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Old 03-12-2010, 12:45 PM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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Leftovers...it's better than being sloppy seconds.

I think singles who have their act together with a solid career, financially secure, well traveled, and educated often get that moreso than someone who hasn't exactly set the world on fire. You're a great catch in every way, so the problem must be something deep beneath the surface or you are considered too picky.
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Old 03-12-2010, 01:25 PM
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Yep, leftovers are great.
Depends on how old the "leftover" is. The spiciness of my marinara sauce improves overnight, but a 48 year old single man still living with his mom is like a two week old slice of lemon meringue pie with purple fuzz on it.
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Old 03-12-2010, 01:33 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Leftovers...it's better than being sloppy seconds.

I think singles who have their act together with a solid career, financially secure, well traveled, and educated often get that moreso than someone who hasn't exactly set the world on fire. You're a great catch in every way, so the problem must be something deep beneath the surface or you are considered too picky.
Interestingly enough, I have no shortage of "retired-with-big bucks" professional types in their late 60s, early 70s contacting me on the dating sites. Maybe I should give the "sugar daddy" bit a go, even though that goes against my sensibilities. At least I could have a helluva good time, LOL.

And I could just hear the all-male chorus -- "See! Women don't want us average nice guys! They are just after money!" That's not even remotely true in my case but what should one do if the "average nice guys" seem to want rudderless floozies?!

The irony is that if I did tie up with some rich guy 25 years older than myself, the other men would probably be trying to woo me then.
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Old 03-12-2010, 01:34 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Yes, but if it doesn't have "science experiment" written all over it, I'll go ahead and eat it. I've sometimes regretted it later, but it didn't keep me from not letting it go to waste.
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Old 03-12-2010, 01:37 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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Interestingly enough, I have no shortage of "retired-with-big bucks" professional types in their late 60s, early 70s contacting me on the dating sites. Maybe I should give the "sugar daddy" bit a go, even though that goes against my sensibilities. At least I could have a helluva good time, LOL.

And I could just hear the all-male chorus -- "See! Women don't want us average nice guys! They are just after money!" That's not even remotely true in my case but what should one do if the "average nice guys" seem to want rudderless floozies?!

The irony is that if I did tie up with some rich guy 25 years older than myself, the other men would probably be trying to woo me then.
Because the nice guys figure..."If you don't NEED us, then why would you WANT us?" You have your life together and are quite content without us, why interfere in your happiness?
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Old 03-12-2010, 01:47 PM
 
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A couple things I learned in the school of hard knocks.

1. You are who you think you are, not what other people think you are. If you believe you are a leftover, then that is what you will be. I don't sit around let other people define me cause I didn't get married in my 20's. People try, but I ignore it. You wouldn't believe the nasty things people say to me cause I didn't get married at 25 and I'm not going to repeat any of it here.

2. Don't cast judgment on other people until you have the whole story. No question there are some single people that are single for a very good reason. But there are other people with some rational story of how they got from point A to point B.
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Old 03-12-2010, 01:50 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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There are things hidden from you, but known to other people. Hidden from others but known to you. Known both to you and to other people, and things hidden from you and from other people.

You can come across a certain way, and not even realize it.
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Old 03-12-2010, 02:17 PM
 
Location: Texas
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Because the nice guys figure..."If you don't NEED us, then why would you WANT us?" You have your life together and are quite content without us, why interfere in your happiness?
But the whole point of GOOD relationships does not come out of neediness -- it's to SHARE your talents, happiness, and life with another person and, in the process, become part of a greater whole.

The reason so many relationships fail is that the balance of power isn't equal -- it's one-sided. And one or both parties eventually get weary of that.
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Old 03-12-2010, 02:33 PM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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My talents get expressed in my work.
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Old 03-12-2010, 02:40 PM
 
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Because the nice guys figure..."If you don't NEED us, then why would you WANT us?" You have your life together and are quite content without us, why interfere in your happiness?
Need is not a good foundation for a relationship. I would think a man would be flattered to know a woman wanted him. That way you know for sure it's about your wonderfulness and the pleasure of your company, and not her debt, inability to fix things around the house, or, worst of all, fear of being alone.
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