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I wouldn't leave her. Why? Since you enjoy your time with her, there's no point of leaving her now; however, you do need to start seeing other women. It's not cheating - she cannot ask you to be committed to her while she's not committed to you. Just being fair.
Another question is if she cuts her tie and wants to marry, do you want to marry her? My answer is No. First of all, there's hardly any good result from marriage, and second of all, you know you would be marrying someone that you cannot trust.
Woman here, and one who isn't judgmental about affairs...
However, she's got the world by the tail in this situation! There is absolutely no incentive for her to change anything! She's got a husband to provide stability, two children, a home, and YOU to tickle her fancy! And, apparently, this is the way she likes it because she's had lovers before you.
She's undoubtedly pleased with the status quo -- if you're not and you want more, then you need to get out of it because she's not going to jeopardize anything to be with you. Her kids aren't little, her husband can't be all that bad if she's able to meet you regularly and even visit with your mum and family. She may fancy herself as Lady Chatterley but the truth is something else.
I appreciate all your replies, you all talk a lot of common sense.
But it's like saying to your best mate "Sorry i don't think you'll be my friend in 5 years time so i'm saying now, i don't want to see you anymore, as from tomorrow" !!
She rings me at every opportunity during the day and we can talk for HOURS when we are out together.
I want to believe in the quote "True love never runs smooth"
I know that you love her and she probably loves you in her own way but to some women the family is always nbr one. The children love her and her husband. Those people are "home" to them. I don't think she will leave him no matter how much she loves you OR how great your relationship is. He is the father of her children. He loves them and he loves her. She still has sex with him which proves all has not died. No matter that she tells you it is so she can see you. It is because she still likes it with him and she is bound to him through her children. You will never be with her because she is not going to break up her family.
Watch The Bridges Of Madison County for a little example.
Sorry but I'm pretty sure it's never going to happen.
My family is nbr 1 too..
Trouble is, and please don't take this as a brag, i have always got the women i have gone after in the past !
This woman is a challenge and, i've got to admit, i'm loving it !!!
I would just love to spend lots of time with her 24/7, i just know we would hit it off big style
If you love the way things are now then just proceed, but if you want a permanent relationship, someone to grow old with, and a happily ever after, then you might want to look elsewhere. I've seen this scenario before and you are going to get hurt in the long run. Sorry, but that's how this lady sees it.
Thanks for all your advice everyone, surprised "no one" really had any support for her in the situation she is in.
What kind of support do you think we should give her? She is married and has had multiple affairs...she's ruining her family and you're helping her.
I wonder why her husband is jealous and suspicious? He has every right to be!
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