Question (girls, attractive, calling, personality)

[rlrl]

I just returned to work after serving on a criminal trial for jury duty. It was supposed to last for 3-4 days but ended up being 2 weeks

I notice that since I returned to work that female co-workers seem to be more noticing of me, calling me by my nickname, walking past my office saying my name. I also notice that since my return I am less socially phobic, feel better about myself and stay in others' office to talk more

I have been at my job for 19 years I am well-liked but many would probably say I am lacking in confidence(I am an avoidant personality disorder) tho I certainly have a level of responsibility that one would have to have SOME confidence in order to be semi- successful

Word had to get around because for me to be out from 2/16 to 3/2 would mean a helluva lot of work did not get done in my abcence. Just about everybody knew i was in a criminal trial

Is there something about being picked for a criminal trial (there were only 8 of us) that could be seen as impressive, or is it just that my time away from the office refreshed me and gave me a new perspective? Could it be that the girls and my employer saw that i was "chosen by someone else"(the court) and made me look more "desirable" and valued? I also may have been the first one who ever served in an actual trial (everyone i know was sent home because they weren't picked to be on a trial)

[malamute]

Maybe they came to appreciate you when you were gone because it was too much work for them or there are things you do that they missed.

[rlrl]

I'm a social worker and i was told the psychiatrist (who depends on me for various things) was lost without me!

[CESpeed]

That could very well be the case, and it sounds to me like you missed your office. You may be just experiencing a return to work honeymoon. But if you like the changes, keep doing what you are, it sounds like it's a nicer work environment. Congradulations. Enjoy.

[tongpa-nyi]

Originally Posted by CESpeed

You may be just experiencing a return to work honeymoon.

Good observation, well said.

Before reading your post, I was thinking along the lines that performing a civic duty might make a man more attractive because it demonstrates a willingness to participate in the community and that might be an unconscious indicator of his nurturing qualities. I know, that's a stretch. I probably over-thought the original question.

[rlrl]

however, more realistically i don't want to get hit with a $250 civil penalty for contempt and have it on my credit report, then have to get thrown back in the jury pool and have to serve again!!

[sierraAZ]

You have been involved in something unusual, somewhat exciting, and somewhat dangerous. Yes, that can spark interest.

[rlrl]

yes that's what was kind of on my mind, that it's exciting

And I have always kind of had the reputation of being booksmart but not really street/people smart(which is something that bothered me) at work

Since i was picked 8 out of 50 people would that kind of show that I am not just booksmart, that i have some kind of advanced understanding of the real world if i was chosen to serve on a criminal trial?

[rlrl]

rounds out another side of my image--no one certainly pictures me involved in criminal stuff so they probably chuckled to hear i was involved in a criminal case

too bad there wasn't a sequester--would be wild to hear i was holed up in some hotel

how would that work if we were sequestered and a juror takes medications? if we were sequestered right from court to a hotel how would i get my medications which were at home (blood pressure meds, metformin, i was tapering off paxil)? how would that work?

[PJSinger]

Originally Posted by rlrl

rounds out another side of my image--no one certainly pictures me involved in criminal stuff so they probably chuckled to hear i was involved in a criminal case

too bad there wasn't a sequester--would be wild to hear i was holed up in some hotel

how would that work if we were sequestered and a juror takes medications? if we were sequestered right from court to a hotel how would i get my medications which were at home (blood pressure meds, metformin, i was tapering off paxil)? how would that work?

I'm a paralegal with lots of trial experience. If a jury is going to be sequestered, they tell the jurors in advance, usually during the voir dire process (before the panel of jurors is selected).