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My mother had "the talk" with me. I was too embarrassed to say anything to my dad.
I'm not anybody's Mom, but I wish all you moms out there one heck of a Mother's Day today (or yesterday, I had a great Mother's Day dinner with my parents and my brothers. We even played cards (five card pick up) from 7:00 p.m. til 11:00 p.m. (enough cards, you think? ). We had a GREAT time!!!
And if you're not a Mom, I hope your mom is around today, and if not, I hope you call someone who seems to be a mother to you!
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Happy Mom's Day. My mom is going to be upset with me because I planned a trip out of state without realizing it was this weekend. Let the guilt trip begin!
I didn't mean to scare you!! But yeah...I have always dreaded the whole sexual maturity thing. Even so, I always have felt it was best to try and discuss everything, EVERYTHING, with him. I don't think there is any ground that we have not covered, in years past. And doing so, has made it somewhat less uncomfortable when these "events" take place...and they always will, for every boy (and girl). But how you deal with them will always affect your relationship, so I try to be...not a friend, but a parent that first and foremost, loves him and second, is a wealth of experience and information.
He's still asleep...his eye was really hurting last night. He fell asleep on the sofa and I covered him with a blanket and kissed his forehead. He is still my baby, and always will be...at least, that is what is in my heart.
Happy Mother's Day Chessie! It sounds like you have a very mature son, and It's wonderful that you can have these kinds of talks with him. I guess 17 is better than 14
It occurred to me while reading your posts that my ex-fiance's son is 17 and will be 18 in September. When I first met him, he was only 12 and it blows my mind that he's now old enough technically to be a father himself. yikes - I hope my ex has had a discussion or two with his kids like you have with yours. He has such a bright future and getting some girl pregnant would be a disaster.
I sure am glad my parents never discussed this stuff with me though
Most luck I had at a casino is when I lost my wallet with everything in it including my room key on the floor of Caesar's Palace in Las Vegas and got it back with everything it in. Someone vacuming found it.
That maid gets a tip!
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I hear ya. That's why I refuse to play anything other than penny machines. I cannot fathom throwing a bunch of money into a machine; though I have thrown some in from time to time I limit myself to a certain amount and when it's gone, it's gone!
It floors me when I hear people talking about spending their entire paychecks on gambling. I have a family member who routinely uses her bill-paying money to gamble, in the hopes she'll make more (usually not the case). Today, I was sitting near a couple...probably in their 60s or so...who were getting so ANGRY because they weren't winning. I'm talking slamming the buttons and cussing like crazy. Why? This is supposed to be entertainment. If you're going to get mad for spending the money, maybe you oughta stay away from the casinos, right?
My car is in the shop, and so I'm driving my son's (technically MINE ) car today while running around town with my BF. I was trying to get the owners manual out of the glovebox to set the clock, and lo and behold...I find a box of....yep....CONDOMS!! My BF is oh so trying to not laugh and not make jokes....(he has no kids so has no friggin' clue how I feel ), but I'm visibly upset and just a million things are going through my head.
Now, my son is a smart kid, I mean, he's really school smart, but sometimes not the most generous resource of common sense. I've had many talks with him about this subject, and I really had hoped he would wait until he was 18, but he's only 6 months away from that so I suppose I shouldn't be surprised. I was more upset at the fact that the young lady has parents that would hunt him down and shoot him dead if they had a clue what was going on. She wears an abstinence ring, and though I doubted she would actually make it until marriage, I surely thought she'd make it out of high school. Her mom is a very good friend of mine (I work with her) so this would be way beyond awkward if she were to find out. She'd be devastated, and God only knows what she would do to her daughter. Suffice to say the relationship would be forbidden to continue. (Like that would work...but she's a very protective mom.)
Anyway...my BF was convinced I was totally spun up (I wasn't) and he figured I was just completely devastated ( I'm a mom, but I'm no idiot.) I think, no, I KNOW he was getting some enjoyment out the whole thing...but hey, he's a dude, so...I ignored him. So BF went home, and I picked son up at his dad's, and go figure, I ended up having to take him to the ER for an eye injury (he got sawdust in his eyes at his dad's) and I just couldn't talk to him while he was in such pain - I felt too bad for him.
After we got home, and he felt a little better, I went into his room, sat him down, and said my piece. He couldn't see as he had his eyes closed because of the pain, so he was pretty much stuck with me. He was taken aback, had completely forgotten he had the condoms in the car, but he sat there and listened to me. He was somewhat uncomfortable, I know, but he also knows that there is nothing I can't or won't talk to him about...and I reminded him of that. He laughed, and said "yeah, I know, but there are some things that I would rather NOT talk about". "Tough" I said back. He said..."I wish I could SEE you mom...see your face - this is just weird with my eyes closed". I told him that if her parents found out, he could kiss it all goodbye, and also that of course there is NOTHING that is 100% safe as far as birth control. I told him I was NOT raising any more babies, and I doubt he'd be able to attend much college while working to provide for a child. He was pretty somber at that...but I don't know how much of that sticks, when you are a guy that age.
Oh well....I told him he better think long and hard about this, and that he'd better be very very careful, and wrap it up...TWICE. He grinned and shook his head at me. We do have a close relationship, and I knew this day was coming...I guess I'm glad it's over. But it still tugs at my heart.
You're taking it well, Chessie. And it's great that you tell him there's nothing he can't come to you with. (Haha, and I can see how it would have been weird not to be able to see you during this talk. )
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Thanks! How appropriate that this happened the day before Mother's Day.
Happy Mother's Day to you as well!
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Happy Mom's Day. My mom is going to be upset with me because I planned a trip out of state without realizing it was this weekend. Let the guilt trip begin!
Happy Mother's Day to all of you! (I'm not one.) We had breakfast at the casino before we left for home. They were giving out red roses to all the moms. That was nice.
On the way home, our "new" car (the used one my dad gave us) started acting goofy and running "weird," and the "service engine" light came on. This was on the freeway, of course. After all the cursing stopped, Chow turned it off and started it again and it was fine and got us all home. So we have to get that checked out now. But we're so grateful it got us HOME. We were still quite a ways out at that point. And we were exhausted from partying late last night with my family.
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My car is in the shop, and so I'm driving my son's (technically MINE ) car today while running around town with my BF. I was trying to get the owners manual out of the glovebox to set the clock, and lo and behold...I find a box of....yep....CONDOMS!! My BF is oh so trying to not laugh and not make jokes....(he has no kids so has no friggin' clue how I feel ), but I'm visibly upset and just a million things are going through my head.
Now, my son is a smart kid, I mean, he's really school smart, but sometimes not the most generous resource of common sense. I've had many talks with him about this subject, and I really had hoped he would wait until he was 18, but he's only 6 months away from that so I suppose I shouldn't be surprised. I was more upset at the fact that the young lady has parents that would hunt him down and shoot him dead if they had a clue what was going on. She wears an abstinence ring, and though I doubted she would actually make it until marriage, I surely thought she'd make it out of high school. Her mom is a very good friend of mine (I work with her) so this would be way beyond awkward if she were to find out. She'd be devastated, and God only knows what she would do to her daughter. Suffice to say the relationship would be forbidden to continue. (Like that would work...but she's a very protective mom.)
Anyway...my BF was convinced I was totally spun up (I wasn't) and he figured I was just completely devastated ( I'm a mom, but I'm no idiot.) I think, no, I KNOW he was getting some enjoyment out the whole thing...but hey, he's a dude, so...I ignored him. So BF went home, and I picked son up at his dad's, and go figure, I ended up having to take him to the ER for an eye injury (he got sawdust in his eyes at his dad's) and I just couldn't talk to him while he was in such pain - I felt too bad for him.
After we got home, and he felt a little better, I went into his room, sat him down, and said my piece. He couldn't see as he had his eyes closed because of the pain, so he was pretty much stuck with me. He was taken aback, had completely forgotten he had the condoms in the car, but he sat there and listened to me. He was somewhat uncomfortable, I know, but he also knows that there is nothing I can't or won't talk to him about...and I reminded him of that. He laughed, and said "yeah, I know, but there are some things that I would rather NOT talk about". "Tough" I said back. He said..."I wish I could SEE you mom...see your face - this is just weird with my eyes closed". I told him that if her parents found out, he could kiss it all goodbye, and also that of course there is NOTHING that is 100% safe as far as birth control. I told him I was NOT raising any more babies, and I doubt he'd be able to attend much college while working to provide for a child. He was pretty somber at that...but I don't know how much of that sticks, when you are a guy that age.
Oh well....I told him he better think long and hard about this, and that he'd better be very very careful, and wrap it up...TWICE. He grinned and shook his head at me. We do have a close relationship, and I knew this day was coming...I guess I'm glad it's over. But it still tugs at my heart.
Day late but not a dollar short here - Chessie, it sounds like you "done good" by your son. Just having the kind of relationship that you have maintained with him over the years so that you COULD have that talk is wonderful. You done good.
I remember when I discovered that my son was at that stage. My husband assured me HE was going to have another chat with our son. I wish I had had the talk with him instead, although I absolutely adore my grandson - who now is 15. And my son did go on to finish college while working full time and supporting his new family.
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). We had a GREAT time!!!
But yeah...I have always dreaded the whole sexual maturity thing. 
Even so, I always have felt it was best to try and discuss everything, EVERYTHING, with him. I don't think there is any ground that we have not covered, in years past. And doing so, has made it somewhat less uncomfortable when these "events" take place...and they always will, for every boy (and girl). But how you deal with them will always affect your relationship, so I try to be...not a friend, but a parent that first and foremost, loves him and second, is a wealth of experience and information. 
) car today while running around town with my BF. I was trying to get the owners manual out of the glovebox to set the clock, and lo and behold...I find a box of....yep....CONDOMS!! 
