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Old 03-06-2010, 08:29 PM
 
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Alright.... So I just broke up with my gf a couple weeks ago and was faithful oh her the whole 2+ years we were together. I live in the middle of a major city and have been a member at an insanely busy Bally for about three years now. Most of the PTs there are total douches and I have always felt a rift them - mostly the standard testosterone driven gym posturing, which is no big deal to me. However, there is this one extremely attractive PT Staff that I've been exchanging eye contact with for the entire THREE YEARS- you name it, walking past each other, through multiple mirrors, definitely not a figment of my imagination. This girl is extremely hot, knows it and loves the attention. Both of us are caucasian and two of the few whiteys in this gym. I roll at a lean 6' 225 and have always gotten alot of attention from women. I know she is friends with the other PTs there and probably has heard that they don't like me, or they think I'm an a-hole.

Soo, the other day, we walked right past each other and she looked at my chest/shoulder region (def checking me out). I saw her doing some lat pulldowns about 15 minutes later and decided it was time to end the madness. I asked her if I could work in. She had earphones in her ears, pulled them out and said it was cool. She was also curling dbs so I asked her if it was back and bis day. She again pulls her earphones and mumbles "sorta" and puts them back in with no intention of talking to me. So Im thinking "wtf, this girl is has been looking at me like that for 3 years. I talk to her for the first time and THAT is the response I get."

I put it on the back burner and planned on trying it again in the near future. Over the next couple weeks, she started looking at me probably 2x as much as she was before. I started to get the sense she regretted not being friendlier before and wanted me to try it again. She showed up with her arm in a sling a few days ago and I had a good opportunity to approach her, so I did. She was extremely outgoing and friendly - totally the opposite of how she was before. We talked about her injury and how it was impacting her PTing, etc. I then said "you've been her a long time eh?" She said "yeah, three and half years." After this I FROZE like a virgin 15 year old and couldn't think of anything to say. So, I walked away like a beeyotch at which point I heard her mumble something under her breath intended to challenge my manhood, like some women do when they feel rejected. To make matters worse, we continued to work out in the same area of the gym and I never restarted the conversation.

So, I feel like a total ***** about this whole thing am plotting my next move. Like I said, this girl knows shes hot and I def got the feeling she felt rejected - like "I gave you an opportunity to talk and you fd up". In reality it was just me having not approached a girl like that in a loong time and freezing up. I totally got the vibe she felt she did something I didnt like. Also interesting, when I first asked about her arm she said she broke her wrist. I acted surprised bc it was only in splint then she corrected herself saying it was a sprain.


Should I just approach her next week and ask how her arm is doing and gauge her response? Im expecting the distant and cold tone from her. I already have gotten some smirks from her colleagues like she told them about it. Would it be a bad move to apologize for abruptly walking away like that and what excuse could I have for doing that? I do feel slightly less bad about it cus of how she acted the first time I tried to talk to her, but damn this girl is fine and Ive been wanting her for a long time.
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Old 03-06-2010, 09:04 PM
 
Location: DFW - Coppell / Las Colinas
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I read a lot of over analyzing in your post. Yes, just be a nice guy and start a friendly conversation. Be humble, but tell her you'd like to have lunch soon and let her know there is an attraction on your end.

Life is short, make a move.
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Old 03-06-2010, 09:09 PM
 
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Talking to someone in the middle of their workout? Do you not know anything? That's a cardinal sin.
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Old 03-06-2010, 09:09 PM
 
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Sorry but you sound like a girl.

All these thoughts and feelings flying around and around.

It's making my head spin.

Just be nice and tell her you froze. It only happens when you are talking to extremely hot women...which doesn't happen often.
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Old 03-06-2010, 09:11 PM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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What does the two of you being caucasian have to do with anything? Are you a racist? Are you saying that the only reason she's the only woman you would appriach to date is because she's white? Do you think you're too good to date a woman who isn't white?

What's your story?
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Old 03-06-2010, 09:14 PM
 
Location: SXSW
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What does the two of you being caucasian have to do with anything? Are you a racist? Are you saying that the only reason she's the only woman you would appriach to date is because she's white? Do you think you're too good to date a woman who isn't white?

What's your story?
Wow. way to blow that wayy out of proportion! How is he a racist? This is realllllyyy stretching it.
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Old 03-06-2010, 09:14 PM
 
Location: Pa
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I read a lot of over analyzing in your post. Yes, just be a nice guy and start a friendly conversation. Be humble, but tell her you'd like to have lunch soon and let her know there is an attraction on your end.

Life is short, make a move.
Grabbing Rakin's leg....oh...OH...you meant him...silly me.
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Old 03-06-2010, 09:15 PM
 
Location: SWUS
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What does the two of you being caucasian have to do with anything? Are you a racist? Are you saying that the only reason she's the only woman you would appriach to date is because she's white? Do you think you're too good to date a woman who isn't white?

What's your story?
Jeez, way to blow a minor detail out of proportion.

I imagine he didn't think anything of adding that, like a lot of people who slip in random things during conversation.
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Old 03-06-2010, 09:16 PM
 
Location: SXSW
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cloot by the way, you need to man up and ask her out. It's obvious she likes you. I'm saying this as a girl who gets frustrated when guys dont pick up the most BLATANT signals. TALK TO HER ALREADY.
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Old 03-06-2010, 09:17 PM
 
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What does the two of you being caucasian have to do with anything? Are you a racist? Are you saying that the only reason she's the only woman you would appriach to date is because she's white? Do you think you're too good to date a woman who isn't white?

What's your story?
LOL but if he had pointed out they were the only 2 AA's, that's ok, because their ancestors had to deal with racism.
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