Need voice of reason (marry, man, cheated, attracted)

[cdubs3201]

Originally Posted by max's mama

Exactly.
Maybe she just said "no", because she didn't want to inconvenience you, but I bet you she would have appreciated not walking home at this time of the night.

Ok, so you based on what everyone is saying, including yourself, because I didn't choose to invade her privacy on only the 3rd time I've met her, and that I didn't walk her home or insist on getting her a cab, that I've blown my chance, no way possible in the entire universe she'll ever go out with me again?

I just find it hard to believe that women will stay with a man who physically beats the crap out of them because of their interest level, yet because I didn't force myself on her on the 3rd date I blew my chance?

I just don't buy it. I think you're all failing to recognize this possibility: maybe she just wasn't that interested in the first place. That's what I feel the case is, sorry, but I've done nothing wrong to this girl and been nothing but as respectful as I could be. If nothing comes of this, it's on her.

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Originally Posted by cdubs3201

No, you just bring nothing to the discussion except to disagree with people, tell them they screwed up and can't fix it, and offer nothing else. Your negativity isn't desired. If you don't have anything constructive to offer, then just leave your comments to yourself. Your responses are troll-like.

most of the advice here is in line with what i've said. i originally told you to just kiss her on your next date. nothing negative about that. she doesnt want to see you again though so hopefully you dont wait forever next time. nothing else you can do at this point.

oh well, the girl is wrong of course...

[max's mama]

Originally Posted by cdubs3201

Ok, so you based on what everyone is saying, including yourself, because I didn't choose to invade her privacy on only the 3rd time I've met her, and that I didn't walk her home or insist on getting her a cab, that I've blown my chance, no way possible in the entire universe she'll ever go out with me again?

I just find it hard to believe that women will stay with a man who physically beats the crap out of them because of their interest level, yet because I didn't force myself on her on the 3rd date I blew my chance?

I just don't buy it. I think you're all failing to recognize this possibility: maybe she just wasn't that interested in the first place. That's what I feel the case is, sorry, but I've done nothing wrong to this girl and been nothing but as respectful as I could be. If nothing comes of this, it's on her.

I didn't say that you blew your chances anywhere on the thread. I just said that it was a wrong move on your part and it could be a turn-off. Just saying. Insisting on getting a cab for her is not an invasion of privacy, it is showing that you care about her safety and willing to take matters into your hands.
I don't know whether or not she is interested to tell you the truth. From your posts, I just can't tell...but you are certainly not trying to find out hard enough.

What does this have to do with women staying in abusive relationships is beyond me.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by cdubs3201

Ok, so you based on what everyone is saying, including yourself, because I didn't choose to invade her privacy on only the 3rd time I've met her, and that I didn't walk her home or insist on getting her a cab, that I've blown my chance, no way possible in the entire universe she'll ever go out with me again?

Well, if you need more yay's, I can certainly give you a hand! Men are telling you the same thing. If you do something that doesn't bring results, you change the approach - just a thought! Arguing with us isn't gonna bring you a girl whether you feel you won the argument or not.

Btw, what you call "invasion of privacy" other people call attraction and passion. Unless you find somebody who looks at it the same way you do, you're out of luck.

[robee70]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Btw, what you call "invasion of privacy" other people call attraction and passion. Unless you find somebody who looks at it the same way you do, you're out of luck.

Didn't we just have a thread not too long ago saying that men flirting with women was "disrespectful". LMAO

Oh, what's the world coming to ?

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by robee70

Didn't we just have a thread not too long ago saying that men flirting with women was "disrespectful". LMAO

Oh, what's the world coming to ?

That's what I wanna know, too! I still like to think that men in my generation and older cannot possibly be THAT clueless!

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i hear women also dont enjoy sex

[robee70]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

That's what I wanna know, too! I still like to think that men in my generation and older cannot possibly be THAT clueless!

I'd like to think that too, but most of these threads are from the younger generation. So it doesn't look like our future is too promising.

[cdubs3201]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

Well, if you need more yay's, I can certainly give you a hand! Men are telling you the same thing. If you do something that doesn't bring results, you change the approach - just a thought! Arguing with us isn't gonna bring you a girl whether you feel you won the argument or not.

Btw, what you call "invasion of privacy" other people call attraction and passion. Unless you find somebody who looks at it the same way you do, you're out of luck.

Sure, but to a bible thumper, one would guess she'd call it invasion. I've just been playing it by ear and going with what felt right, and it didn't feel right to move in on her on only the 3rd date. Other girls, sure, but this girl is shy and conservative, and she looked uncomfortable.

[robee70]

Originally Posted by cdubs3201

Sure, but to a bible thumper, one would guess she'd call it invasion. I've just been playing it by ear and going with what felt right, and it didn't feel right to move in on her on only the 3rd date. Other girls, sure, but this girl is shy and conservative, and she looked uncomfortable.

You let a shy and conservative bible-thumping girl walk 12 blocks home alone at night, after hanging out with you? What happened to common sense & courtesy?