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06-02-2007, 06:57 PM
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Location: VA
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Anyone no longer attracted to your spouse (physically)?
I see so many people who look just terrible that were quite attractive years ago. I notice that some of the beauties and hunks in High School are just plain ugly 30 years later. I wonder what their spouse thinks when they are in bed doing their business. I am sure many still picture them as they were 30 years ago, while others are closing their eyes and thinking they are with a Playboy Bunny. Others have so much love for their spouse that the physical side is no longer an issue. But I wonder?
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06-02-2007, 07:09 PM
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May love guide your way
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Join Date: May 2007
Location: Northern california
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My husband is hot. He will always be a hunk to me.
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06-02-2007, 07:17 PM
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I left my heart in Sacto
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Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: it's 66 degrees in Seattle in July?? NO THANK YOU
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I've known my husband for 20 years - he was a hottie then - and he's a hottie now
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06-02-2007, 10:55 PM
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Ballroom Diva
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"Ho Ho Ho!"
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06-02-2007, 11:36 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2006
Location: Las Vegas
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes
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06-03-2007, 12:05 AM
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Well see the thing is...
I believe that physical attraction in a marriage over time is not merely influenced by how your partner looks...it's more so influenced by the emotional bond that you have. It's a combination. You start to see the person you love in a very 3 dimensional way to where attraction becomes quite rich and layered.
So if someone (in most cases) is utterly and completely not attracted to their partner anymore physically (in a marriage), then I'd wonder if there was also a lack of emotional attraction as well.
I think when people are out of love and passion is lacking, then it causes them to look at their partner in a more objective/scientific view.
Last edited by AsymptoticFaery; 06-03-2007 at 12:18 AM..
Reason: elaboration
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06-03-2007, 12:19 AM
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I agree with AsymptoticFaery on every level - my connection with my lover is intense and I am deeply attracted physically, but I truly beleive that she will always be the hottest woman alive because of our connection - no matter what age does to either of us, the strength of our connection will always bring us closer and closer, physically as well as emptionally.
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06-03-2007, 03:55 AM
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V=S x 1.466
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Kansas City Metro area
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06-03-2007, 05:21 AM
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Formerly known as...........
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Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: FL
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It's posts like these that many people want to answer, but will not, out of...fear. This is why I asked if we could have an "anyonomous" forum!
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06-05-2007, 11:34 AM
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Temporarily good natured
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Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Lots of sun and palm trees with occasional hurricane :)
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Quote:
Originally Posted by AsymptoticFaery
Well see the thing is...
I believe that physical attraction in a marriage over time is not merely influenced by how your partner looks...it's more so influenced by the emotional bond that you have. It's a combination. You start to see the person you love in a very 3 dimensional way to where attraction becomes quite rich and layered.
So if someone (in most cases) is utterly and completely not attracted to their partner anymore physically (in a marriage), then I'd wonder if there was also a lack of emotional attraction as well.
I think when people are out of love and passion is lacking, then it causes them to look at their partner in a more objective/scientific view.
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I agree with you. There has to be that special bond/emotional "need" and intellectual understanding/acceptance and the physical comes naturally. The physical's novelty wears off quickly and moreso over time and aging process so the emotional has to be the glue that keeps you going and interested in all respects.
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