one guy is at times one guy is making the list by lying and its to 3 different women.
I think both genders are picky to an extent. Being picky can be a good thing provided it's for the right person. For example, if you want someone with good moral character that's on your level educationally/financially and personality-wise, there's nothing wrong with that. Where the problem comes in is when men and women have a laundry list of mandates that THEY DON'T HAVE THEMSELVES. How you gonna require something of someone that you don't have/aren't willing to acquire yourself
I think certain people are pickier and it has nothing to do with sex. I know a guy who jumps from relationship to relationship to relationship with a matter of days in between. He went from single, to engaged, to single, to a relationship in about 2 months time. He even tried to get involved with me at one point. He is just really in need of someone to love and someone to love him. He had no requirements aside from his partner being female.
In that same story, there were the women who knew his past and had no problem being his new girl. They really had no requirements either. They also just wanted to be loved.
I think certain people are pickier and it has nothing to do with sex. I know a guy who jumps from relationship to relationship to relationship with a matter of days in between. He went from single, to engaged, to single, to a relationship in about 2 months time. He even tried to get involved with me at one point. He is just really in need of someone to love and someone to love him. He had no requirements aside from his partner being female.
In that same story, there were the women who knew his past and had no problem being his new girl. They really had no requirements either. They also just wanted to be loved.
So essentially, they were all willing to settle low on the scale, right?
Do you know (and can you tell us) how they all fared a few months or years later?
I think both genders are picky to an extent. Being picky can be a good thing provided it's for the right person. For example, if you want someone with good moral character that's on your level educationally/financially and personality-wise, there's nothing wrong with that. Where the problem comes in is when men and women have a laundry list of mandates that THEY DON'T HAVE THEMSELVES. How you gonna require something of someone that you don't have/aren't willing to acquire yourself
Very good point. Especially when it is in the "character" department. If you (universal) are not honest, caring and whatever, what makes you think an honest, caring whatever person would want to be with you?
NorthsideJacksonville your comment is absolutely perfect to address this issue ! straight to the point ..very very well said comrade .. but theres one plausible statement i'd like to point out .. Being picky can be a good thing provided it's for the right person. Now my friend, how would u know that the person you're in a relationship with is that Mr/Ms Right ? .. in my opinion people usually screen deep into a whole lot of things that seems to surface later from out of the blue .. and then they realize it was all a big mistake .. and the battle begins ..the so called Mr/Ms.Perfect we've picked on to live a life with, happens to be a creature from hell .. if not hell then someone turned stale .. can you please give your opinion to explain your above statement ..if im not wrong ..your views will be highly appreciated ..thanks for reading
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..your views will be highly appreciated ..thanks for reading 
