"I am not interested" yet he keeps writing. *sigh* (lover, older)

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by sophialee

/ok I haven't read all of the responses, but I know I suggested earlier that you block him and I see he is still emailing you...maybe I'm missing something here, but why don't you just block him?

I don't want to block him. I want to see how it evolves/devolves, how far he is going to take it. I can see what is coming this way, if anything is coming.

[sabbytabby]

Originally Posted by DontH8Me

NEVER indulge the jerks - he kept writing because you kept responding! It doesn't matter to him what the message is - in his mind, he's "got a live one!"

Google the name Stephen Charles Garcia if you want a taste of what guys like this are capable of.

I tried to be polite when turning down guys online - bad idea! It ALWAYS backfired, and all of them were VERY antagonistic.

Be careful - women have been targeted, stalked, and you know the rest all because some disgruntled misfit didn't like the way you tried to part ways.

I agree wholeheartedly, thank goodness you didn't go out with this guy, and figured out later what a kook he is...

[temptation001]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

I don't want to block him. I want to see how it evolves/devolves, how far he is going to take it. I can see what is coming this way, if anything is coming.

Why?

[virgode]

[SIZE=2][SIZE=2][LEFT]“The fact that cyberstalking does not involve physical contact may create the misperception that it
is more benign than physical stalking. This is not necessarily true. As the Internet becomes an ever
more integral part of our personal and professional lives, stalkers can take advantage of the ease of
communications as well as increased access to personal information. In addition, the ease of use
and non-confrontational, impersonal, and sometimes anonymous nature of Internet
communications may remove disincentives to cyberstalking. Put another way, whereas a potential
stalker may be unwilling or unable to confront a victim in person or on the telephone, he or she
may have little hesitation sending harassing or threatening electronic communications to a victim.
Finally, as with physical stalking, online harassment and threats may be a prelude to more serious
behavior, including physical violence.”[/LEFT]
(Cyberstalking: A New Challenge for Law Enforcement and Industry, 1999)
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[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by temptation001

Why?

Why do I want to see how far he will take it? Virgode already answered that for me above. I answered it before as well in that it is always better to know what they are up to. I can block him, but he won't know that I am blocking him. He's going to think I am ignoring him, like I am already. So, it isn't going to change what's going on in his mind or what he plans to do, if he plans to do anything.

Your curiosity is not uncommon. There are people who will think that I am either enjoying the drama, obsessing or I'm full of myself (what makes me so special that this person would want to come after me, right?). The problem with most people is that they project rational thinking onto an irrational person or action. We all look for some logical explanation; what did she do to **** him off? How much did she lead him on? The fact is that any situation like this can escalate to something worse for no reason at all. It is the nature of crazy.

The silence in between the actual act of stalking is just as terrifying. It literally alters your reality. So, I have learned the value of keeping tabs and staying one step ahead. He's not traumatizing me, I'm really not afraid that he will find me, but I am taking the crazy seriously. He's still writing, by the way. The emails are less in quantity, but he's still just as vulgar.

I had another guy who kept writing after I ignored him and he eventually stopped. About 6 months later, he wrote again greeting me with something really nasty in the form of a "How are you?". Something set him off, and it wasn't me. I saved the email, along with all the others, and I went about my day, like I do now. You just never know.

[Yzette]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

Why do I want to see how far he will take it? Virgode already answered that for me above. I answered it before as well in that it is always better to know what they are up to.

Keep your friends close and your enemies closer, as it were. Smart thinking.

[MontanaGuy]

So is Mr. Psycho still sending emails everyday or is it winding down? It seems likely that he'll find a new victim since he doesn't know your identity and I'll bet he has a history of doing this many times before he became fixated on you.

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by MontanaGuy

So is Mr. Psycho still sending emails everyday or is it winding down? It seems likely that he'll find a new victim since he doesn't know your identity and I'll bet he has a history of doing this many times before he became fixated on you.

Yesterday, it was only 3 emails. The "Good morning", the "Really, you don't have to ignore me, I'm harmless and I find you fascinating." and the final, "You keep treating me like this when I am trying to be nice to you, you stupid (c-word). I would love nothing more than for you to find a really nice murderer who will cut you in half from your p**** upwards."

Today, it's been the "Good Morning, sunshine." so far. We shall see. I'm sure he has had a lot of practice.

[thebobs]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

Yesterday, it was only 3 emails. The "Good morning", the "Really, you don't have to ignore me, I'm harmless and I find you fascinating." and the final, "You keep treating me like this when I am trying to be nice to you, you stupid (c-word). I would love nothing more than for you to find a really nice murderer who will cut you in half from your p**** upwards."

Today, it's been the "Good Morning, sunshine." so far. We shall see. I'm sure he has had a lot of practice.

Wow. Talk about psycho. I'm not sure of any legal standards, but I do believe you can report him for harassment.

[PassTheChocolate]

Originally Posted by thebobs

Wow. Talk about psycho. I'm not sure of any legal standards, but I do believe you can report him for harassment.

At this point, I'm pretty sure I can. But filing a report requires that I reveal my identity. He doesn't know my last name or anything that would really help him locate me, so I'm better off this way.