How Long Would You Wait??

[thatsong64]

A guy will ALWAYS ask you out if he wants to go out with you bad enough.

If he's too shy, he wouldn't even be speaking to you. If he's speaking to you, he's outgoing enough to ask you out. If he hasn't...

[CESpeed]

Originally Posted by AllAboutEve

There is a certain someone that I'm interested in, and I thought he was interested in me too, but he has yet to ask me out. Now, I consider myself a patient person, but this guy is driving me crazy! We've been flirting back and forth on FaceBook and I'm about ready to call it a day. Its been about 3-4 months of this back and forth mumbo jumbo and I'm thinking he's just a) very shy b) a big flirt or c) in a relationship. Either way I feel like I'm wasting my time thinking about him.

So, my question is, how long would you wait for someone to ask you out? Or, how long have you waited? And if you're a guy, what is the longest time it took you to work up the nerve to ask a girl on a date?

You've already waited too long. If he hasn't asked by now, he isn't going to.

[AllAboutEve]

Originally Posted by Coolhand68

Ok, Ok, I'll go out with you already!!! Geez, just quit the nagging! j/k

Lol, how'd you know it was you ?

[Ep-]

this dood doesnt want to ask you out

[AllAboutEve]

Originally Posted by LinaJo76

If it's been going on this long, then it needs to end. He's obviously wasting your time and such. He's most likely in a relationship (most people lie about that every time they get on a dating site or Facebook). I rather not meet anyone online anyway (I did that a few times and just got disappointed every time, like last year was the last time I ever do that). It's not good. People are different online than they are in person. You never know.

I've known him since high school, so he's not someone I just met.


And I've decided to leave the door open (like someone else suggested) but not wait. I want to know that he really likes me, and that he really wants to make the effort to be with me. If I asked him out, I would always doubt if he really liked me or not. I have no problem with being assertive, but I like the guy to do the initial asking.

But I figure I can get to know him better, and if it leads to something more, it does. If not, we can be friends and I'll be dating other people.

[he's so hott]

Originally Posted by AllAboutEve

I've known him since high school, so he's not someone I just met.


And I've decided to leave the door open (like someone else suggested) but not wait. I want to know that he really likes me, and that he really wants to make the effort to be with me. If I asked him out, I would always doubt if he really liked me or not. I have no problem with being assertive, but I like the guy to do the initial asking.

But I figure I can get to know him better, and if it leads to something more, it does. If not, we can be friends and I'll be dating other people.

hehe. No knock on you, but the female mind still confuses me even though I thought I had figured it out.

He may really like you, but he can't read minds and you can't read minds so someone has to ask out the other person. Just b/c he asks you out doesn't mean that he really wants to make an effort with you. It could mean a number of things.

As with most women, you're 10 miles ahead of this gentleman in your thoughts about the relationship. That is ok, but this guy has to be on the same page as you.

[Ep-]

Originally Posted by AllAboutEve

I've known him since high school, so he's not someone I just met.


And I've decided to leave the door open (like someone else suggested) but not wait. I want to know that he really likes me, and that he really wants to make the effort to be with me. If I asked him out, I would always doubt if he really liked me or not. I have no problem with being assertive, but I like the guy to do the initial asking.

But I figure I can get to know him better, and if it leads to something more, it does. If not, we can be friends and I'll be dating other people.

why would he say yes if he didnt like you? im never gonna feel obligated to go out with someone regardless of who they are, how longer ive known them, etc. id just no instead.

[AllAboutEve]

Originally Posted by he's so hott

hehe. No knock on you, but the female mind still confuses me even though I thought I had figured it out.

He may really like you, but he can't read minds and you can't read minds so someone has to ask out the other person. Just b/c he asks you out doesn't mean that he really wants to make an effort with you. It could mean a number of things.

As with most women, you're 10 miles ahead of this gentleman in your thoughts about the relationship. That is ok, but this guy has to be on the same page as you.

Where do I begin to explain the female mind hmmmmmm. Its not that I'm already planning our wedding before we've had the first date, its just that I want to be sure that he is actually interested in me. Plus I don't want to come across as too eager or desperate. Yes, fine, maybe I'm making it more complicated than it needs to be, but I just don't to put myself willingly in a position to look like an idiot.

EP- why would he say yes if he didnt like you? im never gonna feel obligated to go out with someone regardless of who they are, how longer ive known them, etc. id just no instead.

Some men might say yes if they're bored, or feel lukewarm about the person. Women do it, so I'm sure some men do it as well. Bottom line - I'll be open to it if he does ever ask me out. If not, then he'll remain an FB crush.

[thatsong64]

Originally Posted by he's so hott

hehe. No knock on you, but the female mind still confuses me...As with most women, you're 10 miles ahead of this gentleman in your thoughts about the relationship. That is ok, but this guy has to be on the same page as you.

yeah, women think more about relationships (or potential relationships) than men do but I don't think she's miles ahead of the guy here.

Originally Posted by AllAboutEve

its just that I want to be sure that he is actually interested in me. Plus I don't want to come across as too eager or desperate.

Sounds totally normal to me. Guess it must be because I'm a woman.

Originally Posted by AllAboutEve

Some men might say yes if they're bored, or feel lukewarm about the person.

True.

[SVTLightning]

Why don't you just say something that gives him more of a clue especially since he knows you are dating other people??

you to him:

"I'm tired of dating these losers, when are you going to ask me out and change my luck?"

You aren't asking him out, but you are letting him know you would say yes if asked!